I fell asleep watching tv. Dh woke me to go to bed. Started ranting about how I always fall asleep, and had promised we could “cuddle” tonight, and because we’re on holiday from tomorrow we can’t for 2 weeks and I always promise and always let him down. I said we could, we’re in a villa, it’s no different. He got angrier. Said I always do this.
I hadn’t promised anything. 2 nights ago he said he wanted to, but was tired, could it wait? I agreed.
He woke me at 5.50 this morning to complain our 6yo was noisy (dh had been awake since 4). I’m tired.
He said I have to get out the house, that I only work part time hours and don’t deserve it. I used to be a nurse. They changed my hours so I can’t do that anymore unless he changed his hours to help with childcare (self employed). He won’t. I’m on a career break and work for him (not paid, £100pw spends which goes on food and dc). I have nothing. The past 6y I paid £200pcm more than him as I worked more, the last year he’s paid everything as I can’t work. I paid the house deposit.
I told him I’d sleep downstairs until he apologised. He came down, threw the holiday spending money at me and told me to take the kids on holiday without him tomorrow, then leave.
I said his mum (deceased) wouldn’t be proud of this. He grabbed me by the jaw, threw me on the sofa and said I shouldn’t mention his mum, he’d kill me if I did.
He’s gone to bed. Ironically, I can’t sleep.
Posting this so people know what happened, just in case. Not looking for responses.