Been with my other half for 6 years, have a 3 year old daughter. Every christmas and every birthday is the same. I get the I've got no money so I don't get a card let alone anything else. It really hurts. It's my birthday tomorrow and I've been told the usual today. No money. Just because I didn't want to wake up again with no card from my daughter I gave him a tenner and asked him to get me a card from her, (no change hence the tenner). I'd be happy with home made but he wont do that. I feel really unappreciated. I manage to make sure I save up hard as it is for his birthday, christmas etc. He gets his money but just wastes it. When I say anything or dare to get upset he says I'm ruining the day (that was christmas). I bought my own christmas presents from my daughter to me, wouldn't have bothered but shed ask why I didn't have a present. 😐