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Need serious advice please on my sister

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Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 19:40

Ok so I haven't seen my older sister on over two years now. She cut me off after abusing me on Facebook saying awful things about me personally to hurt me with no fact to it. We never got on that well as she is very high maintenance and very aggressive if challenged such as her being offensive and me calling her out on it. She would be rude to me in my own home and storm out if I confronted her she got married without giving me the date but as she's my sister I dressed up and went to support her but was told by her father in law to fuck off so I left in tears :( (unforgivable) she's now divorced.
Over the years she had called me up crying down the phone telling me how sorry she was about the way she treats me and of course I forgive and start again I'm not confrontational in any way
But for two years we have not been in contact I went my own way and even left the city to move on happily with my life
Well now I have heard she's Asking for my number and wants to see me SHOCK ! But I don't think I can anymore:( she's apparently looking bad and upset so i have heard
She left her husband for another man a few years ago and this other man is a well known bad boy (illegal)
And apparently he's left her so obviously this is why she now wants a relationship or whatever!
I don't know if iv can anymore I have given up with her and moved on but others are telling me to just see her she that she's my sister can I just point out also that she didn't only disown me for what ever reasons she saw fit she also did the same to our father and two other sisters and our brother who has autism ! And is the loveliest soul in the world :(
What would you do ?

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PurpleDaisies · 26/07/2017 20:41

It's obvious you've got no interest in reconciling with her so maybe it's best not to waste anyone's time.

SonicBoomBoom · 26/07/2017 20:44

Too much drama.

I think it's best for you to just stay no contact with her, your relationship isn't a positive influence on either of you.

Mumzzy88 · 26/07/2017 23:01

If you feel I'm wasting time don't reply maybe I needed options on what others may do

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GreenTulips · 26/07/2017 23:08

You don't own her anything - you are grown ups

If she adds nothing to your life then treat her like an ex colleague - civil when together but otherwise not really in your thoughts

AND stop doing what others tell you to do - you have no idea of their agenda- think for yourself and do what's best for you

rollonthesummer · 26/07/2017 23:11

People usually get invites to weddings. The fact that you didn't get one but decided to turn up anyone is a little odd.

Emily7708 · 27/07/2017 00:37

Don't give her any more chances, she will drag you back down with her drama then upset you again and you'll be back where you started. Pretend you don't have an older sister and carry on enjoying your life.

I've been no contact with my only sibling for ten years now. It's a bit sad for the first couple of years I suppose but now I don't know if they are even alive and couldn't care less.

IshipTomHardysohard · 27/07/2017 01:33

I would not get back in touch with her. She is just looking to fill a void till some other man takes her fancy.

Keep doing what your doing and live your life.

I've got a sister like yours, also has done some unforgivable things. We haven't spoken in 8 years and it's the most peace I've had in my life.

SonicBoomBoom · 27/07/2017 01:54

I think you have misunderstood Purple's post. She means don't waste anyone's time meaning yours and your sisters, as you're never going to be bosom buddies, so why put in all the effort and time of trying to regain a relationship when you'll just resent each other and fall out again soon.

PurpleDaisies · 27/07/2017 07:47

Thanks sonic that was exactly what I meant.

Mumzzy88 · 27/07/2017 08:37

No one got sent invites was a very fast last minute wedding was done by her telling people lol

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Mumzzy88 · 27/07/2017 09:29

And I agree I think I may have to leave this got enough going on as it is

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WellThisIsShit · 02/08/2017 03:47

Do you Ike drama and huge public scenes?

If yes, then carry on being in touch with her. If no, play it cool and polite, yet distant, and don't get anywhere near her.

That's the choice, by the sounds of it.

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