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Sex with baby in room?

33 replies

marshmy · 07/09/2018 23:30

Okay i'm just trying to get a feel for people's opinions, would you have sex in a room with a baby sleeping in the same room in a cot?

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Furrycushion · 07/09/2018 23:32

Yes, of course. DS2 would never have been conceived otherwise.

HoleyCoMoley · 07/09/2018 23:32

Yes, why are you asking.

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marshmy · 07/09/2018 23:37

Okay, i have another question! Baby is 1, partner has been involved since she was 3 months, would you have sex in those circumstances with someone who wasn't the babies father? I haven't done it yet just can't help feeling it's somehow wrong

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InDubiousBattle · 07/09/2018 23:37

We did. Many times. That's how we got dd!

CantankerousCamel · 07/09/2018 23:38

Baby isn’t going to know anything about it. Most of the world sleep in one room of a two room place. Says all it needs to

CranberryJellies · 07/09/2018 23:38

Yes. They are babies. They don't know.

Singlenotsingle · 07/09/2018 23:39

Baby too young to notice or understand. Not a problem

EvilRingahBitch · 07/09/2018 23:41

If baby is awake in the same room and one year old you really shouldn’t be having sex even with baby’s father. If baby is asleep then they don’t know you’re having sex regardless of partner.

InDubiousBattle · 07/09/2018 23:41

No, not under those circumstances. I don't think it is wrong but I totally get why it would feel wrong. If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't.

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marshmy · 07/09/2018 23:45

No it would never be with baby awake, everyone i speak to about it says it's fine but i can't shake the feeling that it's wrong

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curlies · 07/09/2018 23:47

Just do it, otherwise you'll never have sex again!

Sarahandduck18 · 07/09/2018 23:48

Babies are supposed to sleep in with you til 6 months and no ones saying don’t have sex for 6 months!

shuthefrontdoor · 07/09/2018 23:49

We have done it with our 18m old next to us, asleep of course but I don't like it. I can't relax and get into the swing of it.. I'm always worried about her waking up!

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marshmy · 07/09/2018 23:51

i feel i wouldn't have this issue if he was her father but he's not and that's strange to me, i feel like no one ever speaks about situations like mine so i have no clue if the way i feel is right or if i should just do it!

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PepperSteaks · 08/09/2018 06:35

The idea of having sex while DD is in the room makes me feel sick. It would never have crossed my mind to do it.

RunSweatLaughAndLatte · 08/09/2018 06:40

We did as he was in our room for 8 months although I didn't enjoy it much, it was just quickies. If we wanted to get properly in the swing of it we'd go downstairs on the sofa lol

RunSweatLaughAndLatte · 08/09/2018 06:42

Also marshmy, baby is not going to know you're having sex, even though the man in question isn't the father. However, how does he feel about it? If he feels weird about it, maybe you can do it in a different room and just take baby monitor with you if you're worried about the baby waking up

GrumpyOldMare · 08/09/2018 06:44

No I didn't,for the same reasons as you. But the I don't think sex is all it's cracked up to be,so it didn't bother me.

eurochick · 08/09/2018 06:47

I couldn't have done it personally. I wouldn't have been able to relax.

Momotheathlete · 08/09/2018 06:49

Your baby will have no idea. I swore at mine this morning, the great thing about babies is they just don't know.

MeteorGarden · 08/09/2018 06:52

I wouldn’t be comfortable doing this, pretty much just because it’s not baby’s dad.

DP and I would have sex with a small baby fast asleep in room but if DP wasn’t around I wouldn’t do it with anybody else.

I’m not 100% sure why I feel that way I just do. I’d feel the same about sex whilst pregnant actually, I would ofc sleep with DP (soon to be DH) but should we split I’d feel odd about sleeping with anyone else whilst pregnant.

Think maybe it’s a personal choice.

I know a woman who slept with her very new boyfriend whilst 5 year old DD was asleep in room they share. That made me feel sick.

TeaAndBisquits · 08/09/2018 06:54

No, I wouldn't in either situation. We just used to have sex in the front room while the baby was sleeping in our room so want an issue.

Giantsquid · 08/09/2018 06:59

You don’t need to shag a man with your baby in the room. Do you live in a one room shack? No bathroom? Front room? Kitchen even? It has to be in the same room as your baby?

AnnieAnoniMoose · 08/09/2018 07:12

It’s fine. It’s irrelevant whether your DP is biologically your baby’s Dad or not, he is in her life, not some random she’s never met (I personally think that would be wrong). Even if your baby wakes up, it’s not as though they have any idea what you’re doing, anymore than if you’re ironing or mowing the lawn. Once they make you aware they’re awake you’ll stop. It really isn’t an issue for a good while yet.

Yes, of course you can have sex elsewhere in the house, but it’s nice to have sex in a comfy bed sometimes and it’s perfectly normal to do so even if there’s a baby/toddler sleeping.

Believeitornot · 08/09/2018 07:21

No.

Never.

I can’t switch off. If I saw or heard baby, it would kill any desire stone dead.

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