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facebookrecruit · 24/05/2016 00:03

Haven't been on the site long but I hope I can find some helpful advice. I feel like a fool and am so upset and angry. Basically a fairly close friend of mine has had us all thinking for months that her teenage daughter just moved to her dads and they packed up and left with his wife and other sibling. She's told us all that she has absolutely no idea where they are, that her precious girl has cut off all contact with her. We as friends have done our best to support her. I personally have only made small gestures of wine and flowers, however one of our group spent a significant amount of money to cheer her up (£450)
Fast forward to yesterday and I saw her daughter. She spoke to me and when she asked if I still saw her mum I said yes and said how much she misses and loves her. Poor girl started sobbing and said she's tried many times to get in touch and been ignored. I said I couldn't see it and was she sure she hadn't possibly been mistaken. Turns out my friend is an absolutely amazing actress because the heartbroken girl showed me proof in the form of several messages that had been read and ignored, and that her mum had blocked her on every social media site she has tried to get in touch with her. What do I do? Confused we as friends have all been so supportive and offered advice and help to our 'devastated' friend who's lost her daughter. The only truth she has actually told us is that she doesn't have their address. I read the messages with tears in my eyes - never as a parent could I be so cold towards my kids. I know blended families can be complicated but some of these messages were truly heartless. I'm due to see my friend this weekend and after a few drinks I'm 95% sure this subject will be mentioned, and she will sit and cry about her daughter being brainwashed. I haven't told a soul in real life, I'm speechless to be honest.

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CrazyDuchess · 24/05/2016 17:11

What a mess!!! It just gets worse especially as the number of adults involved have allowed her such free reigne to attack this girl. Smh Sad

This woman clearly has some issues. I don't like my daughters dad but my daughter doesn't have a clue and that's the way it will stay!

Literally cannot get my head around some people's behaviours!

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facebookrecruit · 26/05/2016 00:04

Brief update - have a feeling this thread may have been spotted but basically has sunk low enough to say child is lying and somehow all the messages have been falsified with help from bastard adults involved Hmm can't say I'm surprised to be honest, given the catalogue of lies which have been uncovered. What a total twat Confused

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SmallBee · 26/05/2016 07:54

Wow, what an utter cesspool of a person she is. I hope she is reading this so she can see what people really think of her. No doubt her poor DD will be on here using the stately homes thread in a few years.

How are you OP? Hope you haven't caught too much flack for this.

Interested in this thread?

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BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 26/05/2016 10:01

She sounds like an absolute cunt, to put it mildly. That poor girl.

I hope you haven't caught too much flak either. People like her enjoy making others' lives a misery, especially when it's discovered that their 'woe is me' spiel is nothing but an act. Could she have some form of histrionic personality disorder, d'you think?

CrazyDuchess · 26/05/2016 11:45

:( not the outcome I was expecting - she sounds like an absolute loon!!

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facebookrecruit · 26/05/2016 19:12

The past few days have been a nightmare but in a small way I have had a weight lifted because she was never far from my thoughts, I worried about her emotional state and how she was going to cope as time went on. Given that she CHOSE to cut all ties with her own child I think she's a piss taking bullshitter and I've wasted a lot of time and energy on her 'devastation' Angry

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CrazyDuchess · 26/05/2016 20:51

Yes - she is definitely someone you could do without!!

Buggers · 26/05/2016 21:19

I hope nobody else is still beliving her. What an awful woman!

UterusUterusGhali · 27/05/2016 10:23

How far back did the daughter's texts go back, OP?

What a mess. :(

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facebookrecruit · 27/05/2016 22:18

They were all early last year, we've all been pandering to her shit because she hasn't seen her 'beloved child' for so long when I actually read things along the lines of 'you've made your bed' and 'you've picked which family you want to be part of' Sad twisted witch

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facebookrecruit · 27/05/2016 23:44

If I didn't think posting exact message details on here could possibly cause more heartache for this poor girl I would tell you all, because some of them really stuck in my mind. But a Facebook conversation I've been shown today makes me think someone involved in this is on MN. Hopefully they have read what I've posted and seen what an absolute disgraceful mother this woman is. Every day since I've told my kids a million times a day how much I love them, how much they mean to me and how I will ALWAYS be there for them no matter what because they are my babies

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eddielizzard · 29/05/2016 20:45

how shocking. you can't be friends after this. of course she'd keep lying - it's her only chance to try and salvage the situation. the poor dd. how awful for her.

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facebookrecruit · 25/07/2016 23:52

Sorry to surface an old thread but does anyone know if I can get into any trouble legally because of this thread and should ask MN to remove if I believe this horrid woman has screenshots of it? Thank you

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Missgraeme · 28/07/2016 09:45

U haven't named her so I don't see how u could be in trouble. Also u aren't the liar here.......

2nds · 28/07/2016 09:53

I wouldn't worry, there's no names, no locations, nothing identifies anyone.

2nds · 28/07/2016 09:57

Oh I dunno about that Miss Graeme, the whole story could be one big fat lie for all we know as this is MN afterall.

It's a bit weird that the other woman has seen the thread, screenshot it but not replied to it (not even under a change of name).

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facebookrecruit · 28/07/2016 10:17

I'm not a liar at all, and I didn't say she's seen the the thread. She's saying people are slating her online which could be FB or anything I'm just a worrier Confused

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augustusglupe · 28/07/2016 10:21

2nds Agree...watching with interest...

augustusglupe · 28/07/2016 10:30

The daughter is obviously settled with her dad and family.
I would've distanced myself from all this involvement now tbh. It's a very tangled web and obviously either side could possibly be true, doubtful from the mums side...but possible.
I think too many people have become involved in what, really, is none of there business.

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facebookrecruit · 28/07/2016 10:46

I can't tell you how much grief this has caused, but all I wanted to know is that I can't get in trouble for posting on here IF she's seen it. I don't know that she has all I know is she's telling people she's gone to the police for people harassing and slandering her online. That could be a lie too for all I know, given everything else. I'd say I wish I'd never seen her DD but then I'd still be pandering to her and her 'broken heart' Sad

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BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 28/07/2016 10:49

It's a bit weird that the other woman has seen the thread, screenshot it but not replied to it (not even under a change of name).

Not really. She may be gathering 'evidence' in order to look like the wounded party.

If she's gone to the police over it, citing harassment, they'll have told her not to respond. I sincerely hope she hasn't, as she's the one in the wrong here.

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 28/07/2016 10:50

Hasn't gone to the police, I mean.

augustusglupe · 28/07/2016 10:54

Only just realised this is an old thread Confused
I'm getting invested in nothing Grin

Farfromtheusual · 28/07/2016 11:26

Police won't do anything about slander - it's a civil issue not a criminal offence and as for harassment - I would be very very surprised if they took this as a harassment complaint. She would more than likely be told grow up and get over it. I wouldn't worry OP.

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 28/07/2016 11:38

Yeah, the police rarely take action over a first incident of harassment - they tell you to keep a log. Anyway, it's not really harassment - you've not named her, and she's clearly gone looking for the thread. She wants to stir trouble, as from what you've said, she's quite the professional victim.