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Haven't been on the site long but I hope I can find some helpful advice. I feel like a fool and am so upset and angry. Basically a fairly close friend of mine has had us all thinking for months that her teenage daughter just moved to her dads and they packed up and left with his wife and other sibling. She's told us all that she has absolutely no idea where they are, that her precious girl has cut off all contact with her. We as friends have done our best to support her. I personally have only made small gestures of wine and flowers, however one of our group spent a significant amount of money to cheer her up (£450)
Fast forward to yesterday and I saw her daughter. She spoke to me and when she asked if I still saw her mum I said yes and said how much she misses and loves her. Poor girl started sobbing and said she's tried many times to get in touch and been ignored. I said I couldn't see it and was she sure she hadn't possibly been mistaken. Turns out my friend is an absolutely amazing actress because the heartbroken girl showed me proof in the form of several messages that had been read and ignored, and that her mum had blocked her on every social media site she has tried to get in touch with her. What do I do? we as friends have all been so supportive and offered advice and help to our 'devastated' friend who's lost her daughter. The only truth she has actually told us is that she doesn't have their address. I read the messages with tears in my eyes - never as a parent could I be so cold towards my kids. I know blended families can be complicated but some of these messages were truly heartless. I'm due to see my friend this weekend and after a few drinks I'm 95% sure this subject will be mentioned, and she will sit and cry about her daughter being brainwashed. I haven't told a soul in real life, I'm speechless to be honest.

You said something about can you have this deleted if you believe someone has screenshots and about the possibility another person knowing about this thread.

Anyway yes she may have blocked her daughter, but the woman might also be being genuine. You see quite a long time ago I went on my OH's Facebook account and I put his ex wife on his block list. I. Didn't tell him until I'd say about a year later. They didn't have kids and yes it may have been a stupid move on my part but that's neither here nor there, if someone else knows any of this woman's passwords then someone else might have hit block, so perhaps she doesn't know?

I think your wanting this thread to disappear might mean that this thread isn't exactly telling the truth. It does seem extremely elaborate OP and it would be brilliant to hear the rest of the story.

Also instead of reporting the thread, which will likely have made it disappear you resurrected it, bringing attention to it?

It's so easy to ask for posts to be deleted on here, you just report the posts that you think should be deleted. There is a report option on every post, so why didn't you do that instead???

Thank you to those who have answered without calling me a liar or criticising I feel a lot better now I'm just a worrier and I've never had the police at my door in my life wasn't about to start now! Now I've thought about it properly she's probably just giving it out and attempting to make herself look innocent, which as I said in my OP she absolutely isn't and I saw solid proof, the truth was there in black and white. Here's hoping if she does go to the police she gets a bollocking for wasting their time!
I've lost several people i called friends whom she managed to convince I'd just decide to jump on the bandwagon with her ex and his Mrs, which is ludicrous I've never clapped eyes on either of them!

Now I've thought about it properly she's probably just giving it out and attempting to make herself look innocent

This is exactly what it'll be, trust me. I know someone very like her, and you can predict how these people move very easily - you've met one, you've met them all. Horrible pieces of work.

The police won't be interested for a minute. Even if she did hassle them enough for them to warrant coming out, it'd be a 5 minute chat and nothing else. The key thing is to NEVER respond if she sends you any form of message, and keep everything she sends you. She'll come out of this looking like a loon, not you.

Thanks Beauty I blocked her on everything as soon as she realised I was one of the few who knew what was going on, and I've recently changed my number too. Never in a million years would I have expected all this from someone who I thought of as a close friend but hey ho you live and learn

You did the right thing. What she's doing now is damage limitation, and getting her word in first, to make you look like the villain - heaven forbid she has her cover blown!

Just don't engage, at all. You know the facts, sadly you can't force anyone else to see what's in front of them. There will always be people who are deaf to anyone other than the perceived victim.

Be very careful giving your new number out. The person I knew who's like this managed to get my number out of a friend, on the pretence that it was about something serious and she was worried about me. They're very sly. I feel very sad for her DD in all this.