Would you leave it or contact him?

[LonerDave]

Just need to get this out as it’s doing my head in.
I’ve been eternally single (had a fling a while back and have DS 2.2) always been a lone parent and I am happy/ok with it, It’s the way it is.
Anyway, meet a guy, all seemed fine, we get on, he has taken me out, we’ve seen my friends etc .. He is divorced 2x older kids, all amicable.
He has stayed at mine. He has met DS and no joke it has all been lovely. I like him, and yes fancy him which is a big thing for me.
So, been seeing each other only a couple of months, 2-3 times a week.
Yesterday, he leaves in the morning and asks me if I want to come over to his in the afternoon, I say I have friends coming over so I will let him know and obvs my DS needs to be in bed by 7pm and I work full time so would have to be home by 7:30am this morning. Ok fine.
Friends didn’t leave until 5.30pm. I call him and say it’s getting late (he lives 45mins away) so we will not come over, sorry etc .. let’s see each other in the week.
Well, an hour later I get the shittiest of texts saying he doesn’t think I want to go over to his (haven’t been there yet due to things going on with my life/DS etc). I said that is ridiculous and not the case, it just wasn’t great timing, sorry. I said .. how about another time then, I am sorry (again!), he just said “MAYBE!!!!” But all quite narky … I left it at that, but I am upset and angry today. I doubt I will hear from him again, just angry at myself for thinking this “might” have actually gone somewhere.
WHAT the fuck have I done wrong here? …. Or is this just another one to just move on from. Feeling quite sad

Just be your normal self, talk about why you fell out and move on. Give him the benefit of the doubt on this one but if it becomes a regular thing (him getting the hump) end it.

After a few text exchanges, just general chit chat ....... he was out last night. I get this?!

2hrs apart. I had fallen asleep as I'm in bed most nights by 9:30pm.

So I've just woken up to that? My gut is just telling me something here or am I so out of practice I've no idea??

It's just so huffy and childish. At best he is emotionally immature and is going to stop and huff when things don't go his way or he is a complete arse. Either way at a few weeks in this is not good. This is best behaviour time so as food as it's going to get.
I was seeing a guy for a very short time we had been friends for about a year before and he was very emotionally immature it is so draining and pretty manipulative. Personally I'd walk away because this is it good he's only going to get more stroppy.

He sounds a delight

And really, he's staying over several times a week, and has met your son and you're only 6 weeks in? I'm sorry but I'm quite shocked at that

No he hasn't stayed over, I've "seen" him 2-3 times a week, he's only been to mine that's how this thread started.

I'm just asking about another text last night.

Where is WannaBe!?!?

He sounds a twat

He's still met your son this quickly though?

Yes - so clearly I am twat also

I didn't say that, but, I am shocked that you let him into your son's life so soon - and his behaviour now shows why that wasn't the best idea - something to consider for the future

Yes - a lesson well learned of course.

But am I right in my feeling that 2 incidents like this in a short space of time is not on?

He would know I was asleep at 11:30pm.

I'm just so out of the game I'm useless.

Please understand that no matter what my DS comes immediately first.

I'm no push over either so if he is a "red flag" he's picked on the wrong one!!

Absolutely not on, I think you're wasting your time with him really

Sorry op I can't read the text on that shot as I use a screen reader. What does it say?

Fwiw don't beat yourself up about having introduced your ds early into the situation. It happens, and your ds doesn't know how long you've been seeing this bloke, so if things don't work out you can chalk it up to experience. What is important is that you do what is best for you at this stage. Your DS is young, and assuming you're not planning on introducing a string of men into his life over the years he won't be scarred by the experience.

Stupid and childish and needy.

Re the meeting your child, I introduced a guy to my dc early on as It was going so well and I thought it was going to be a serious relationship. It did last a year but ended badly. I wouldn't do it again .
I find that men have no problem meeting your children because they are so desperate to stay over for a shag they are thinking of themselves not the dc.

Ugh tell him to grow up. Dump and run on this one, if he's carrying on like this after 6 weeks it's only gunna get worse.

wannabe it says "Miss me?" at 2130 and then "Obviously not!" two hours later.

This one is definitely not for you OP.

Similarly though it's possible to introduce someone to your DC months into a relationship and it still might not work out. Or introduce them early and it might. Reality is that while people do say that you should wait three/six/twelve months there is no really right or wrong answer because some relationships might work out and some might not.

My DS met my DP fairly early on (not my choice but that's a whole other story) And 2.5 years later we're engaged and looking for him to move closer as soon as he can find work here (another story in itself, ;)).

Ultimately, when you get together with someone you have to consider that at some point they may meet the kids, and if they do, if the relationship ends the kids may well be affected by that. But that is IMO something which should always be considered regardless of how long you Wait before introducing them.

Xposts with LoveAGoodRummage nope, the follow up text smacks of neediness/potentially possessiveness/wanting you to be there all the time to answer his texts. The "miss me?" One I might see as sweet. the follow up would make me want to reply "err, no, given I was asleep. And now even less so."

Too needy. The 'obviously not' was a telling-off. Annoyed and trying to make you feel bad. I'd trust your gut feeling.

'Miss you' I might see as sweet

'Miss me?' Fuck off you narcissistic twat

Needy twat. Bin.

Right I'm shitting myself now. This guy knows where I live.

His behaviour is reeking of psycho / narcissist

I've heard nothing more, but equally I am thinking to myself this guy is capable of this in such a small space of time etc ....

Fuck I can't believe I've been so trusting, that's desperation for you