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What would you say was the most important day of your life?

86 replies

maerd · 25/08/2018 11:13

I quite often hear people talk about their wedding day as being the most important day of their life, and that’s why there is so much pressure to get it just right, but to me, I feel like a wedding day is a minor part of the marriage as a whole. But then it got me thinking, what day has been the most important to me? And I don’t know the answer!

There are important times that have shaped my life as a whole, but not one specific day. And do those who think their wedding day is the most important day, still believe that long after the wedding has passed?

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Zigazagazoo · 25/08/2018 16:56

I don’t know. It’s really hard to pinpoint one important day. I hear people say their wedding is the best day, but I don’t feel like that. I guess the most important day for me is learning that our dd was ok and I wouldn’t need to terminate her at 24 weeks and everything I’d been told at her 20 week scan was a mistake. I look at her now and can’t believe I even ever thought I wouldnt get to meet her.

holidaypasta · 25/08/2018 16:58

Probably March 6th this year when my mum died after a short time with a brain tumour. The day after her funeral I started looking for jobs after not having worked since having my first dc 3 years ago, and I had a fire in me that said "you can do anything you want " so I started applying for stuff that I wouldn't have even tried normally and got a job and have been there a little while now. Life is different but every day I feel pain that my mum has gone. I'm very young though , it'll get better I'm told.

Frazzledkate · 25/08/2018 17:33

to all who have posted with terribly sad times

PenCreed · 25/08/2018 17:36

After we'd got engaged, when now-DH and I had a horrible, horrible conversation about finances and I had to admit what a state mine were in. He was incredibly calm, kind and paid off all my debts for me so we started married life with a clean slate. It makes me cry just typing it. He is one of the very best people I know and I am so lucky to have met him.

BitchQueen90 · 25/08/2018 17:44

The day I first moved into my flat after leaving my ex husband. DS had just turned one and I didn't even have a sofa yet but I remember putting him to bed and sitting down on the floor a pillow to watch TV and I just knew that life was going to be so much better.

Over 4 years down the line now and I've never been so happy.

DeloresJaneUmbridge · 25/08/2018 17:47

The birth of my son.
I thought before my son that the best day of my life would be holding a degree certificate. It arrived the day I went in to have my son and stayed in the envelope for the next four years totally outdone by a baby boy.

Babdoc · 25/08/2018 18:06

The day I started medical school and met DH the same night.
My first day as a doctor.
The first time I certified a death.
The first time I saved a life.
The miscarriage of our first child. The births of our two DDs. The miraculous survival of DD2 from a near stillbirth.
The death of DH 11 months later.
My encounter with God and conversion to Christianity at DH’s funeral.
The night an arsonist set my house on fire.
The day I found DD1 hanging on a staircase in her first suicide attempt.
The day I found out about her second (thankfully also unsuccessful) attempt, away at uni.
The two consecutive days of both DDs’ graduation ceremonies, at universities 120 miles apart.
And the day I retired - and suddenly got my life back!

BikeRunSki · 25/08/2018 22:34

The day my friend/my son’s best friend’s mum died last year. I was with her 8 year old son when I got the call. It was when I truly realised the mortality of people my age.

gabsdot · 25/08/2018 22:41

I think for me the most important day/event was the day I decided to commit to the religion I was raised in. I had a very spiritual experience which has always stayed with me and been added on.
My faith and church membership has been central to my life and all the decisions I've made since have been influenced by my faith.
I met my husband through my church too so I wouldn't have him or my kids.

SittHakim · 25/08/2018 22:41

The day I accepted my present job, a little over two years ago - it's the thing I was always meant to do and my whole career so far has led up to. I'm thankful daily for that, as it shapes my whole life; in spite of DD and DH, I couldn't be happy if I weren't fulfilled at work.

The day I met DH, twenty-seven years ago. And the day DD was born, eight years ago.

for all whose most significant days have been sad ones.

CatLadyToddlerMother · 25/08/2018 22:42

The day I finally wised up to my ExH and left with my toddler DD. I've never gone back and we're both so much happier for leaving.

BonnieF · 25/08/2018 22:59

Without doubt the day I got my A level results and realised I was to become the first person in my family to go to university. A few weeks later I left our grotty little council house in a shithole ex-mining town in Derbyshire, and I never really went back.

That was my ‘sliding doors’ moment. Had I failed, I would neve4 have had a professional career, moved to the big city or met DP. I would probably have ended up working in a shop in my home town, married a lad who worked in a local factory, and stayed there.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 25/08/2018 23:04

No one particular day as a lot has happened that has shaped me
death of significant family members
Going to uni
Working qualified after uni
Childbirth

IsTheRainEverComingBack · 25/08/2018 23:07

The day I walked into college and said ‘can I do some A levels please’. I was 21, only had 1 GCSE and a BTEC First. I’d missed most of my secondary education due to severe mental illness, spending years in and out of hospital. I was then in an abusive, drug addled relationship for a few years. Going into that college and restarting my education was the start of the rest of my life, and the start of my real recovery.

Geekster1963 · 25/08/2018 23:10

They day DD was born. After six miscarriages finally having our daughter was something we were thinking would never happen.

Hoveringhobbit · 25/08/2018 23:14

Parkhead

Lofari · 25/08/2018 23:15

2nd August this year. We got the diagnosis that my youngest has a life limiting disease and most likely won't live beyond 20
It put so much into perspective.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 25/08/2018 23:18

That’s hugely significant Lofari, and so v recent.hope you're getting support

Needsleepneedsleep · 25/08/2018 23:19

Moving days in 2010 and 2017 - major relocations for DH jobs.

The day I interviewed for the best job I ever had.

The day I resigned from other job for above job - I cried in bed the night before, it was a very hard thing to do as I had been there a long time, my boss was lovely and I knew she would be upset (and she was).

My wedding day - although as per a previous post, not a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

Driving test day - passed first time with a few minors.

Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 25/08/2018 23:27

The day my beautiful ds died.

I was so young and he had been through so much, I was alone and he was on life support. I made the choice to donate his organs so wasn't even with him as he died.

The day my gorgeous dd died.

She was 2 weeks old, they had done everything they could for her. I prayed so hard that day, prayed they had it wrong, I couldn't lose 2 children, I barely survived losing one. She was in my arms as she left this world and I was crushed.

That changed me forever. I have never been able to be 100% happy or at peace since then. Even the best of times are tainted with my son and daughter not being there. Although I have children, and I want to see them through until adulthood, death will be a welcome relief from this awful, daily pain one day.

ParkheadParadise · 25/08/2018 23:34

Buzzlightyearsbumchin
I've lost a child. I know the pain you describe.
So sorry for both your losses

NellieBee · 25/08/2018 23:38

What a great thread. Thanks, OP, for starting it.

Love to those who need it.

NellieBee · 25/08/2018 23:40

Most important days for me:

-DS being born. My life is literally Before DS and After DS and I'm so grateful to him for changing my world.

-The day I met up with an old old friend for dinner, after 6 years of not seeing each other. We got married a year to that day later... life changing.

-Overdose aged 18. I'm now glad I survived, although I wasn't for a long time.

NellieBee · 25/08/2018 23:41

Oh, also: my graduation day.

First class honours.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 25/08/2018 23:44

Buzzlightyear,want to acknowledge your post and loss of 2 children
No words are adequate, and it’s a gnawing pain

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