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Possibly the most ridiculous thing to be annoyed about

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:14

I know this is ridiculous. But it does just irk me. Woman I went to school with has DD about 13 months. This child is up past 11pm every night, without fail. I know this because there is a status/photo/video on Facebook of what this child is doing instead of being asleep, usually containing the words 'why isn't she in bed yet?' BECAUSE YOU HAVENT PUT HER TO BED YET??? If my DD was up at 11pm there would be absolute hell to pay the next morning.

Same woman also complains that DD won't sleep in her cot. Also uploads photos everyday of said child napping on her, and complains that she spends her whole day with her child asleep on her instead of her playing and letting her get on with house work etc. Has all common sense gone? Am I a mean mother for putting my DD to bed at 7pm and not letting her nap on me all day?

Just wanted to rant. I need to delete her off Facebook really.

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ILikePaperHats · 12/09/2018 23:16

What's it to you? Unless you can learn some tolerance, Delete/unfollow. Life's too short to get irate over the parenting style of someone you once went to school with.

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:20

@ILikePaperHats it is literally none of my business so I don't really know why I get so annoyed about it. Maybe because I know the solution to her issues with her DD sleeping, but the solution seems so obvious.

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ConsiderHerWaysAndOthers · 12/09/2018 23:23

Maybe her DD won’t settle at 7pm or in her own cot. All children are different, most people are doing the best they can, just be thankful you have good sleeper! I would have deleted her from Facebook already but just because those kind of inane posts are really boring.

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hobblesma · 12/09/2018 23:23

It's not always that simple. My 3rd DC was not a sleeper. I couldn't just put her to bed. I mean I tried but I could sit 5 hours and she wouldn't go to sleep.

I used to post pictures of my non sleeping child with similar captions.

Here's hoping my friends weren't quite so judgy.

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:24

My DD isn't even a good sleeper but I think it's just the constant posts that bother me! Definitely need a better hobby than scrolling through Facebook in bed at 11pm.

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Rebecca36 · 12/09/2018 23:26

Mine stayed up as late as they wanted. Slept with me sometimes. Grew up absolutely fine.

Stupid to put on facebook.

hobblesma · 12/09/2018 23:26

So bitching on Mumsnet is better Hmm

ShakeVigorously · 12/09/2018 23:28

Very judgmental OP.
My girls were angels at bedtime, my son however is a complete sleep hater and he's only 4 months old!
If I want him to nap in the day for longer than 20 seconds, it has to be on me.
If I don't want to spend my evenings listening to him scream, I have to let him sit up or whatever until exhaustion finally overcomes him.
All other avenues exhausted, definitely NOT a choice!
It's fucking hard!!!

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:28

@hobblesma I did say it was ridiculous!

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:29

@ShakeVigorously never said my issue was with her DD not sleeping, just said it was irritating that she posts about it constantly! My DD slept for 3 hours last night, so definitely not judging anybody for having a child who doesn't sleep!

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hobblesma · 12/09/2018 23:30

But you did. You even put the judging bit in shouty caps.

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:33

@hobblesma this post is lighthearted. My general annoyance for anybody who shitposts on Facebook about their kids has been topped tonight by the 15th post this woman has put this week about her DD not sleeping. It's a ridiculous thing to get annoyed about, hence the title of the post!

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hobblesma · 12/09/2018 23:36

Well the tone, the caps and the 'need to rant' didn't indicate anything lighthearted.

Odd how many posters forget that bit until they have some replies Grin

ShakeVigorously · 12/09/2018 23:39

Perhaps she needs some support in real life 🤷🏻‍♀️ Do you think she's posting for attention or genuinely needs help?
Just unfollow her if you don't actually want to be her friend!

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:44

@ShakeVigorously maybe she does need help! I don't know. Karma's bit me in the arse now because DD who's been sleeping peacefully since half 7 is now lying in my bed demanding I let her have a bath.

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Ellen7262 · 12/09/2018 23:47

Thanks for your opinion @hobblesma !

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ShakeVigorously · 12/09/2018 23:50

@Ellen7262 you need to put a post up on FB too then 😂
Seriously just unfollow her.

Veterinari · 13/09/2018 00:08

hobblesma did the ‘possibly the most ridiculous thing’ part of the title really not indicate to you that the OP was being rather lighthearted?!? And did the opening sentence of ‘I know this is ridiculous’ Really not indicate to you that the OP perhaps knows she is being ridiculous?!?

Do you really need ‘lighthearted spelling out in every post? Sheez. Sometime people just come here for a lighthearted rant and to blow off steam (as the OP has clearly said she’s doing) she knows it’s ridiculous, she’s said so twice.

Bizarre how many posters can’t interpret tone and need (lighthearted) warnings in posts to stop a judgy backlash.

hobblesma · 13/09/2018 00:10

possibly the most ridiculous thing’ part of the title really not indicate to you that the OP was being rather lighthearted?!? And did the opening sentence of ‘I know this is ridiculous’ Really not indicate to you that the OP perhaps knows she is being ridiculous?!?

Knowing you are being ridiculous and being lighthearted are not always the same though?

Do you really need ‘lighthearted spelling out in every post? Sheez. Sometime people just come here for a lighthearted rant and to blow off steam (as the OP has clearly said she’s doing) she knows it’s ridiculous, she’s said so twice.

Maybe? I mean it would have certainly helped in this instance.

Bizarre how many posters can’t interpret tone and need (lighthearted) warnings in posts to stop a judgy backlash.

Tone is INCREDIBLY difficult to interpret in a post.

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Ellen7262 · 13/09/2018 00:15

@hobblesma what a lovely, fun person you seem!

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Veterinari · 13/09/2018 00:17

All i’m Saying hobblesma is that there were pretty clear indicators there. If you aren’t able to interpret them fair enough, but perhaps bear that in mind the next time. I suspect it’s more that this post has struck a chord with you because of your own personal experience - fair enough Flowers

Lots of people are Facebook (over)Sharers. Lots of us aren’t. We probably find each other slightly ridiculous Smile

hobblesma · 13/09/2018 00:20

what a lovely, fun person you seem!

We I can be, but your OP didn't come across as fun.

hobblesma · 13/09/2018 00:23

All i’m Saying hobblesma is that there were pretty clear indicators there. If you aren’t able to interpret them fair enough,

Yeah. Silly me. Must be low on intelligence to not pick up on those clear asmud indicators.

but perhaps bear that in mind the next time. I suspect it’s more that this post has struck a chord with you because of your own personal experience - fair enough.

My own experience? Of a non sleeping child? Yeah, that's never bothered me much, well, unless people are banging the judgments about.

Lots of people are Facebook (over)Sharers. Lots of us aren’t. We probably find each other slightly ridiculous

I'm not an over sharer. I have posted pics with similar captions in the past, but not several times a month, let alone the same night.

Veterinari · 13/09/2018 00:34

hobblesma you seem to be itching for an argument and determined to derail this thread and make it all about you. It’s really irritating to other posters

You might want to read this:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3353817-AIBU-to-get-irritated-by-people-trying-to-derail-lighthearted-threads

Alternatively, as you seem to want to respond to every point and show the rest of us how wrong we are, Feel free to consider that you’ve ‘won’ or whatever it is you need, to stop you derailing further

hobblesma · 13/09/2018 05:14

vet

I wasn't itching for an argument.

I didn't realise the thread was light hearted and I responded to other posters. That's allowed.

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