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Wwyd surprise puppy

28 replies

hillsideboy · 16/07/2017 21:05

^^Just wondering what others might do in this situation and if you think it's a gd or bad idea..?

I have the chance to surprise my husband and kids with a puppy on wed. I can get her tmro but DH & DS1 8 & DS2 5 are away atm until wed. We already have a dog atm and everyone loves him and wouldn't be without him the kids help with feeding and water etc.. but he is my dog.

My DH works and I don't so I can look after the 2 dogs and we have the room, but when I joked about it DH wasn't very keen on the idea and made alot of excuses as to why it wouldnt be ideal ie hols away, insurances ans if the dogs didnt get along but he wasn't saying definitely not either.. (as he definitely didn't want DS1 to get a rabbit)

So I'm wondering should I get her tmro or not risk it incase it backfires on me and he doesn't like the surprise ? & I end up in the dog house 🤔

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Hoppinggreen · 16/07/2017 21:09

Don't do it
Animals should not be a surprise to anyone in the family - everyone should be on board with it even if it will mainly be " your" dog

InfiniteSheldon · 16/07/2017 21:10

In my experience two dogs are happier than one, if you really want anither dig and can afford another dog and will be the one looking after the dog I'd get her/him. But then again my DH wouldn't dream of saying no and just bought me a white chihuahua soon probably not the best person to answer Grin

kellogssquareofkrispierice · 16/07/2017 22:22

I wouldn't do it

Your husband needs to be on board with this. I would be really upset if I was surprised with a puppy and all his reasons for saying no are entirely valid

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NorthernLurker · 16/07/2017 22:24

This isn't a 'surprise', this is you insisting on getting your own way and with a puppy in the middle of it. Bad idea.

TheHobbitMum · 16/07/2017 22:25

I'd consult your husband, he deserves to have a say in the decision. If he agrees you can still surprise the kids?

KoalaDownUnder · 16/07/2017 22:26

No!!! Terrible idea.

Don't get a dog when the other adult in the house is not 100% onboard. It's bloody irresponsible and will only backfire on the poor dog.

ZippyCameBack · 16/07/2017 22:28

This sounds like a really bad idea. Training a puppy can be a nightmare, as I'm sure you know, and everyone needs to be on board with the idea.

RebootYourEngine · 16/07/2017 22:28

My exh did this and it was all part of his controlling behaviour.

picklemepopcorn · 16/07/2017 22:31

No. This is getting your own way while pretending it is a nice thing done for other people.

Wolfiefan · 16/07/2017 22:35

Bloody awful idea. No pet should be a surprise. You discuss it and make a decision together. This would just be you bringing a potentially unwanted animal into the home and then trying to guilt DH into keeping it. Awful idea.

DramaAlpaca · 16/07/2017 22:36

DH did this and he was seriously in the doghouse over it.

I forgave him and I love the dog now & wouldn't be without her, but I was not happy at all at first.

tabulahrasa · 16/07/2017 22:37

Anyone that will let you have a puppy a safe a surprise is dodgy...

tabulahrasa · 16/07/2017 22:38

A safe? Wtf? Lol

As a

Willow2017 · 17/07/2017 00:08

Terrible idea.
Your oh has given his reasons why he doesn't want another dog you should respect that. An animal isn't a surprise you can get rid of when it's not wanted like a book or a toy.

Showing your kids that thier dad's opinions don't matter is pretty crap too.

SistersOfPercy · 18/07/2017 12:31

In my experience two dogs are happier than one

I had the opposite experience. When one of our boys died the other became a different dog. Happier, more outgoing.
We felt guilty that having the second had so obviously affected him.

ZippyCameBack · 19/07/2017 19:18

We have to have dogs, to herd the sheep, so several times we have brought in a new puppy to train up while the older dog is still fit enough to set an example. Sometimes it goes well and sometimes it doesn't. Poor old Shep never did get on with the new sheepdog despite gradual introduction etc. They had to be separated in the end because we just couldn't stop them from fighting.

Floralnomad · 19/07/2017 19:24

2 dogs wouldn't be happier in our house , my dog would hate to share and only has a select few doggy friends that he will tolerate . As an aside I wouldn't get a dog from anywhere or anyone that would let you take one without knowing that the entire household was onboard with the idea so it's probably a BYB or puppy farm .

BiteyShark · 19/07/2017 19:29

Bringing in a new dog to the home should be based on a sensible discussion. Although my DH knew I wanted a dog he would have never surprised me with one because it is a big decision and not one that should be foisted on anyone.

CornflakeHomunculus · 19/07/2017 19:48

Aside from the fact that you really need all adults on board before bringing a new pet into the house, no decent breeder/rescue would be happy to let a puppy go as a surprise without having met the whole family first.

NellieFiveBellies · 19/07/2017 19:52

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iwantedanap · 19/07/2017 20:03

Well, but you'd be surprising him with something he doesn't want then? I don't think that's very fair on anybody. If you're really keen on a puppy you need to agree on it as a family, visit several times and introduce your existing dog to him or her. Then you can be sure you're giving the puppy a great home.

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hillsideboy · 20/07/2017 08:44

Surprise went well. Dh love her and isn't annoyed at all. (Knew he wanted one really lol) Kids are over the moon and loved playing with her and helping her do her pees etc.

Same can't be said for MIL who is raging but I don't care.. one more reason for her not to visit 🤞
Thanks for all the replies tho

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Wolfiefan · 20/07/2017 11:20

He doesn't want a puppy.
You want a puppy.
You get a surprise puppy.
Still think it's a crap idea. How have you budgeted for increased costs if you haven't even spoken to the only person earning in the house?

fucketyfuckety · 20/07/2017 12:21

And the award for the most pointless thread is.....
Op: is it a good idea to get a puppy as a surprise?

MN: no, a really bad idea.

Op: I got one!! It went well.

Why did you bother posting?

Wolfiefan · 20/07/2017 12:25

And this dog has definitely not come from a reputable source. No decent breeder or rescue would let a pup go to a family if they hadn't met you all and met your existing dog too.

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