If you saw this?

[callmehannahbaker]

A mum quite happily conversing with her roughly 8/9 year old in a restaurant at this time, daughter being good, mum drinking a full bottle of white to herself?

I wouldn’t care. Why would anyone?

Mind my own business.

Just overheard a couple discussing how it was a disgrace to be drinking that much with a child and wondered-I didn't clock it until I heard!

As parenting fueled by wine or gin is celebrated on MN no doubt everyone's going to tell you it's totally fine.

Is it you drinking the wine?

How does anyone possibly notice what a stranger is drinking anyway?

There's drinking and there's drunking. If mum got up and reached for her car keys I'd butt in.

I would do nothing, but I would silently judge .

I think I'm the real world most people would.

Not me, no-there is a wine bottle on the table so I'd guess that's how they can tell!

Fine as long as she isn't drunk!

I wouldn't be drunk in a bottle of wine. I'd be normal so if say fine.

Depends how she acts with it

Why are they watching what others are drinking?! Bonkers.

No I don't think I'm the real world at all, clearly my phone does .

Was meant to say in the real world!

I'd be under the table these days!

maybe her dh was with them for a meal and had to leave for some reason, did you see her drink the whole bottle?
I don't nosey at what others are doing especially if like you say her dd is happy and there's no drama! Just enjoy your meal.

I'd find it a bit odd. Tbh I don't like drinking around my children. Maybe because both my parents were alcoholics not that I'm suggesting this lady is. I know other parents who do it and there kids are fine, personally I don't like it.
As someone said before she could of had other company that had left

Why's it disgraceful?

I would be shocked but, unless she was driving or very obviously drunk, I wouldn't do anything. As the daughter of an alholic mother I would feel bad about not acting but what could I realistically do? I would just hope that the wine was actually non-alcoholic and the mother greedy I suppose.

A bottle of wine to yourself is heavy drinking. Fine every now and then but not great if you need it when taking your kids out for a meal.
I think it does stand out. Tables are close together in restaurants so you can’t help but notice someone else’s meal etc.
I like a drink but not when on my own with the kids.

For those interested, she asked if she could take the rest of her bottle and left with just under half in her bag. She didn't seem drunk and her daughter was fine. The other couple tutted a lot.

Some people are so judgy. Aren't we supposed to let a drop of alcohol pass our lips from the moment we conceive until the moment they leave home?

So she didn't drink the whole bottle, but had a few glasses from it and took the rest home? I think thats fine. But even if she sat at the table and drank a whole bottle, unless she was being loud and abusive, then its no ones business.

So she had 2 'medium' (175ml) glasses of wine. Would anyone have even noticed if they had been brought individually, rather than poured from a (later doggy-bagged) bottle on the table?

That's still quite a lot at one sitting (5ish units). If she was drinking that amount daily, it could be a problem. But you wouldn't know that from seeing her once.

It’s a lot in one sitting. She will be drunk enough not to be able to drive and you can also wonder how quick her reactions will be if anything happens.

What I am are the comments from some posters of how it’s ok if she isn’t drunk...
Errr... she will drunk exactely the same way wether she is showing signs or being drunk or not.
Even if after half a bottle she is not looking drunk, she will still have the same amount of alcohol in the blood and it will affect her in the same way (eg how quick her reactions are or how appropriate). It’s nit because she isn’t staggering or slurring in her speech that she isnt drunk.... (Same than with functioning alcoholics who don’t show any signs of being drunk but are still drunk....)

Is there any chance it could have been non alcoholic wine?
I remember getting a few judgy looks and tuts for having a few large glasses of non alcoholic wine while heavily pregnant

Ragingfeminist you are wrong actually. I can drink like for like with my sister and drink a half bottle of wine and be totally fine. It's not affected my reaction time at all or my speech or thought process whilst she's tipsy.

Alcohol does affect everyone different.

mapi.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/saywhen/know-the-facts/alcohol-and-driving-blood-alcohol-concentration

Two glasses of wine with dinner I see no issue with op. As long as she wasn't driving obviously.

Funnyfarmer I've had that whilst drinking Becks Blue whilst breastfeeding. Not whilst pregnant, as I only looked pregnant from the side, even at 9.5 months!