I've been stressing about this for hours so thought I'd ask here...
I live in a tiny village and a mum at the school approached me 2 days ago to ask if I could pick up her son on Thurs (today) if for any reason another mum I know, couldn't.
I don't really know this woman and have had about 4 interactions with her. My dd doesn't play with her boy and I'm a stranger to him and her. She said it was so she could go to hospital. I was so taken aback I said yes. In the back of my mind I thought it would be ok as other Mum earmarked would surely do it.
I picked up her boy today and she's really annoyed me and made me worry she's crossing the line.
Some background: she stands at the bottom of the school gates. I used to give a polite smile as I went in until one day she unnervingly stared at me walking up the street and made a growl noise. I felt I had to ask if she was ok. She launched into a big rant about how she's too obese to get up the steps so teachers have to bring her boy out and how she goes to physio for her bad back. I made sort of soothing murmured sentences to acknowledge and tried to go, only for her to repeatedly call me back to tell me more about her ailments. I kept excusing myself but she didn't get the hint and was calling after me.
After that I was on opposite side of road and she was walking in the other direction. She started calling over the traffic to me. I gave a quick wave acknowledgement but she kept shouting. I thought it must be urgent and crossed over as I couldn't hear. She was just talking about ANYTHING and started telling me about how her ex / ds father abused her in every way and was having sex with the family dog etc etc. I don't shock easily but I was thrown that she was randomly telling me. She asked my name and was keen to tell me hers. I kept saying I needed to go and she ignored all of my attempts until I said "OK IM GOING "and even then she called after me which I ignored....
The last time I talked to her was her coming to the school door and poked me from behind to say she wasn't ignoring me, she was busy playing her game. I hadn't even noticed her. She then launched into big convo about her new pills and I was quite embarrassed so didn't say much. She got them out and started waving them in my face going on about the dosage. I kept saying "oh ok I don't know about that"
So, she asks me to have her boy over and I say yes. She then proceeds to walk down the street with me and say she will walk to my house so she knows where I am. She then tells me the other mum CANT do it so will I just do it? I agreed because I'm a soft touch. She said she didn't have an appointment time just turn up and wait ( when I asked ) about the hospital. Her boy was talking about playing with my dd and what day was he going and she starts telling him how I will give him dinner etc! Her boy was talking as though he had already been told he would be coming to mine.. He's very sweet and doesn't have any friends. He told me how he hasn't ever been to someone's house to play and enjoyed himself. I fed him etc.
His mother text saying she would be later than she thought...
my DH who wasn't there, said he doesn't like this woman and when she walked home with me he saw her on the doorstep. He said she will be constantly asking for favours and he doesn't trust her, she's brazen and doesn't want her in the house. I do agree there's something that makes me think she is trouble and I also didn't want her coming in.
When she collected him she told me she had waited for hours at the hospital and showed me her dressing on her arm. Turns out she was getting her implant changed?! She turned up with her BOYFRIEND who could clearly have picked up the boy?! She went to the hospital on the bus. She then casually dropped that they then went CHRISTMAS SHOPPING after the hospital and it was very busy! I didn't know what to say so let it go. Her DS Then starts saying how my other child likes dinousars and she says ok now we know what to get for his birthday. Her ds asks when that is and her mother then tells him the correct birth date?! Apparently when she told me on the walk back to my house how her boy was born just after xmas I had briefly said oh yes me too, 3 jan. She's memorised it?! She then said she's away on 3 jan so will DROP A GIFT IN FOR HIM over the school holidays! We are off until 9/1 and the idea of being on edge that she will just randomly drop by fills me with dread.
I don't want to do this Mum anymore favours as she went off xmas shopping with her bf while making out it was a crisis someone have her boy. I hate she knows where I live and doesn't pick up on social cues. I already feel on tenterhooks she will be coming over during the holidays.
She makes me feel uncomfortable and I find it concerning she went into massive sexual detail about herself and her ex.... I can walk the back way to school at a big inconvenience but any advice on distancing yourself from such a person? She doesn't take no for an answer and in a way is quite intimidating.