Should I tell ex’s new girlfriend that he’s on dating sites?

[SecretSam]

My ex has started a new relationship, I know this from Facebook stalking and that her Facebook has pictures of them together and states that she is in a relationship, since May this year. His Facebook is not showing these details, I am not friends with either of them.

My Ex is on PoF, very active on there, I was surprised to see him as I thought he was in a relationship.

Anyway, I guessed his password and logged into his account, he has been messaging numerous women and arranging dates.

This new girlfriend seems like a nice person, in a well respected job role.

My ex cheated on me, I know his tricks. I would have liked to have known instead of wasting months of my life wondering why things changed between us and thinking I’d done something wrong.

Should I let the new girlfriend know?

Yes send her the log in

But then he'll know it was me. Is there a way of telling her anonymously?

Make a fake fb profile. Send her the details. I would want to know

Yep I agree with kev

Or you can just be brazen about it and send it from you. If you give her the log in she will see for herself

Keep your nose out and stop logging in as him!

What would I do..... I'd leave well alone. He's your ex, so why get involved? Move on stop stalking.

Send her the log in, I'd definitely want to know.
If it won't put you in danger then I'd not worry about him knowing it was you, its not like he can tell people 'ex sent my current gf evidence of me cheating on dating sites' won't paint him in a good light!

Thanks!
I'm going to create a fake Facebook account and message her with the details.

You are obsessed. Put the keyboard down and move on. You will thank yourself for it.

I can't believe people are encouraging this.

You Facebook stalk them both.
You then logged into his private account
Went through his private messages
Now are planning on opening a fake Facebook account to give her the details so she can log in

He is your ex. Non of this, is your business. It's not ok and harassment and/or stalking.

If a man was doing this to his female ex, no way would anyone be helping him do it. He would be being told he was an abusive twat and she should contact the police.

For all you know theyee in an open relationship. Walk away.

How do you know she doesn't know?

It's natural to want revenge actually. But how far do you go with it? You'll then end up watching and waiting to see if there's fallout, or wanting to contact her again if you see that they're still together after your revelations.

If you're going to contact her, do it once then walk away. I'm.not sure you will tho - and the longer you spend on this, the more your ex will have a hold on your life as you just can't let go.

It's not a good place to be in.

I asked WWYD and posters replied to tell. Now I plan to tell, I'm a stalker. Does looking on Facebook profiles make me a stalker? Doesn't everyone do this occasionally?
Now I'm back to being unsure what to do.
Maybe there is a bit of revenge creeping in here, but it's well meant in terms of not wanting to see another woman made a fool out of.
That said, as I've been OLD I've seen other men that I know are attached and done nothing.

Walk away, it will give you no satisfaction to do this.think about it, you have the username and password - he’ll just say it’s you making it up to get revenge 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would have liked to have known instead of wasting months of my life wondering why things changed between us and thinking I’d done something wrong. But you’re still wasting time looking up his profile, his new girlfriends and logging into his accounts. That’s not really normal behaviour, OP. You need to walk away, and not go further; or if you can’t maybe go talk to your GP

I can’t believe anyone would encourage this! Having a little look at an ex’s Facebook account and even their new girlfriend is probably quite normal but logging into their private accounts is awful. He isn’t your problem anymore and quite frankly you’ll come off as a mad jealous ex if you even try to talk to her now. Get help and move on.

No I wouldn't. I don't care about ex's and their new partners enough to do something like this. Just forget it and move on.

Logging into his account was a bit much op...

I probably wouldn't get involved, have you got dc together?

No. The best way to get revenge is to be happy yrself. You're still wasting yr time on him. Let go move on. Find happiness.She might even know and they might be using eachother. She's not yr friend. You can't let every girl know u think he's cheating on. Live yr own life. Be thankful for a lucky escape.

Do you have kids with this man?

If not block him .
If you do get off his s. Media .

This is not healthy for you at all regardless

Stay out of it, way way out of it. No one will thank you for it.
Time for you to move on from him and stop obsessing. What he does is none of your business anymore.

Yes tell her. Don't listen to the people who are trying to act all holier than thou. He deserves everything he gets if his girlfriend finds out.

Tell her.

Don't ever hack into someone's dating account again. That is unhinged.

Having a quick check of Facebook, occasionally, doesn't make you a stalker.

Hacking his accounts does.

You are still wasting time on him.

Don't listen to the people who are trying to act all holier than thou
You think back in someone's account is ok?

Ignore the people here.

I really don't get this "don't tell" bollocks.

This woman is in the place you were in.

If they have an open relationship, then, fine!

If not, you'll have saved her from wasting her life. How would you feel if they posted baby news, knowing what you know, for example?

I'd want to know. I'd definitely shop my ex. Yes, you need to move on and not stalk him anymore. It's not healthy for you. After this, stop looking at his Facebook!!

But, now you know, you can't unknow it. Tell the poor woman, I would.