Forced to take polygraph by my husband

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Well last Friday my husband forced me to take a lie detector test as he is convinced I cheated on him when away on a business trip. I have been with him for 32 years and married for 26. I have never had another sexual partner.
I passed the test and he is now very sorry but I am heartbroken that he could do this to me. I feel like I have been assaulted.
I don't think there is any going back from this.

Leave him

Get him to take the same test with same questions. I bet he will object.

Is he cheating?

Your relationship sounds seriously unhealthy.

This would completely destroy the marriage, for me. I don’t see how any relationship can come back from this - especially as it sounds as if this isn’t a one-off, totally out-of-character thing from him.

Being totally blunt, it doesn’t sound as if he is ever going to trust you, or let you live your life, and you deserve so much better.

Get him out of the house!!

I would have refused to take it. How incredibly controlling!

What is he going to do to lose you your job?

Keep your integrity, keep your job and your dingnity. End the relationship.
Despite the years you have together, walking on eggshells with the potential to be called every vile name in the book, manipulated until you admit to what he wants to hear is no life.
Why are you in this relationship?

I remember you previous posts about him filming you without your knowledge. Much of the advice on that thread still holds true.

He is abusive. He will not change. The National DV helpline is free and staffed 24/7, call them on 0800 20002247.

Go and see a solicitor so that when you feel ready you can leave him. He sounds unstable!

Who even has a polygraph handy?

He sounds unstable.
Time to get away from him.

My children are holding me back. They would be devastated

Your DC are being exposed to an unhealthy relationship - they see and hear way more than you think.

Do you want them to think this is normal and to model future relationships on yours?

Leaving this horrible controlling abusive bully will be the best thing for you and your DC. They can still have a relationship with him.

Leave him because of the children

Save them if you can't save yourself

How old are your children?

If adults, they'll know - they'll have grown up around it and seen more than you realise

How did he force you? What would have happened if you had said no?

This is unthinkable in most people's relationships.

Oh, he has done such a number on you.

3 of your kids are adults now. The youngest one should not be brought up round this man. He is financially and emotionally abusive.

Please leave.

And this is the same husband who just a couple of months ago you were tellng us filmed you having sex with him and you were absolutely furious about it?

Your children are not holding you back, you are obviously in abusive relationship and loosing confidence on yourself.

Do you want your children to grow up thinking that level of jealousy and distrust is the norm for relationships?

Get out before it gets worse. You don’t have to put yourself through such denigrating behaviour just to appease an insecure looser (sorry)

Op must be totally fucked up. There is no advising some people. They are too far gone down the rabbit hole.

Your children would see you choose happiness if you left him op, a fantastic thing to show them.
Don’t underestimate the destructive power of living in a toxic atmosphere, and there is no way that level of paranoia and control is not toxic.

3 of your kids are adults and the you fest is 13. Get out now. You had the same advice on your other thread. Why the hell are you still with him?