To wonder what the fuck

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My Partner has mentioned in conversation I have been difficult to live with for the last few weeks

In any usual context I would go ok this is something we may need to work on.

But just so I don't dripfeed we have been given our notice to leave our house, (I) have to found a place for our cats and still trying to find a place for our dog, moving ourselves (am I the one that drives) to either a storage unit or a flat, Packed up most of the house.

Sorry I have gotten this far into it figured out what the fuck and am going to leave the thread stand in the hope that people who have advise will leave it

There are, I suppose a handful of scenarios where it would be reasonable for one person to take all the load of this stressful time. If the other is in poor health, mentally or physically. If the other is working all the hours in the day to earn money for a month’s deposit. If the other is contribution in alternative ways such as childcare or looking after elderly relatives. I’m sure there are others.

Assuming none of those things apply then your DP is a lazy manchild and the last thing you deserve is him criticising you for letting your stress show.

I’m really sorry that this is happening to you. The loss of your pets must really hurt. I hope you find somewhere very soon.

If I may offer a word of caution, please don’t make any decisions about the future of your relationship now. But equally call out your DP on every occasion when he doesn’t pull his weight, and let him take the consequences if he doesn’t. If he doesn’t pack his t-shirts then they don’t get packed.

Do you have dcs? If not, move somewhere without him. If he's not going to step up now he certainly isn't going to with dcs.

The tshirt thing, i have done nothing with regards to packing them. I am not doing it, all I have said to him, is he needs to make sure he has enough to survive him while the rest are on storage.

DP does work and I am at home with a shit ton of mental health issues which makes day to day a fucking chore, due to an incident at the start of this year, we are under every fucking services known to man, which I appreciate but does add to the stress of everything. All services are doing their best for us as they can but all I seem to be doing is making excuses as to why he can't do xyz and I am sick of it

To answer someone yes we have a DC

You have the perfect opportunity to jettison the useless wanker. So sorry you and your DC is going through being made homeless