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friend using me for wifi.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 07:38

my friend recently popped in for a visit and asked if she could hook up to my wifi as she had been cut off due to not paying her bill and she really needed to do something online. No problem i said. not she has started "visiting" me everyday sometimes twice a day and just sitting on her phone hookdd up to my wifi doin whatever she is doing. I cant help but feel used as she hardly speaks during these visits just sits doing her online business. I dont want to be a bitch and confront her about it but at the same time i dont want to get used as a free wifi provider. Last night i swiched my modem off when i saw her arrive. seconds into her visit she asks what has happened and if my wifi password had changed i acted as if i dont know how to work it when her 11 year old pops up wih oh its been turned off then promptly turned it on and hooked on to check her facebook. It is really starting to annoy the life out me. suggestion what to do would be great TIA. xx

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GoodbyeSummer · 13/09/2018 09:28

Her child switched it back on again and you didn't say anything?! Seriously?
Come on op, get some courage and tell her to bugger off!

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 13:46

sorry av not replyd been really busy at work today. yeah to answer a few questions she literally just pops in for a random excuse.. for example just popping by to see if u need anything from the shops then sits on my sofa and sticks her head in her phone not even answering questions from me.

Judt to clarify i work from home and use my wifi for work purposes so she knows i am in most days and that my wifi is on.

The questions about her child... She had came in and i had turned it off immediately asked what was up with my wifi and i acted dafy like i didnt understand how to work the box. I turned my back for a minute to go make coffee for us and when i came back her daughter had turned it on and said it was switched off thats what waz wtong i was Shock didnt know what to say.

i am not good with confronting anyone and can be a bit if a doormat i know i need to toughen up.

how do i change my password??? i am with BT.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 13:47

sorry for typos in my last post.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 13:53

My Husband has just told me she came to the door when i was at the shops on monday and asked if she could pop in and use bathroom. Then proceeded to sit in the bathroom checkin her FB ect.. then came diwn to muy livingroom and sat on her phone till my husband asked her what she was wanting and she said she had popped in to see if i needed the shops. He told her i wasnt home and he was leaving to go to work. she said she was waiting on a whattsapp call from her boyfriend and had no data on her phone. my DH told her politely to leave as he was leaving for work. only then did she leave and sat in her car on a whattsapp call to her boyfriend.

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HappyEverIftar · 13/09/2018 14:00

Please change your password, google is your friend here.

Then either don't answer the door for a bit, or don't let her in. It's your house you're not obliged to let her, or anyone in if you don't want to.

Hissy · 13/09/2018 14:02

FFS OP - can you swim?

You are so WET! Sort it out! Change the password and tell her that it's gone on too long and she is officially taking the piss.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 13/09/2018 14:08

Meet her at the door and say you're no friend and I'm not an Internet cafe

Witchofzog · 13/09/2018 14:09

Omg she is taking the piss and she knows it too. Next time she asks if you want anything from the shops give her a huge shopping list. Put tampons on there too. Tell her you have run out and need them urgently then shove her out the door. That will teach the cheeky fucker

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 14:48

Hissy i know i need to toughen up i am very soft and have no idea why i am like that. This "friend" has previous for being like this. I need to be more assertive with people i am just not good at any confrontation. x

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 14:49

i am going on to see how i change my password right now. x

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TheViceOfReason · 13/09/2018 14:52

Change your password for one.

If she asks for the new one and you don't want to say "no you CF" then tell her with all the extra usage you were exceeding your download allowance so it's only for your family use.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 14:57

TheViceOfReason i am changing it right now. I dont know what to say as she knows my wifi is unlimited as she asked me about my wifi provider to compare it to her provider this was before she asked for the password. After a lot of thinking today i thinki am going to phase this paticular friend out of my life as i feel very used. The wifi thing is the straw that broke the camles back iykwim. She has been leechig thing off me for a while now. I am glad iv started this thread as its made me realise i am not being unreasonable. Thanks for all the helpfull replys. x

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 13/09/2018 14:57

Tell her that the modem just stopped working and you just wont bother getting another.

9amtrain · 13/09/2018 14:59

She could probably pay for her own internet with the petrol she'd save not going to yours multiple times a day!

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 15:11

She is actually not a nice person to be friends with anyway she is very self centered and only intrested in talking about herself i have been getting increasingly frustrated with her for a while now. Apart from the wifi senario her worst thing she does is when she is on the phone talking to me having a conversation if she gets board or ghe conversation isnt enough about her she just hangs up no bye nothing just straight hangs up. when i ring her back she doesnt answer then will text ring you back in 10mins something came up..

The more i write about her and think about her the angrier i am at muself for letting her away with thiings for so long.

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Witchofzog · 13/09/2018 15:19

She hangs up? Actually hangs up on you? She is no friend. What will you do next time she comes round?

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 15:24

Witchofzog i am not joking actually hangs up then texts and makes out as if her signal has cut out.

I am actually going to ignore the door when she comes knocking tonight. am surprised she hasnt been round yet.

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ursuslemonade · 13/09/2018 15:28

I'm here for your update Wink

Well done for reaching this conclusion and don't let her use you anymore.

EggysMom · 13/09/2018 15:30

As well as changing your wifi password, consider changing the name of your wifi network to something like "GETYOUROWN_WIFI". Then when she sits outside in her car searching to connect to your wifi, she'll see that network in the list Grin

Haireverywhere · 13/09/2018 15:32

Good luck. Explain that you are fed up of being used! Ignoring the door makes it tomorrow's problem. Stand up for yourself OP. You're in the right.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 15:37

ursuslemonade brilliant idea.

ursuslemonade i will update when she comes calling.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 15:39

Haireverywhere you are right my husband said the same thing today. I just wish i knew the way to word it

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MissKummerspeck · 13/09/2018 15:42

What a cheeky cow!

GrapesAreMyJam · 13/09/2018 15:43

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Spacezombies · 13/09/2018 15:46

I'm surprised she actually comes to the door. I could imagine her just sitting outside you house using the Wi-Fi without even coming to let you know!

It will be fun tonight when she comes mooching! Good luck and don't let her make you feel guilty.

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