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Restricted list on Facebook

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IndependentMum · 15/09/2017 19:57

Hi, I've felt the need to add a couple of people onto the restricted list on facebook this evening. One of the mums at school who seems to know all of my business but never 'likes' my posts, and a couple of ex boyfriends. I don't particularly want to unfriend these people as I know particularly with the mum at school it would cause drama. But at the same time I don't want to share things with people who I can't fully trust. Do other people use this restricted list or is it better to unfriend full stop?

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AccrualIntentions · 15/09/2017 19:59

Why do you care if she "likes" your posts? I can understand not wanting people knowing your business (that's why I don't put my business on Facebook) but the way you've written it is as though it's the not liking thing that's made you restrict her

Anasnake · 15/09/2017 19:59

I've unfollowed loads, never see anything they post (Britain First shit, that type of thing).

Fannylodger · 15/09/2017 20:01

😂😂😂😂😂😂
If you don't want people knowing your business, don't post?
An adult old enough to have children is upset that another adult doesn't like enough of her posts? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wooooooow. I think I just stepped into another reality. Get over yourself.

Redglitter · 15/09/2017 20:02

I'd unfriend them quite honestly. You're not obliged to have people as FB friends. I certainly wouldn't have an ex seeing my posts. Although I honestly can't get bothered about whether people like my posts or not. Why do you care?

KweenOfFarts · 15/09/2017 20:02

Ei put few on restricted as it just to much drama to delete them and I don't care to share my worldly interesting news. me I personally don't give a fuck being deleted

AfunaMbatata · 15/09/2017 20:03

Grow up.

LoveMyLittleSuperhero · 15/09/2017 20:04

I can understand what you mean (though possibly not worded how you meant). Is it that she shows no signs of interest in you and your life but then suddenly knows everything. Hence assuming she's looking at your fb profile as opposed to random things appearing on her timeline?
To your question though. Yes I have a group on my restricted list, people who I don't share stuff with but I also don't want the drama of unfriending them.

QueenMortificado · 15/09/2017 20:05

Grow up.

^ seconded

AlphaStation · 15/09/2017 20:06

Why not put them on the list, that way you could still contact them on messenger if you want to. Not so easy if they've dropped off your list. But if you decide to delete, chances are they wouldn't even notice it. People have hundreds of "friends", and wouldn't notice who dropped off the list. Who'd seriously go over their list if the number count dropped from e.g. 486 to 485 ?

FriendshipBraclet · 15/09/2017 20:08

I have loads of people in restricted as I don't want them to see my posts. Especially when I use Facebook for school mums and Hobbie groups. Don't understand the criticism you're getting.

MissNobody · 15/09/2017 20:08

Not liking posts but keeping you as a friend on FB is odd. There's lots of passive-aggressive behaviour on FB, so that's why your 'friend' is probably purposely ignoring you. FB is a load of crap anyhow.

To the pp telling the op to grow up - do you condone cyber bullying? Cos in my book it's as bad as any other type of bullying.

MaisyPops · 15/09/2017 20:12

I have someone added who I added to be nice after they'd done loads of bitching about how left out they were etc.

They've clearly got me on restricted and I'll be honest that (combined with how much drama they created when playing the victim) makes me question her and think she's a bit sly.

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IndependentMum · 15/09/2017 20:17

The reason i'm suspicious of the mum who has stopped 'liking' my posts is because she's started being passive aggressive in real life so i'm wary of her. She was completely over the top with me previous to this, 'loving' my posts and always commenting. I've noticed toxic behaviour from her and don't want her seeing all my stuff. I certainly don't condone cyber bullying having been a victim of it myself. Didn't expect such nasty responses .. wow, this site is an eye opener!

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IndependentMum · 15/09/2017 20:19

Thankyou MissNobody for your response about the cyber bullying :-)

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Fridayfun · 15/09/2017 20:19

If probably unfriend the ex's but would put the school mum on restricted. Restricted lists are very handy as is the acquaintance list. I have some school mum/neighbours on an acquaintance list. It means they can see some stuff I post if I chose but generally they don't see much but enough to know I haven't defriended them do no drama.

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IndependentMum · 15/09/2017 20:24

Thankyou Fridayfun that's what I was thinking.

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Threehoursfromhome · 15/09/2017 20:24

Yes, I do this all the time. I have a couple of different restricted lists. There's some family members, and a friend's husband who is too familiar, who I don't really want to be facebook friends with, but whom it would cause drama to unfriend. They are on my permanent block list and don't see anything I post. But I have also lived in a number of different places, so if I am posting about events related to one city, I only share it with those friends who live there. Likewise if I'm posting about something I'm working on, I only post it to a list of people I know are interested in my area.

I think Facebook would generally be better, if more people realised they didn't have to share everything with everyone. But I get around that by strategic unfollowing.

CallingPeopleACuntOnFb · 15/09/2017 20:25

Tbh I'm with op

I find it odd when people have you as a friend but never like / comment / message yet know all your business . I just delete the nosey fuckers

MaisyPops · 15/09/2017 20:43

calling
I don't get it either. I'd happily delete the nosey drama queen but it's not worth the fall out.

I only bloody added her through trying to be nice after she'd stirred up drama at and I thought I'd make an effort.
Now she still is nice as pie to everyone new but is bit frosty and fake with me. If i delete her then she'll just start off on the victim shit again.
In other words is a sly bitch who has created a situation where if you challenge her directly or indirectly you can't win.

So my response is to say nothing, let her think she's some kind of queen bee whilst smugly knowing what a manipative cow she is.

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IndependentMum · 15/09/2017 20:44

Thanks for the responses, agreed maybe I should have clarified in my original post the further details. I'm not one of those people who gets offended by lack of 'likes', but I do get offended when people seem to be deliberately ignoring the rare things I post on FB but then mention in real life stuff to me that they've clearly seen but chose not to respond to. It's weird!

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CallingPeopleACuntOnFb · 15/09/2017 20:46

Exactly independent!

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IndependentMum · 15/09/2017 20:46

MaisyPops you've summed up the situation with the school mum I was on about. I can spot fakeness a mile off. I don't want to give her the pleasure of unfriending her so she can play victim and smear me, like these types do!

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CallingPeopleACuntOnFb · 15/09/2017 20:46

And Maisy she sounds awful

MaisyPops · 15/09/2017 20:55

She is calling.But goes around adding everyone at work, brown nosing and charming her way around. I spot it a mile off, as do a couple of other colleagues.

What's worse is I she thinks I'm buying her shite and that I'm sitting around feeling so out og the loop. The reality is I think she is a fake cow who would stab anyone in the back.

OP i feel your pain. I went to uni with someone like that too. Stirs shit but acts fake and insecure ao nobody can challenge them without tears and drama.

Starlight2345 · 15/09/2017 21:00

I have a restricted people on my list..One of my DS's best friends in preschool..Not friends in school , I never spoke to mum, kids never spoke so I deleted..Year 5 boys became really good friends again.. I had to say I don't have your contact details..Easier to restrict till DS is old enough to make his own plans

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