Annoying comment about newborn twins - witty comebacks or let it go?

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I have 14 week old twin boys, when we are out and about it is non stop having people stop us to chat or little comments and questions, absolutely fine! A few other twin mums say they get a lot of people stopping them with the old 'double trouble' type comment, But I've also been having what I think are really rude comments and questions from people and it really boils my piss in general it's 'I couldn't think of anything worse' but this morning a man in waitrose stopped me, looked in the buggy and said that twins would be his absolute worst nightmare and he'd 'kill himself' if he ever had any.

I know I'm probably in new mum sensitive mode, and it took such a long time to fall pregnant I'm so pleased to have one baby let alone none. People should just think before they speak.

I bit my tongue and walked on but it's really wound me up.
WWYD - witty sarcastic comment or just leave it?

For the "kill myself" comment, I would raise an eyebrow and coldly reply: 'Your death would indeed be a great loss to the nation' and calmly walk off.

People can be very stupid. When my daughter was premature and very sick and still in the neonatal unit, a woman from a local shop who knew she was in hospital actually asked 'do you think you'll have any more?'.

I was rather busy trying to keep my first one alive to think about having any more!

What a dick! I'd have given him the death stare and walked off! Some people have no manners! It's not the same but I found when we announced the sex at 20 weeks we hardly ever got an "aww a girl how fab", just an "oh you don't know what you're letting yourself in for" or "oh I'm so glad I had a boy, girls are far too much trouble" etc.. I know it's the same if you have a boy as well with the "I bet you wish it was a girl" comments.. are people so blunt/rude as to say stuff like this to you if you don't find out til the birth so therefore say these comments to you when you've got the baby in your arms?

Congratulations! We have 5 month old twins and a 2 year old - we have mainly had positive comments. I'm quite happy to stop and chat - I find elderly people and teenage girls coo a lot. I find if anyone is negative, such as double trouble/such hard work, it's confuses them if you say 'oh they are so lovely it's actually pretty easy'.

I think people expect you to be shattered and miserable. I hate 'are they good at night?' - what an odd question, we all know some nights are a 24 hour buffet, others you end up checking they are alright! I want to answer 'no they leave all the lights on, forget to lock the door and play loud music'.

ignoring the waitrose man was the best move - very odd comment. I Definately got a lot less comments with a singleton.

Aww, look at your gorgeous boys!

I'll swap you for my 12 yo twins?

I remember all the questions and statements. They tend to drop off by the toddler years, though I still get the odd ones now (mainly just "Are they twins?")

Worst one was a few older ladies who would stop and say "I had twins. One died." I'm sorry for your loss but it's not really what I want to hear with newborn twins just out of SCBU.

Response should be either:

"Erm, okay" "right then"

or

"Why did you say that to me?"

Congrats on your twins! We have 15mo twin boys and a 2.5yo as well.

We get a lot of comments, positive and negative, but I don't engage with the "double trouble" or "what a tough time you must have" comments.

Twins fascinate people and I genuinely don't mind when people stop me to ask about them.

A lot of twin parents get very angry over the questions/comments but for the most part it really is just people saying the first thing that comes into their head. This man you met was exceptionally rude so I wouldn't even give him the time of day.

Lots of people say to me "ooh, I'd have loved to have twins" - DH says "you can have them at 4am and see what you think then!"

I've not given birth yet but I've had a weirdly high number of women telling me I must be 'crazy' and wont I miss my independence and 'I'd rather kill myself than go through that'

I am all for choice over procreation - I spent majority of my 20's being unsure over becoming a parent, so I get not wanting to have children, but fuck me, inappropriate much?

Just want to say that your boys are absolutely adorable! So handsome. Where are the onsies from?

MalbecAndLindt thank you so much, they are from next

In the nicest way possible - I'm glad some of you have had weird /off the cuff comments it's nice to know it's not just me attracting the odd balls!

My parents took them out this weekend for a walk and they were amazed at how many people stopped them. They received loads of lovely comments and one woman asking if IVF is expensive hahaha!