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Transexuals in women's sport

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Clowdy · 02/11/2013 02:40

We have started a netball group. Very casual and just for fun. All ages from 13 to 66 and all shapes, sizes and abilities. Just for fun, once a week. No leagues or teams, literally just a game with other women who want to keep a bit fitter and have fun. We aren't great but we have a laugh. There have been a fair few minor injuries, particularly because we are skilled and we get carried away. One of the ladies has asked if her two transsexual friends can join us. One post op, one rpe op. They are both at least 5'10'' and of heavy builds. A few people are worries about the physical safety of them playing. - bearing in mind that we have two or 3 quite tiny women playing.
Personally, I wouldn't like dh for example to play because physically I think he is mismatched to our group and it could be dangerous. However, these women are essentially women and in a perfect world they would be welcomed with open arms but I'm not sure people who are built like grown men should play such a physical sport alongside us. I am prepared to be told I'm wrong and it is purely the physical aspect that worries me - there is a reason men's and women's sports are separate. How would you approach this with the other women who play and what are your thoughts?

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Clowdy · 02/11/2013 12:28

Thank you everyone for your reasoned posts and thank you for not being too harsh with me, although may well deserve it. Not sure what will happen but I have a week or so to think it over as we aren't playing this week.

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HorryIsUpduffed · 02/11/2013 12:29

Wow. What century is this again?

I think your "tiny minority" is actually "the vast majority".

Or are you confusing "transsexual" with "transvestite", which isn't what's being talked about here?

Clowdy · 02/11/2013 12:30

Burberry, it's not about why, I'm assuming for the same reason the rest if us do, to get fit and have fun. I certainly don't want this turning into a transgender bashing session. Can we please just leave it now?

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BurberryFucker · 02/11/2013 12:39

horry I do know the difference between transgender (and it is 'transgender' not 'transexual' btw) and transvestite, thank you, there is no need to be patronising just because i have a different view to yours. That is the problem with some people, they are so right on that they think anyone who doesn't agree with them must be stupid or something.

HorryIsUpduffed · 02/11/2013 12:41

Have you had any more thoughts about what to do, OP?

I assume part of your worry is that one of your group will turn out to think like Burberry and cause upset.

I think most people would be initially a bit surprised or even startled, but generally accepting, if these women are joining in just like everyone else.

HorryIsUpduffed · 02/11/2013 12:43

Well excuse me. I'm just completely baffled why you could think anyone would go through years of social and medical treatment and painful surgery to become something they hated so much. I assumed you must be thinking of horrible misogynistic stag do "crossdressing" instead.

BurberryFucker · 02/11/2013 12:44

and horry I tend to keep my opinions to myself in public and in mixed company, it is only polite.....i have never 'caused upset' nor would I wish to . stop making assumptions !! Grin

HorryIsUpduffed · 02/11/2013 12:47

But if you held those opinions and were asked to share your "women's space" with someone you consider not actually a woman, would you still keep your opinions to yourself?

I get weird when someone brings her DH on a girls' night out, because it feels like an invasion of some sort. I wouldn't consider a trans woman to be a man, so that wouldn't apply.

SunshineSuperNova · 02/11/2013 12:54

Burberry you have 'caused upset' on here - one of your posts has been deleted.

BurberryFucker · 02/11/2013 13:20

yes horry I keep my opinions to myself in real life - no point in upsetting people of any variety.
however a trans male to female talking about periods etc., (and yes I have heard that conversation) is just creepy, sorry.
OK that is it I will contribute no more to this thread.

Branleuse · 02/11/2013 13:21

of course you let them join

shootingstar1234 · 22/11/2013 23:33

You'll be fine, I play mixed gender Netball with some of the lads over 6ft and well built and have had no problems whatsoever.

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