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To wonder what the fuck

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:09

My Partner has mentioned in conversation I have been difficult to live with for the last few weeks

In any usual context I would go ok this is something we may need to work on.

But just so I don't dripfeed we have been given our notice to leave our house, (I) have to found a place for our cats and still trying to find a place for our dog, moving ourselves (am I the one that drives) to either a storage unit or a flat, Packed up most of the house.

Sorry I have gotten this far into it figured out what the fuck and am going to leave the thread stand in the hope that people who have advise will leave it

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Fightthebear · 12/08/2018 05:12

But it’s probably true isn’t it, you’re under a lot of stress?

Are you sure it was meant as a criticism rather than an observation?

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:20

*But it’s probably true isn’t it, you’re under a lot of stress?

Are you sure it was meant as a criticism rather than an observation?*

I would normally agree with but everything in on my shoulders, I know I havent explained it well in my op, but every last thing is on me and why the fuck should it be? Why the fuck should I be packing up his fucking t-shirts, he is a 37 year old man

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Urbanbeetler · 12/08/2018 05:23

If he means that you are difficult to live with because you don’t act like his personal servant then - well - fuck him.

Fightthebear · 12/08/2018 05:25

Ok - so he’s not pulling his weight, leaving everything up to you then complaining when you’re stressed out.

I think you need to explain how stressed and frazzled feel and explain very clearly what he needs to do to help.

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:31

I am posting here because I have reached the end

I have explained everything to him but he is really does not get it, I would not be posting here if I hadn't reached the end,

I started the post hoping for advice and got to the end of it thinking why the fuck should I

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Fightthebear · 12/08/2018 05:37

I can understand why this might be the end of the road. Life’s hard enough without having to carry a lazy deadweight partner as well.

You deserve a team mate and someone who will share the load Flowers

RabbitsAreTasty · 12/08/2018 05:43

Bloody good question you posed there. Why are you packing his t-shirts and doing everything?

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:44

@Fightthebear we have something happening in a few hours, it is very outing.

If he doesn't step for it, I think it is the end

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:45

Why are you packing his t-shirts and doing everything?

I am not and that seems to be the problem

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Caribbeanyesplease · 12/08/2018 05:47

Perhaps this is a reflection of my life, but what you lost hardly seems particularly stressful to me. You’re moving in to another rented property and have had to rehome (how come?) your day and dog.

I mean, yes it’s a busy time. But I don’t think it’s an excuse to be difficult. It’s life.

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:54

*You’re moving in to another rented property and have had to rehome (how come?) your day and dog.

I mean, yes it’s a busy time. But I don’t think it’s an excuse to be difficult. It’s life.*

Nop no new home, we will be considered homeless, because of this we have to rehome the dog

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Caribbeanyesplease · 12/08/2018 05:54

Sorry I don’t understand

So you’re packing up but you have no where to go?

averylongtimeago · 12/08/2018 05:59

No wonder you are stressed out. Have you somewhere to go?

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 05:59

So you’re packing up but you have no where to go?

We live in a rent house, the landlord has give us notice, we are now reliant on the council

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 06:00

should say rented

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givemestrength10 · 12/08/2018 06:00

No wonder you are stressed out. Have you somewhere to go?

Nop fuck all

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Urbanbeetler · 12/08/2018 06:01

It kinda very stressful indeed. Ask him to be nice to you during this horrible time. And remind him you’re in it together so he needs to hold it together.

Urbanbeetler · 12/08/2018 06:01

Kinda= sounds

averylongtimeago · 12/08/2018 06:04

And moving when everyone pulls their weight and because you want to is stressful enough, let alone ending up homeless and losing your pets.

So, you've not been your normal cheerful self? No shit Sherlock!

Is he normally like this, or could it be being charitable his reaction to the stress you are both under?

Caribbeanyesplease · 12/08/2018 06:05

So if you are packing up your stuff but with literally no where to go... that’s bloody stressful!

AgathaRaisonDetra · 12/08/2018 06:07

I can see why he said it.

Guienne · 12/08/2018 06:10

You don't necessarily have to leave immediately just because your landlord has given notice. Can you get advice from Shelter?

AnnieAnoniMoose · 12/08/2018 06:16

I’m not sure you should bother seeing if he steps up today, it sounds like he regularly does not, is self absorbed and doesn’t give a shit about you, only how anything impacts him.

I’d be packing MY stuff and leaving him to sort out his. Now I see a good time to think very hard about this, because while it’s never an easy decision and everyone has their good points...you’re packing your stuff anyway, you’re moving anyway and you’ll get housed quicker as a single person.

Do you really want to be with him?

AnnieAnoniMoose · 12/08/2018 06:19

I’m really sorry you’re having to rehome your pets - that alone would have me in a right state, let alone being made homeless. He’s an idiot.

Caribbeanyesplease · 12/08/2018 06:22

He mentioned in conversation the OP has been a bit difficult last weeks

She’s been packing up his t shirts

On the basis of that a poster tells her to pack up her stuff and leave him Confused