Family are all having a Bank Holiday day out and Roast today, we’re not invited because of DS

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Just that really

All of my family are spending the day together today and we’re not invited

I have noticed there’s been a few things going on lately that I haven’t found out about until afterwards but didn’t really think anything of it, never thought we were left out intentionally but today seemed such an obvious ‘family day’ that I asked why we weren’t invited
And I was told it was because one of my children and how his behaviour “ruins most things”

DS is 2
Yes I have struggled with him, since birth really, he’s always been a difficult child I’m not denying that
But fuck me this stings

That’s sad especially as it’s your family. I think families should accommodate little ones ie. pick family friendly venues for days out or pub/restaurant/house with garden for little ones to run around.

We have a friend with a very difficult 7 year old (no SN diagnosis...as yet) who cannot sit down for more than 2minutes and tends to trash houses, break toys etc. I have to say I do still invite them to things as far as possible but not so much sit down meals out. Last time we went out he rampaged around the restaurant, broke a plate and glass and spat out/vomited back up half the meal he’d eaten. It was not a fun meal out.

No probs, I so feel for you.

Google who has ADHD & it's like a who's who of interesting people, so if he does have it, best managed to let him flourish.

Your family are not helping tho.

CAn I suggest a weighted jacket might help with the figeting? And a weighted blanket for his bed.

Worth a try.

A lot of parents of children with special needs get treated like this, takes a village until they are hard work.

OP you sound like your writing on my behalf! I couldn't help but cry reading this!

Its been pretty much how i have had to live the past few years. My child was eventually diagnosed with ASD & ADHD...getting the diagnosis did not make my family "nicer"! But i did actually on one occasion let it out that i was outright hurt by their exclusion!

I was particularly hurt because they would lie about having plans...then on the day hours after they meet up they will contact me and ask if i wanted to join for coffee... it hurt as hell! Especially as they knew i wouldn't be able to make it! I suppose it lessened the guilt for them when they later posted pictures on social media of their big family days out!

I let them know how it felt though! It did change things!!! I think before that they didn't realise how badly it hurt! I felt like they were unaware of how it was impacting me! Don't cut off from your family...first try to reach out...open up to them and i so hope you get somewhere!

Big hugs!!!