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Would you go away without your DC on their birthday?

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Pennies · 07/10/2013 19:44

We have been invited to a very glam and exciting sounding weekend which will be incredibly good fun. The trouble is is that it's a whole weekend away from Friday morning until Sunday evening and my DD's 8th birthday will be on the Friday. We can't celebrate it the week before or the week after due to other things already in the diary and then it's Xmas and New Year.

Would you go or not?

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VBisme · 07/10/2013 19:45

No, at 8 they won't understand that mummy and daddy have something more fun to do.

whattodoo · 07/10/2013 19:46

I'd celebrate DD's birthday with her on the Friday. Then join the glam weekend on the Saturday.

Ragwort · 07/10/2013 19:46

Depends Grin - do you have much loved grandparents or aunts/uncles/friends that could make it a really special weekend for her?

Doinmummy · 07/10/2013 19:47

No

Hooleywhipper · 07/10/2013 19:48

No I wouldn't

Department · 07/10/2013 19:48

I did (work) for ds2's 5th-we just moved his birthday and he was none the wiser. Doubt you could get away with that at 8 tho!

BrianTheMole · 07/10/2013 19:48

No I don't think I would.

FlatsInDagenham · 07/10/2013 19:49

No.

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Pennies · 07/10/2013 19:49

Grandparents could step in but she's really going to not have much of a celebration because they're not up to hosting any kind of party or friends over.

I can't really go on the Saturday because the main event is really on the Saturday morning and I also have to fly to get there. It's a bit of an all-or-nothing thing.

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cherrytomato40 · 07/10/2013 19:49

Ooh that's tricky... we missed DD's 4th birthday as we went to a wedding, but as she was only 4 it was easy enough to 'move' her birthday to the day before and she never knew... she also had a fab weekend with her grandma!

I guess it all depends on how your DD feels about it and what she will be doing if you're not there- will she still be able to have a celebration with her friends or other family members?

Chubfuddler · 07/10/2013 19:50

No. Never.

2kidsintow · 07/10/2013 19:50

Nope, sorry.

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Pennies · 07/10/2013 19:50

I'm glad everyone's saying no because DH thinks I'm being a party pooper by suggesting that we need to decline.

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ajandjjmum · 07/10/2013 19:51

No I wouldn't at that age - sorry. I'm normally the first to go away without DC, but not on their birthday.

LoveSewingBee · 07/10/2013 19:51

Of course not.

My dd's birthday is more important to me.

whattodoo · 07/10/2013 19:52

If you can't join the weekend later, then no I wouldn't go at all.
Particularly if you've got other stuff on the weekends either side which will prevent you celebrating early/late.

NachoAddict · 07/10/2013 19:54

No not a chance. Maybe if they were a toddler and their birthday could be moved but probably not even then.

dsd's mum did though on dsd's 4th birthday. She went to a lovely log cabin for the weekend.

mrsseed · 07/10/2013 19:54

Ummmm we just half did that..dd1 was 8 on friday, dh went away friday lunchtime (albeit work related..but he doesnt usually work weekends).and isnt back for few more days. He saw her in morning, we did presents night before and grandparents came iver for weekend.
Not sure I would have done it for a jolly though

iwantanafternoonnap · 07/10/2013 19:54

why can't you do it on the Thursday and get her an extra gift?

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Pennies · 07/10/2013 19:55

We would be there in the morning for prezzies but not back until early Sunday evening.

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marriedinwhiteisbackz · 07/10/2013 19:55

I don't know why you are even asking. What's more important to you; your daughter or a weekend? Only you know the answer to that.

hashtagwhatever · 07/10/2013 19:56

no not a chance

WhereMyMilk · 07/10/2013 19:56

No, just no.

Bowlersarm · 07/10/2013 19:56

No.

I love social events as well. And if she was 1/2/3 I would say go. But at 8 she'll be aware.

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Pennies · 07/10/2013 19:56

She wants to go to Harry Potter World which is is really a whole day thing isn't it so Thurs isn't an option because of school.

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