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What would you say was the most important day of your life?

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maerd · 25/08/2018 11:13

I quite often hear people talk about their wedding day as being the most important day of their life, and that’s why there is so much pressure to get it just right, but to me, I feel like a wedding day is a minor part of the marriage as a whole. But then it got me thinking, what day has been the most important to me? And I don’t know the answer!

There are important times that have shaped my life as a whole, but not one specific day. And do those who think their wedding day is the most important day, still believe that long after the wedding has passed?

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NicoAndTheNiners · 25/08/2018 13:06

The day I decided to lose some weight and join the gym. Two years ago. Am loads fitter and thinner now. My life revolves around the gym. Have met so many good friends there that now even my social life is mainly with gym friends. I feel it turned my life around.

motherlondon · 25/08/2018 13:08

The day one of the best surgeons in the country removed a cancer from my breast.

LadyintheRadiator · 25/08/2018 13:11

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ParkheadParadise · 25/08/2018 13:12

The day my dd died. I can remember so clearly opening the door to the police and I knew something awful had happened to her.

MercedesDeMonteChristo · 25/08/2018 13:14

The day I decided to go back to university. My life very much is before and after. It has changed my career trajectory, provided the impetus to move on from some very difficult IL/marital problems and gave me back me.

Of course my children being born but without university I would not be the mother that I am.

MsSquiz · 25/08/2018 13:19

The day I sat by my DM's side as we were told she had terminal bowel cancer, and that treatment could maybe prolong a 6 months diagnosis to 2 years max. I was 29 years old and instantly grew up, almost becoming the adult in our relationship.

We didn't talk about her being sick, we talked about normal mundane day to day crap that you would usually talk to your DM about. We both knew what was happening, but didn't ever feel the need to sit and dwell on it together or cry about it. We just got on with stuff.

5 months later she died holding my hand, just the 2 of us in her room at the hospice. It had always really only been the 2 of us (she brought me up by herself)

LittleMissedTheSunshine · 25/08/2018 13:19

The day I had a therapeutic breakthrough during a particularly intense and effective session of psychotherapy.

Realised my parents splitting up when I was two years old and subsequent unstable childhood wasn't actually my fault after all (I already knew this intellectually but not deeply, where it matters) which meant I could begin to accept rather than despise myself which had a ripple effect on the rest of my life really and I went from suicidally depressed to being actually quite happy with myself.

I remember having this realisation and it changed everything.

Loyaultemelie · 25/08/2018 13:19

One week before my 19th Birthday. The events of that night broke me, allowed me to end up in a 5 year abusive relationship 2 years later which eventually led to me becoming strong enough to leave and get together with Dh. However if it hadn't happened I believe my life would have gone down a very different path and I'd be working a well paid job across the pond.

AngelsAckiz · 25/08/2018 13:21

Mine was deciding to keep living after being raped and thinking of ending it all.

TeddyIsaHe · 25/08/2018 13:23

Parkhead I’m so sorry Flowers

bigbluebus · 25/08/2018 13:26

The day my 1st child was born and 3 days later when we were told she had a life limiting condition. That certainly shaped the next 22 years of my life until the day that I held her hand as she slipped away from us.

AliasGrape · 25/08/2018 13:27

The day I was born - not just because of the obvious but also because it was the day my birth mum died which obviously completely changed everything that came after.

Or you could say the day my relatives (who have been my parents in my mind ever since) brought me home.

HollyGibney · 25/08/2018 13:27

The most important day of my life was when I got my abusive ex H out. He is an alcoholic with a personality disorder. He would have destroyed us all if I hadn't got him out. His family deal with him now and from a distance I can see how much of their resources he uses, but there's five of them, there was only one of me and two small children. My children are the best people I know but they wouldn't be who they are if he'd stayed living here. I probably wouldn't be here at all.

Justanotheruser01 · 25/08/2018 13:53

The days my neices and nephews were born i probably cant be a mum myself so seeing them grow and develop has been the biggest honour of my life. My wedding day closely followed by the day i met my husband my life changed when i met him in so many incredible ways.

fluffypudcats · 25/08/2018 13:56

I don't know that I'd call it important but the biggest day in my life was the day, 18 months ago, that I was admitted, via A&E, to hospital, scanned and they diagnosed a massive brain tumour. I was so thrilled - they could try and do something about it, it was critical so was going to have emergency surgery and no-one could question my capability at work or why I was constantly suffering from migraines and being a cow. I don't think anything will ever top that for me (it was the worst day of their lives for Mum and Dad though - the fear their only child could die or suffer horrendous complications)

EastMidsGPs · 25/08/2018 13:56

July 5th 2018 the day I was told DH would survive his sepsis.

Batteriesallgone · 25/08/2018 14:00

Knee jerk reaction is the day my CAMHS wait was up and I got in front of a psychiatrist who referred me for full therapy and basically more intervention and support than you can shake a stick at.

His support and referrals and general intervening in my life turned me from abused substance-user child to educated independent self-sufficient adult.

OrcinusOrca · 25/08/2018 14:03

Mine was my wedding day. I was really surprised how overcome with emotion I was. The start of the rest of my life, after a really troubled life to that point.

confusedandemployed · 25/08/2018 14:08

I think the day my dad told me my mum would never get better. I sort of knew it but that meant I had to face it. I think I probably grew up that day. 2 months later she was gone. She waited until none of us were with her. Just the Macmillan nurses.

Thinkingofausername1 · 25/08/2018 16:37

When I had my dd. Was told it was my risk because of health issues. And probably could have died. Had a natural birth despite doctors advice.
She is healthy, and has become a kind a clever girl, off to high school in a couple of weeks!

TillyTheTiger · 25/08/2018 16:42

The day my son was born. I'm not sure I'd describe it as the 'best' day of my life because it was painful, exhausting and overwhelming and I didn't feel that massive rush of love for him until a couple of days later once we were home - but it's certainly the day that changed my life the most. The subsequent two years have been the best ever, I absolutely love being a mum, and I love the person I have become since having him. I also love and appreciate my husband and my family more since having him, seeing how much they adore him and vice versa is just beautiful.

TeenTimesTwo · 25/08/2018 16:44

The day my 2 adopted DDs moved in. That was the day we committed to be a 'forever' family.

Halfahunnerstillastunner · 25/08/2018 16:46

The day my brother died by suicide. It has changed my life, my poor parents, family, relationships, the way I view the world and certain people in it, my attitude to risk and so much more. Everything changed.

To Parkhead and all those who have lost children and loved ones Thanks

FeliciaFinnakus · 25/08/2018 16:48

Meeting my DH without a doubt. He was a single father working ever hour under the sun to make ends meet. I was a heavy drug user at the time, sleeping around for cash for drugs- DH saw something in me nobody else did and took me under his wing. That was 8 years ago.

We were just friends for about 5 years then realised we loved each other, got married 4 years ago and have a beautiful DD who has just turned 2.

He is literally my hero.

DrDiva · 25/08/2018 16:53

The day my prem son first smiled at me and I thought we might make it together after all.