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Inappropriate messages from mechanic?? Help!

29 replies

Mumofanarchy · 11/09/2018 15:55

Let me just start off by saying I have no idea how this happened, Im not exactly Cate Blanchett and I’m not great with people in general. In fact it’s a miracle I even have a DP Grin

Some guy hit my car outside the supermarket and I’m getting it fixed through his insurance, they sent a mechanic round today to take pictures of the damage so he can send it to the insurers, so far so good

Once he left he phoned to say if I had any problems to give him a ring, how nice I thought!

Swiftly followed ten minutes later by a text saying I had the most beautiful voice he’d ever heard Shock

So...do I ignore?? That’s my strongest inclination but since this NEVER happens to me I wanted to run it by someone and I just COULDNT say this out loud to someone, it would have me squirming with embarrassment

Obvs I will die if he is the one to turn up to fix the car in two weeks Blush

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strawberryalarmclock · 11/09/2018 15:57

Are you single? and Is he hot? They were my first two thoughts? Helpful? Grin

Reaa · 11/09/2018 15:58

My reply would be

Thank you, my husband has often said that too.

strawberryalarmclock · 11/09/2018 15:58

Too many question marks but you get the jist... I'm tired!

GeorgePorge · 11/09/2018 16:03

Eurgh, what a creep.

Just don't text back. Ignore.

VelociraptorRex · 11/09/2018 16:10

I'd go with what @Reaa said (presuming you're not interested Wink), what a nice compliment though!

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Mumofanarchy · 11/09/2018 16:17

Nope definitely not single and he’s definitely not my type even if I were

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VelociraptorRex · 11/09/2018 16:23

Maybe tell him that you're not a phone sex line and that he needs to be more professional or perhaps contact his boss if he's making you very uncomfortable, and ask for a different mechanic?

GeorgePorge · 11/09/2018 16:31

I most definitely wouldn't go with what @Reaa said. Don't hide behind being married/your husband. And don't say "thank you" for a horrible, creepy and uninvited comment.

Even if you were single, not being interested is just not being interested. So many men only take "no" for an answer when you tell them there's another man on the scene. Ugh.

I don't think it's a nice compliment at all @Velo. I think men's intrusive "compliments" are creepy and not at all flattering. Plus, it's kind of a shit compliment. I mean this guy has met OP yet his opening line is about her voice. Ermmm, thanks Hmm

JUST IGNORE

PositivelyPERF · 11/09/2018 16:34

Yuck yuck yuck What a creep. I bet he does that to lots of females and probably gets one or two of the stupid ones to fall for it. I’d completely ignore it and if he does it again I’d report him to his boss. My husband would have been furious if any of his staff acted like that. Totally unprofessional and gives the company a bad name.

NoCureForLove · 11/09/2018 16:35

IGNORE. If he persists still ignore but complain to his employer. Creep.

Reaa · 11/09/2018 16:42

GeorgePorge

The reason for my reply, other than my original thought, which was "fuck off you creep" is because the OP has said, she hopes it's not him who comes back in a couple of weeks.
If it is him, OP has made it clear she's not available and not interested in the slightest but without pissing him off incase it is him that comes back.

Or OP could just ignore and block the number.

CoughArghCoughArghCough · 11/09/2018 16:43

Definitely just ignore. I had similar once and just replied with the vomiting emoji. Did the trick.
And I'd report it to his company if he continued. It's ridiculous behaviour.

GeorgePorge · 11/09/2018 16:57

@Reaa
The reason for my reply, other than my original thought, which was "fuck off you creep" is because the OP has said, she hopes it's not him who comes back in a couple of weeks.
If it is him, OP has made it clear she's not available and not interested in the slightest but without pissing him off incase it is him that comes back.

That's kind of my point though - as women we're always trying to be careful not to piss off men. One way we do that is through telling men we're unavailable because we have a DH. I think this sends a dangerous message and perpetuates really problematic behaviour in men. Why should OP be careful not to piss off this creep?

GeorgePorge · 11/09/2018 16:58

I'd actually report it now.

I wouldn't reply to the guy but I would report it to the garage manager and ask that this particularly mechanic isn't sent out to you next time.

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Mumofanarchy · 11/09/2018 17:00

Vomiting emoji 😂 I’m not sure I’m brave enough for that incase it’s him who comes back.

Thanks for your thoughts, I definitely felt a bit weird about it and wasn’t sure why but I think it’s bevause it worries me he has or could do this to other people maybe more vulnerable or lonely than I am

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EnidButton · 11/09/2018 17:18

It's inappropriate, unprofessional and entitled.

Absolutely do not say thank you. Even just in a polite "thanks but no thanks" way.

Ignore, block and speak to the garage about having someone else come out again, not him.

Everything George^ said.

EnidButton · 11/09/2018 17:19

You feel weird about it because it is weird but you been conditioned as a woman to be polite and to not offend, even when you don't like something.

HildaZelda · 11/09/2018 18:02

Completely inappropriate. I wouldn't reply back but I'd definitely tell your DH/partner and show him the messages, then get him to take the car in/be around when the mechanic comes to fix it.
If he persists, then I'd report him to the company.

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Mumofanarchy · 11/09/2018 18:09

He has sent a message saying ‘sorry’ now, probably when I didn’t instantly fall at his feet.

DP is working away but should be back in a week or so so I will get him to answer the door etc

I’m really considering reporting him now, especially as he has made me feel a little uneasy Home alone

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viccat · 11/09/2018 18:34

It's happened to me with a take away delivery guy and two tradesmen over the years. It's a horrible feeling.

Ignoring it probably best for now unless he texts again and suggests something. Then say clearly no.

Catmatrat · 11/09/2018 18:35

I’ll pm you my number. I LOVE MECHANICS

LynetteScavo · 11/09/2018 18:41

I bet he meant to send it to someone else (although I'm sure you do have a beautiful voice!)

justpondering0 · 11/09/2018 18:41

What the hell is wrong with some people 🤣
It's not creepy because he's gave you a compliment, if a woman told you that you had a lovely voice there would be no issue. And the women saying their husbands would be furious, I think you need to look at the person you've married!
Don't know what's wrong with just saying "thank you" and taking the compliment. What a drama some people are making! Someone complimenting you is not the end of the world, it's nice.

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Mumofanarchy · 11/09/2018 18:47

To be honest I think the main reason I felt/am feeling uneasy is that he shouldn’t be texting or phoning me unless in a professional capacity. I would get into an awful lot of trouble for doing that at work

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weaselwords · 11/09/2018 18:52

Yuk. Tell his boss that he’s a creep and you don’t want him back.