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Has anyone ever 'hidden' from an unwanted visitor?

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N0tNowBernard · 12/04/2017 16:58

Like actually, blinds closed, cowering upstairs in the nursery?... Just wondering Confused Said visitor has already been round a few times this week and I need some time to do jobs as well as working myself. Visits always spill over into teatime too so left with the awkwardness of do I offer tea or not.
No judgements on the how's and whys, all you need to know is that it's necessary!
Please tell me someone else has done this too!

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Thinkingofausername1 · 27/04/2017 21:10

I used to hide from the window cleaners.
I found them a bit sleazy and in the end cancelled them

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 30/04/2017 19:09

A friend and I decided to spend NYE quietly, just the two of us (BC).

I had a NDN who would often come in uninvited, eat all my food, turn the TV over...

When we wouldn't answer the door, she started trying to loop a hairband through the letterbox, to hook it onto the inside door handle and let herself in!

We ended up having to gaffer tape the letterbox up!

You couldn't make it up...

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 30/04/2017 19:27

In university halls a rather intense guy from the floor below was knocking on my friend's door to chat. My friend was ignoring him as he was watching TV and intense guy could talk for hours and hours. So intense guy decides to kick his door in! He said afterwards he was worried that he was unwell because he didn't answer.... There was a disagreement about who paid for the kicked in door, in the end Intense Guy paid (and is probably still yakking on about the injustice of it all)

expatinscotland · 30/04/2017 19:33

I never answer the door unless it's someone I'm expecting.

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 30/04/2017 19:35

A new neighbour popped around with a delivery she'd signed for, I invited her in for a cuppa and we had a pleasant getting to know you chat.... Until I asked her about her work, and she launched into a v v detailed description of her grievances against her boss. I could hardly get a word in edgeways, couldn't understand the details as it was industry specific, and all hints to leave fell flat.

Eventually my baby started crying and I said I was putting her to bed, but neighbour stayed sitting on my sofa. I was too surprised to say anything! I spent a good 45 mins breastfeeding baby in bed and she still didn't leave. My dh came home and got straight in the shower, I had to dash in to warn him not to wander out in his towel! When he was dressed he went into the living room and she started chatting to him as if it was completely normal to meet someone in their living room. Eventually I emerged from our bedroom and cooked dinner.... Still she stayed. Eventually I said very pointedly "dh would you like your dinner now, it is getting cold" and she left.

We exchange deliveries on the door step now!

booksandtea · 30/04/2017 20:02

I was hiding from an unwanted visitor once , upstairs in the bedroom . The door bell was going for ages and I didn't answer but it turned out that the decorator up a ladder at the house opposite who knows me and also knows the visitor was saying ' i'm certain books is in , i saw her just ten minutes ago and i haven't seen her leave the house . Mobile started ringing and visitor eventually sloped off but then i felt duty bound to hide from the decorator . Bu the time i could come out of hiding i wished i had just answered the door !

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N0tNowBernard · 17/05/2017 18:59

AllroadsleadbacktoRadley I'm intrigued as to how you managed to get the gaffer tape on whilst they were attempting to loop the hair band around and would love to have seen that! I bet you and your friend were laughing your heads off! Bloody hell, these people. It's an epidemic!

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 17/05/2017 19:21

Where we live people can't really just knock on the door thank god! But in other houses I have hidden plenty of times and refused to answer callers that were uninvited.

BUT I recall one time immediately ,when as a teen I had a really big cluster of spots and I had a joyous squeezing session. So my face was bright red and a bit gouged Blush The doorbell went , I peeked out of the window and it was a guy I had been seeing and he too was a bit spotty but really really liked and there was no way I was answering it looking like that so I yelled to my younger DB not to answer it and why I couldn't possibly see said crush and I stayed hiding upstairs.

I looked out of the window to see my crush walk back down the driveway with a large bunch of flowers and drive off .I asked DB what was said he said something along the lines of '' crush asked if you were in and I told him yes but she doesn't want to see you as you have got spots, instead of she has got spots which would still be bad but not as bad! I still cringe even now.

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N0tNowBernard · 18/05/2017 13:49

Fluffy pink oh no!!! Just goes to show brothers can't be trusted Wink

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londonpia · 18/05/2017 13:55

My dad was very ill- lots of heart problems. He would go to for a walk, to the top of the road, and get breathless, but his doctor told him to keep it up. It was the only time he would leave the house, he was so poorly.
My mums cousin lived on the same road so Dad would often walk up, pop in for a glass of water and make his way home. The cousin was often at work, or playing golf, or busy shagging his secretary so the cousins wife was at home. When the cousin found out he told his wife that neighbours would think they (dad and cousins wife) were having an affair, and told her to tell him not to visit. She couldn't do it so she just ignored the doorbell.

I only found out the story after my Dad died, and I have never forgiven them for it.

Adarajames · 18/05/2017 15:35

Woman up all of you! Come on, don't be such walk overs! Visiting someone unannounced isn't rude, it's called being friendly / neighbourly; staying / pushing in when told it's not a good time IS rude however, but these people won't learn that if you hide from them! I can never understand on this and similar threads why anyone would put up with this purplexed look

User06383 · 18/05/2017 15:42

Yes! Perfectly acceptable 😎

User06383 · 18/05/2017 19:21

Yes! The worst offender is here for the second time this week, I'm hoping he goes home before 9pm, he likes to arrive shortly before DS goes to bed, rile him playing with him (which would be great if he did it an hour or too earlier), then talk really loudly so DS doesn't fall asleep before then sitting on our sofa in silence until 9.30pm...

So I'm doing my fucking tax return instead!

User06383 · 18/05/2017 19:38

sobs so we are going for dinner with the offender tomorrow.

Then he said it would be great as he could have a few drinks and stay over.

SHOOT ME NOW.

I may start charging rent at this rate

P1nkSparkles · 18/05/2017 19:41

I would if I could!!

We have a glass front door.... it's hard to hide & when both mine and DH's families call uninvited and can see that it looks like i'm on the sofa holding DD or breastfeeding her they "don't want to disturb" so try the door and let themselves in... quite often I've left the door unlocked because I've been wrestling with prams, dogs & car seats and forgotten to go back.

Apparently the fact that I don't like people just walking in when I've got my breasts out or enjoying a cuddle with my daughter is unusual & I'm grumpy and miserable for telling them not to drop in, not being more welcoming or asking people to at least text before they turn up...

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N0tNowBernard · 19/05/2017 10:15

User06383 when someone tells you they can stay over! I know the feeling and that is the hardest to say no to without sounding like an arse.
With my Visitor (same person that this thread is about) years ago me and hubby went away for the night and she offered to house sit (she lived in a flat share and didn't get on with a particular flat mate so wanted to get away for a night too) so we said please don't have anyone over but that would be great to housesit. When we returned she said "Oh I wanted to go to the gym and didn't have any gym kit so I borrowed some of yours". The top she had borrowed was a gym vest I have with built in sports bra so you don't have to wear one too so I was barfing in my mouth wondering if she hadn't bothered with a bra either. To make matters worse, that vest had been in my underwear drawer so I felt embarrassed at the thought of her going though my undies to find it!! Never. Again. Dread to think what else she got up to!

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 19/05/2017 10:20

My dad told me a funny story about his grandmother and auntie. They used to have an insurance man come round to collect the money, and one week my great grandmother was skint so she hid behind the curtain and sent my great aunt to the door.

My great aunt said "sorry Mr Morgan, my mother has gone out". Mr Morgan apparently said to her "well young Bronwyn, tell your mother that the next time she goes out she should take her feet with her!" - that's right, her feet were poking out of the bottom of the curtains Grin

bobbybaby2017 · 19/05/2017 10:26

Our house has a frosted front door which you can see shapes through. DH dad came one day with his wife (not DH mum) and we were in total scruffs so quickly turned to off before they looked through window but had to stand in the doorway between the lounge and hall as any movement either way and we would have been seen. Both put phones on silent in case they called and heard us. Stood there together for 10 minutes until they had gone.

wizzywig · 19/05/2017 11:13

There was someome whose mil did that every day and really harrassed her. Wonder what happened

Jessiecat27 · 21/07/2017 19:37

Haven't read all of the comments but I'm like this anyway, if I haven't invited you, you're not coming in! God help me when the baby is born and everyone is wanting to come round, I hate socialising!

acapellagirl · 27/07/2017 20:43

Yes.in 1999 pretended not to be in for an elderly relative. Didn't like her, but still feel guilty as we never saw her again

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