Has anyone ever 'hidden' from an unwanted visitor?

[N0tNowBernard]

Like actually, blinds closed, cowering upstairs in the nursery?... Just wondering Said visitor has already been round a few times this week and I need some time to do jobs as well as working myself. Visits always spill over into teatime too so left with the awkwardness of do I offer tea or not.
No judgements on the how's and whys, all you need to know is that it's necessary!
Please tell me someone else has done this too!

Erm that meant to say Middleoftheroad Jesus what an autocorrect fail!!

Putting your coat on to answer the doir is often suggested on here - if you like the guest or it's a delivery you can take it off. If it's some one you don't want to see you can say that you're on your way out for an appointment and that you're already running later than you should be so you can't stop - and if they come in regardless then stand there saying that they are making you late, if only they called you would have told them you wouldn't be available today. But now, they need to go. If you need to you might have to round up the dc and actually go out, but it's a small price to pay for getting rid of somebody quickly...

This didn't happen to me but I read about it on another forum and I thought of it when reading this thread!
This family had uninvited visitors every Sunday aft

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....afternoon and one week they decided to hide upstairs at their uninvited visitor drop in time.
So they are all upstairs hiding in the bedroom, mum Dad and kids, and they hear the visitors knocking at the door. Then there was silence and they were thinking they'd got away with it when suddenly, at the open bedroom window they see the face of a child looking in. 'They're up here, Dad ' he shouts down The visitors had decided to put a ladder against the house to get in the open window and wait for them to return So they all had to go downstairs to let them in .
The weirdest thing of all time as that the visitors never asked them why they'd been hiding upstairs!!! Brass neck, or what!!

Wow FriteFuaite that is brass balls! Can't believe they rolled over and let them in. There was the perfect opportunity for honesty and to set boundries

Turning up at someone's house uninvited is the absolute height of rudeness and thoughtlessness and you're not obliged to humour it. Everyone has phones. If they want to see you, they need to check first whether it's convenient. Anything less is selfish and rude. This goes for absolutely everyone, family included.

OP, seriously - grow a spine!

It isn't easy but it definitely works if you really want it to.

These type of people don't give a flying fuck about you - hence they're so thick skinned.
They use your good nature/sympathy etc to manipulate you - and you allow it
So what if she gets the hump because you refused to let her in?
So what if she goes around bad mouthing you - is that the kind of person you want in your life?

Last place i lived my neighbour from upstairs started stalking me like this.
She knew my 'routine'. When i changed it she would listen for the sound of my front door opening/closing and it was commented on if i didn't reply to her text/phone call
She expected me to 'hang out' with her every night, when i didn't she would make lots of noise in her living room, or switch the washing machine on at stupid 'o clock (my bedroom below) knowing full well i had to be up earlier than her

i had to be cruel to be kind.
i used the chain on the door when she knocked so she couldn't barge in
i shut the door on her whilst she was still wittering on - felt awful but but she refused to listen to 'i have to go'

I had to use some rude behaviours to put a stop to it
She bad mouthed me to everyone but i didn't give a shit - well worth it to be rid of her stalking

One time i had a neighbour from the opposite block knock on my door about 9pm ish
Well i wasn't in the mood for company,wasn't expecting anyone and just wanted to be left alone
She knocked quite a few times and i just ignored it

next day she walks up to me and says "i was knocking on your door last night and you didn't answer. i know you were in cos your lights were on"
To which my pissed off reply was "So? Just cos i'm in doesn't mean i have to answer the door!"

She was knocking to ask tell me that she wanted contributions towards plants etc for the communal garden & a rota for gardening duties.....it was council owned land & i was renting!

Yes, I'm antisocial 90% of the time 😬

There was a girl who would just walk in the door, appear unannounced and sit on her phone using your wifi and sit for hours. Thankfully that only happened a few times at mine and I don't bother with this person anymore and she now hassles all the other friends 7 days of the week😂

We've just got a new front door and need a new doorbell. Am contemplating one that you can see who is there from your phone before going to answer the door, feel it could come in handy sometimes.

Had a neighbour who just lived in my ear constantly so I had to stop answering the door, she unfortunately got my number and kept sending texts supposedly about school as our dc went to same school, this was before smart phones were around. She texted once to say she had seen me at the chemists She even texted saying she had seen my DS ( this was years ago he was on his way to dentist at age16).. he saw her recently and pulled down his hat ..so glad I hid on her when she rang the bell

I was that person I used to drop in on someone on the way back from taking my children to a club. In the end she stood in the doorway and said 'Sorry, Larry, it isn't convenient now. I'm making the tea.' and shut the door. I took the hint and never did it again. We always ate much later and I just didn't think.
Don't hide. Be up front.

Most people aren't as reasonable as you Larry - so the people who have to hide silently seethe until it gets too much and there is an argument.

Why does anyone just 'drop in' uninvited to anyone, family or friends? It's incredibly rude and thoughtless to visit someone without being invited, even close family

I have 2 lovely friends who I really don't mind if they turn up unannounced, but everyone else can just do one. I have another who turns up every Monday's morning with some crisis. I've started being in the shower a lot on Monday mornings 😄 as "I'll only be 10 minutes" is a big fat fib.

We have a frosted glass window in our front door and you would not believe the amount of people who press their faces up against it to look in when you don't answer! Some almost leave a whole greasy impression of their face on there!

I remember someone's child saying to a friend of mine 'Mum looks through the letterbox and she knows you're hiding if the pram is in the hall.'

The neighbour used to constantly drop in, fag in hand, barging past me. She lurched from crisis to crisis and wanted constant legal advice (dh works in a related profession) or to 'borrow' a packet of fags. I was ecstatic when she moved!

When DS was a few weeks old, I was still getting used to b/feeding and found it a lot easier when home to go into my bedroom and take all of my top half off (used to make me so hot and sweaty!) and then feed DS. One day VISITOR (unannounced) just turned up and I panicking as DS had just properly latched on for what felt like the first time ever on my own with no help, so no way was I going to break off to answer the door. Also, as I had nothing on my top half (yes, like a weirdo) I couldn't even answer the door whilst feeding. So I stayed in the bedroom feeding.
Later in the afternoon, visitor came back and said pointedly "So, have you had any other visitors today?" And I went flustered and just said erm no not really. (Yes those exact words, doesn't even make sense and I'm sure she knew I was lying).
To this day I kick myself so much for not saying "I was upstairs trying to breastfeed!! Piss off for five minutes!"

Ex's Mum has absolutely zero social boundaries and awareness at all, she was a nightmare (before we stopped speaking and she used to ignore me - that was lovely!)
But before that she's the kind of person who would walk in the bathroom while you're on the toilet and not even acknowledge it, just keep talking at you
She walked in on us having sex a few times and just carried on talking (!?!)
When I had DD if had an awful birth, hemmorhaged badly and was very poorly afterwards, I'd said no visitors until I got home, only Ex & my Mum - yep she shown up at the hospital, I was covered in dry blood and vomit when she walked in, ignored me and went straight for the crib, I lost it and squealed at her not to touch my baby and to get the fuck out!
So glad I don't have to bother with her anymore - what is wrong with people?!

Oh God, you've just reminded me of the time when I was pregnant with no 2, I was in the bath, toddler in bed, DH downstairs.
DH hearts the front door open, he went to see who it was and found our neighbour on the hall, she asked for me, he told her that I was in the bath.
Neighbour replied "I'll go up and see her, she won't mind" and she legged it up the stairs before he could stop her!
She sat at the side of the bath chatting to me, me in my pregnant nakedness with huge boobs was so embarrassed. I asked her to leave but she carried on. DH came up and told her to go.

Not at home but at work. I taught English in a school in Japan and every Thursday a teacher would visit (to teach how to prattle on with no boundaries probably). She was Japanese and had also learned French. I spoke Japanese but her thinking seemed to be: "Here is a foreign person. French is a foreign language. Therefore, I will speak French to the foreign person."

No matter how many times I told her that I couldn't speak French and to please speak to me in Japanese, she carried on at me in French. In the end, I just used to hide every Thursday.

NOtNowBernard I had a visitor who was offended by my breastfeeding in my own house..she wanted me to go into another room.

My dad didn't want to open the door one day so stayed sitting in his armchair. His visitor started peering in the window, tapping and saying "Hey X I can see you". He still didn't let him in
I've done the same with a friend of DH. I told him not to just turn up, that he had to check first. Well one day he turned up while DH was out so I didn't answer the doir. He actually rang DH's mobile...he then called me to say Xx is at the door. I told him Xx could stay there because I wasnt letting him in

Sometimes the only way to answer the door is with an overall and a toilet brush in the hand , smile and say " I'm a busy woman"..works a treat for me

That's a bit harsh Mrs McMoo.I know I could call on family any time if in the area and I extend the same invitation to them. I have a small group of close friends I could call on too. When DH left me, and I was too skint to go out, if I had some time to.myself , I would call for a coffee and some adult conversation! If they had said they were too busy I would have left though .

Bluebell no way, that is another level! Turning up and then saying they'd rather you went in another room in your own house to b/feed! Bloody cheek!

I'm ashamed to say I've jumped in the shower