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Need serious advice please on my sister

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:40

Ok so I haven't seen my older sister on over two years now. She cut me off after abusing me on Facebook saying awful things about me personally to hurt me with no fact to it. We never got on that well as she is very high maintenance and very aggressive if challenged such as her being offensive and me calling her out on it. She would be rude to me in my own home and storm out if I confronted her she got married without giving me the date but as she's my sister I dressed up and went to support her but was told by her father in law to fuck off so I left in tears :( (unforgivable) she's now divorced.
Over the years she had called me up crying down the phone telling me how sorry she was about the way she treats me and of course I forgive and start again I'm not confrontational in any way
But for two years we have not been in contact I went my own way and even left the city to move on happily with my life
Well now I have heard she's Asking for my number and wants to see me SHOCK ! But I don't think I can anymore:( she's apparently looking bad and upset so i have heard
She left her husband for another man a few years ago and this other man is a well known bad boy (illegal)
And apparently he's left her so obviously this is why she now wants a relationship or whatever!
I don't know if iv can anymore I have given up with her and moved on but others are telling me to just see her she that she's my sister can I just point out also that she didn't only disown me for what ever reasons she saw fit she also did the same to our father and two other sisters and our brother who has autism ! And is the loveliest soul in the world :(
What would you do ?

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IncidentalAnarchist · 26/07/2017 19:41

Hang on. You weren't invited to her wedding but turned up anyway?! Shock

Anecdoche · 26/07/2017 19:42

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:43

She didn't tell me I wasn't invited thought it was just her being petty so I went as she's my sister and we was ok so I thought and got told infront of everyone including her own neices to fuck off

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PurpleDaisies · 26/07/2017 19:43

Going to her wedding when you weren't invited was a big mistake.

I'd meet her in a public place and see what she's got to say. You aren't committed to reestablishing a relationship but it might be interesting to see what she says.

Anecdoche · 26/07/2017 19:43

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:45

No I was not told I wasn't allowed to go to my own sisters wedding I would not of gone if she said to me not to but no one did so of course I went

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PurpleDaisies · 26/07/2017 19:46

I'm confused. Could you explain why she wouldn't give you the date?

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:46

My uncle texted me on the day of her wedding telling me to go and that if I didn't I would regret it so if course I went I had no idea I would be sent away like that it was horrible to be honest

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MrsEzekiel · 26/07/2017 19:47

Your post barely makes any sense. I would see what she has to say for herself and see if she's offering an olive branch. As per PP, meet in public. If it goes tits up this time I'd write the relationship off.

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:48

I'm not sure why she didn't i met up with her in Tesco after my dad told me the news of her very soon wedding day and she confirmed it lol but said nothing more I asked if I could see the dress etc she brushed me off saying her and her best mate have sorted it NICE

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:49

The more I'm writing the more I'm wondering why ild even consider hearing her out

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 20:16

What do you find hard to make sense of? Il try and explain

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PurpleDaisies · 26/07/2017 20:17

I can't make head not tail of what happened with your sister's wedding.

MrsEzekiel · 26/07/2017 20:19

I found the wall of text and lack of punctuation made it hard to read.

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 20:23

Sorry I tend not to worry about punctuation on these threads lol and il explain the wedding
I got told by my dad that my sister was getting married on this date.
I then saw my sister following day and she confirmed it she was very off with me and didn't talk much about it I then get a text from my uncle telling me to attend as it's my sister as I was in two minds but I went to show support I was never told not to go of course I would go it's her wedding day lol
So i get there with my two young children all dressed up and the father in law (her inlaw) walks up to me very aggressively and tells me loudly to fuck off! I left in tears when I confronted my sister a week later she said she had no idea he done this but clearly she did or why would that of happened it was awful and humiliating

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Groovee · 26/07/2017 20:24

As someone who is NC with a half sibling due to similar treatment, I wouldn't give her another chance.

AmysTiara · 26/07/2017 20:25

I wouldn't give her another chance.

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 20:25

The sad thing is she must of noticed I was not there ? That's what Makes me think she must of told him to say this to me.! But why!?

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PurpleDaisies · 26/07/2017 20:26

Ok. I think I get it now. She didn't invite you but you weren't specifically told not to come.

It's entirely possible she had no knowledge of another relative telling you to get out. I don't think you can blame her for the actions of somebody else.

redannie118 · 26/07/2017 20:28

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SolomanDaisy · 26/07/2017 20:31

You should meet her, because it's pretty clear that from her perspective you're the one who behaved badly. (Imagine the thread about the uninvited wedding guest turning up. And her FIL is unlikely to have told you to fuck off if he'd only ever heard good things about you). So maybe you can meet up and both move on. You'll need to try and see her perspective though.

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 20:32

She's my sister I didn't even know this man how is that justified?
Of course she had something to do with it lol

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 20:33

Have never done her wrong in her life always was there for her so no I disagree

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 20:33

And I was not UNINVITED LOL

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mydietstartsmonday · 26/07/2017 20:40

I wouldn't bother to be honest. Look after yourself and let her sort herself out.