Waitress lifted baby without asking

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Was out today at a local cafe that I've been at once before with a friend and my DD 9 months. My DD was in a high hair when one of the waitresses came over, made some baby talk with her and then actually tried to lift her out, she was strapped in obviously so the waitress seemed to give up.

We had our food and my friend had took my DD out and was holding her, the same waitress as before came out and literally lifted my baby from my friends arms and actually walked away with her!! She walked to the other end of the cafe and seemed to want to show my baby to the other customers! I followed her and asked politely for my baby back
The waitress never asked me if she could do any of this btw.

Is this not totally uncalled for and inappropriate?

It definitely want a malicious act was it?

@Steeley113 I did not ask him to phone. He phoned without my knowledge. Perhaps you missed that part?

@areyoufuckingcrazy no I didn't and no it's not

What a hero he is

I’d of gone mad at him then, there’s no need for it. You’re not a damsel in distress

The cafe lady said she thought she was being helpful as you were being ready to leave. That's coming from a kind place.

Seriously you've made a complete hostile mountain over a misplaced act of kindness.

I would have been annoyed to. I am always worried in restaurants because if hot tea etc. But I would have also mase it clear to the waterss she was fine where she was. It's awful when you are uncomfortable to say anything.

@GetYourRocksOff that's what she told my DH, we weren't actually getting ready to leave, we were both sitting at our coffee. She told my DH that she didn't walk away with her, which she did.
Anyway this is pointless, I'm obv being unreasonable for not wanting someone else to lift my baby without asking me.

Steeley me too! I love these little acts of kindness. Youngest loves attention and will ask anyone for a cuddle, biggest DC would feel very grown up. I'd be happy for any amount of peace

That is so weird and in your position, I would ring up.

Not really an act of kindness if you're trying to pull someone's baby from a chair without any permission from the parents?

Ask if you're unreasonable, told you are being, doesn't accept it anyway..

I would have been utterly astonished and very cross if this had happened to me OP. I don't understand why the staff member cannot just ask first!! Totally different from a scenario where the staff member offers help or coos over the baby and then asks.

I'd find it totally unacceptable and would also be complaining.

From the restaurant owner's perspective, they should be livid too - imagine if the staff member had dropped / accidentally injured your baby?

I think if I went to another country and it happened I'd inwardly be feeling similar but would be aware of the cultural norms so would not be complaining.

I am agog at this. You complained about this?!

@Tollygunge no. Please read properly

When my DD was about 7 months I was queing in santander when one of the tellers spotted her. He left his seat, round the secure glass to me, exclaiming how she was the cutest baby ever. He asked for a cuddle, I passed DD to him. He then carried DD to the back office to show her off. DD smiled the whole time.

People need to be taught that it isnt okay to pick up or touch a strangers child, never unless they are doing so to protect the child from danger.
A woman tried to pick my 3 year old up yesterday who shouted no followed by the woman continueing saying 'dont worry, its okay' No its bloddy not okay.
Think how you would feel if a man twice your size kept trying to touch you and pick you up, nope please dont touch my children without mine or their permission.
Complain OP.

YANBU.

You do not pick up someone else's baby, without asking for permission first.

In which situation do you ever pick up a strangers baby without asking mum?

Talk about precious.
Think sweet and kind.
I know we have to be careful about nutters but most people are not nutters and it was a public place.
Happened to me lots of times abroad.
One time in Turkey the staff took one of dc in the (open) kitchen to do the washing Up.

Op
A couple more kids down the line you might be grateful for someone to hold your dc for 5 min while you enjoy your coffee.