At the end of my tether. I've been married for 2 years (together for 8) and we've got a 7 year old lad who is currently being supported by SENCO and we are awaiting a diagnosis for adhd/autism. I'm holding down a part time job and also self employed, he keeps flitting from crap paid job to crap paid job.
Now, during the week my husband is lovely. Bone idle but a bloke who's company I genuinely enjoy keeping. Weekend comes along and I can't stand him. He does nothing with our son, spends literally the whole weekend from Friday night until Sunday night sat on his chair in the kitchen listening to music, playing his online games (free, no money involved now...he used to spend about £100 every month on his game!) and binge drinking (if we're skint he will borrow money to drink). He gets through roughly 2-3 bottles of wine and about 25-30 cans of cider or beer every weekend. The whole time virtually ignoring me and my son (he periodically spends the odd 5 mins here and there winding me up and play fighting with our son, throughout the weekend). Days out or even a few hours out rarely happen. If I do anything with the little one it's either with my mum or by myself. If I work at the weekend I come home to a shit hole and despite my tough job as a carer for residents with late stage dementia, he barely says a word as I get home and start cleaning the house. It's like he doesn't even think of anyone other than himself!
In a nutshell, as a father he is loving but not the most hands on (to put it politely). As a husband he's not horrible or nasty but he's not attentive and never makes me feel special. He's a lazy twat! 😂 He's clearly got a problem with drink but I married a man who I knew was once a heroin addict. He's fought and beat what must be an awful addiction so should I be a bit more supportive of the fact he drinks heavily? It's not as if he's abusive when he drinks. Or is it time to leave? And yes, I have spoken to him about this before and he will listen but it is forgotten about within a few days.