If you could go back & tell the teen-of-you

[loveisland]

If you could go back and tell the teenage you some life lessons you have now learned the hard way what would you say?
I wish I could go and shake the teenage me and say "that older boy is abusing you, please run a mile"

Don't try to impress the mass, cherish the few closest to you instead. You only need a handful of friends to truly feel contentment, happiness and loyalty. The mass will drag you down and let you fall rather than offering you a hand when you're down.

Don't start smoking
Your not as fat as you think you are
Your weird but wonderfully weird
Don't waste time with boys who treat you like shit
Well done for not getting caught
You look a state when drunk
Stop wasting money

Honestly teenage me had her shit together much better than adult me! I’d probably do Better asking teenage me to come and sort me out

@SoftAsACactus well flip it then what would teen you say now?

The first man to come along will not be the only man

Don't settle!

Stay single until the day you die.

I'd go back and tell hungover 18 year old me, that the lump of pot on the lounge floor isn't actually a lump of pot - it's a nugget of cat poo.
Please don't pick it up.

Enjoy your figure but don't do anything different, a few boys may make you cry but don't worry as DH is on the way and life will be wonderful.

Just because you're good at dealing with 'difficult' people it doesn't mean you have to. You can't fix or save anyone- stop that now and focus on the people who will be happy for you when you succeed.
DO NOT SMOKE!!

Don't be scared to take a chance.

Get out and make something of yourself. In 10-15 years you'll be a happily married mum of 2 but you will have no degree, no career, no travel experience etc because you were too scared to take the chances. Jump for them!

It will stop

Someone will love you

Despite your short comings, you’ll marry an incredible man who will show you what love is. Let him

Your mother was not a good role model. Don't be so blunt. Diplomacy is important.

Don’t smoke!

Take up exercise earlier. You’ll feel better, look better, and you should make it a habit sooner rather than later.

Appreciate time with your dad - he’ll be gone a lot sooner than any of us could predict.

Teen me would say you don’t need that mobile phone and you will have more fun without it.

Why do you drive everywhere? If you walk more you will be slimmer!

How did your eating habits get so bad! Why does your diet mostly consist of children’s leftover, takeaway and coffee??

Why don’t you see your friends as much as you used to?

Why don’t you ever go out? you loser

Wtf are those shoes????!

Work harder at school
Take up a sport
Be more self assertive
Embrace some competitiveness
Ignore your parents when they tell you something isn’t good enough or turn their nose up at your choices
Have more confidence, you really are beautiful!
Give some thought to the future. Do not just walk out of school on the last day thinking, shit....!!
At 19, stick with your friends, do NOT go home and enter into an abusive relationship with that twatwaffle!
Failing that, dump the twatwaffle as soon as his twatwafflery was revealed
Believe in yourself, everything works out perfectly for you in the end.

Fight back against your violent Mum much earlier. She's a massive coward deep down and she'll back right off.

Don't bother.

You’re not mad or lacking, you are traumatised , you’re childhood was not normal and not right.

Love will heal you!
You will meet a lovely man who will heal your heart and you will be able to get on with your life properly, it will be the beginning of a journey of self acceptance and self discovery.

Know that you are enough.

Don't be so vile to your parents. They mean well and they're just doing their best. You won't have them for long so tell them you love them and stop being so horrible to them.
That boy you treat badly is actually a diamond. You will regret destruct testing the relationship.
Lighten up. Accept yourself and live your own dream not your Mum's.

I'd tell my 17 year old self - stick with your gut instinct of that boy... walk away. Stop arguing with your mum... life is much easier living at home. Get a good job. Travel. Go on holiday with your friends. Learn to drive now rather than having to later on in life. YOU ARE NOT FAT!! be confident. And please be happy
God if this did happen my life would have turned out so much different. How depressing 😩

Work harder at school. Stay with the nice but not cool boy. Walk away from the boy who treats you like shit.

It's not about looks! Or clothes! Or boys!

Be more confident. You could do ANYTHING.

Take your advice to your teenage self and act on it now! It’s never too late!

Don’t be in such a rush to marry and settle down-TWICE you idiot