About 2 months ago a group of my friends from uni met up at one friend's house with all our children. (Let's call her Maggie) Maggie's children are the oldest but only by a year. I have in the past avoided play dates with Maggie as she never gives her children into trouble and they run wild.
Since the meet-up was at Maggie's house and about 4 families were gathering and we hardly get a chance to see each other I decided to go along with my girls. Dd1 is 3yo.
The kids were all playing and I was sat at the other end of the room feeding newborn dd2. Maggie's children were being rough with each other and calling each other names but dd1 was happily playing with Maggie's dd.
Dd1 stood up, she was coming to ask to go to the toilet. Maggie's ds thought she was going to tell on him so picked up a plastic toy crate and rammed it into my dd's forehead about 4 times. I saw the whole thing but was at the other end of the room holding the baby so couldn't stop him immediately.
Dd1's head came up in an egg but with a dent inthe middle of the egg from the corner of the crate. She didn't cry much. I think she was in shock because she couldn't understand why he did it.
Maggie didn't give her ds into trouble. I asked her for an ice pack to bring down the swelling but she didn't seem that bothered by what had happened.
We left shortly after as dd1 was scared to play now and frankly I didn't blame her.
I expected the bump/dent to take a while to go down but after 5 weeks she still had a dent in her head. It looks like a dimple. I made an appointment with the gp. I was worried I was being ridiculous but the dent was and still is visible.
The gp appointment was this week as it is really difficult to get seen at our surgery. It wasn't an emergency.
The gp looked at her and questioned dd and myself about it. We were sent for an X-ray. It turns out she had fractured her skull.
Should I tell my friend that her son so violently hurt dd1 that he fractured her skull or should I just leave it. I won't be taking my kids to play with Maggie's again. Dd1 is too scared for a start. Part of me thinks that Maggie should be told as she thinks her kids are angels. This isn't the first time his rough play has ended with someone being hurt. However, this is the first time I have witnessed it.
Another part of me thinks it would be a waste of breath as Maggie won't listen anyway.
We don't know if the dent will ever fully go away and I shudder to think of the damage that could have been caused if he had hit her eye instead of her head.
I cannot make up my mind whether to say or not as it won't really make a difference.