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photo sharing

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IneedAyoniNickname · 15/05/2013 20:11

I've got my settings on fb set to 'friends only'
My ex mil and a friend of mine keep sharing ky photos and videos. Can I change the settings anywhere so they can't do this? Or do my friends only settings mean they won't actually show up? I shared a friends status, and it didn't show up to my friends as he was set to friends only.

Hope that makes sense! I'm rubbish at this fb malarkey!

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IneedAyoniNickname · 15/05/2013 20:11

my photos not ky!

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Dorange · 15/05/2013 20:15

I want to know the same.

LeoTheLateBloomer · 15/05/2013 20:15

Either tell them not to or adjust your settings so that the people sharing can't see the photos you're posting.

AvrilPoisson · 15/05/2013 20:17

Defriend her!

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IneedAyoniNickname · 15/05/2013 20:48

Shame theres no option to make it so people can't share! Might hide future updates from her then.

Any ideas on whether people I'm not friends with can see them once they've been shared? Surely my friends only setting should still apply?

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Dorange · 18/05/2013 21:14

I have just sent a FB message to my MIL regarding this issue.
She shares/post photos of DD and I don't say nothing, she posted photos of me in the past when I didn't have FB and I said nothing because I didn't know since I didn't have a account.
I have my FB account only few months old, highest privacy settings and very few friends...just opened my FB today to find she shared one of my photos with the whole wide FB world as she has no one privacy setting what so ever
Grrrrrr
I was fuming and sent her a message straight away asking her to delete and to never do it again...
I can't understand how people can have their FB so open and why they share other people's photos either....
Weirdos

Dorange · 18/05/2013 21:16

oh
and I don't know about your second question but I think once they share it, their friends can see it too, otherwise what would be the point?
and remember they can easily copy any photo to their computer anyway...
scary

Lioninthesun · 18/05/2013 21:27

There is a way as a friend of mine has her albums so you can't even comment on them...I don't know how though, sorry!

Dorange · 18/05/2013 22:19

Oh lioninthesun, can you not ask your friend and tell us please?

lborolass · 18/05/2013 22:23

When you originally post the photos you can set who can see them so could you exclude your ex MIL from seeing them in the first place?

If you set her as just an acquaintance you can exclude her from seeing the photos as well

Dorange · 18/05/2013 23:15

not ex MIL here, current MIL
I don't mind the very few people in my list seeing my photos
I don't want them to share it on their timeline to her friends and the whole wide world since they have no privacy settings

Lioninthesun · 19/05/2013 00:52

Sorry, only just seen your message!
Just had a look at my albums on fb and if you go to Edit you can click Customise to edit who sees them. I assume my friend also did something in here to stop people commenting, but it may be under your account tab - when you set up who sees (mine is Friends, for eg), you can also put friends of friends and click a button about people sharing/commenting, I think?

Lioninthesun · 19/05/2013 00:52

Go to Edit in the actual album I meant, just to clarify.

Tee2072 · 19/05/2013 08:16

You can edit who sees them, but if someone can see them, they can share them. That's sort of the point of FB, really.

So probably best not to let her see them if you don't want them to be shared.

And, to answer the 'weirdo' bit...I find people who use FB without actually learning how it works to be the weirdos, not the ones who use it as it is intended, which is as a sharing site. If you don't want to share, don't use FB.

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IneedAyoniNickname · 19/05/2013 18:38

Thanks. I don't actually have a problem with her sharing them per say, its kinda hard to explain though. It bothers me but I can't explain why. Maybe because I
assume she shares them so her son (my ex) can see the., but wouldnt share his photos of the dc with me. Actually if he wasn't so childish that he'd blocked me he'd be able to see them anyway.

tee is that really why facebook was set up? I thought the ability to share other people's stuff was fairly new?

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Lioninthesun · 19/05/2013 21:32

Ah yes, I can see why you would be annoyed - does he not see your DC much and rely on FB to feel he is actually 'keeping in touch'? I think that would annoy me too...
Could you post something about not sharing your pictures as you don't know other people's friends and who in turn could see them? Without being specific? Surely she would understand that you don't need all of her friends seeing your DC who in turn could then share, etc etc?

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IneedAyoniNickname · 19/05/2013 21:41

He sees them every week. Mind you, ex mil is just weird lol!

I was thinking I might try a general 'please don't share my photos l, unless your in them' kinda thing.

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Dorange · 20/05/2013 13:33

oh tee are you calling me a weirdo?
I don't think I am one.
By the way I took part jn this thread to find out if there was a new FB feature I'm not aware of and there isn't, so I learnt nothing new. I know perfectly how FB works atm.
I really don't think it is weird for you to want ppl on your list just to see but not share your pictures with their friends or the whole FB population if they have open settings.
But you are right, maybe I'm not your average FB sharer so shouldn't be there.

It's a shame that the majority of family and all my old friends don't even use email anymore, it's all through FB now...so weirdo me is trying to make easier keeping in contact......

Tee2072 · 20/05/2013 13:57

And I don't think it's weird to share your pictures, Dorange, even with strangers.

So how about we agree weirdo is an insulting term and you apologize for using it first?

Ineed actually it was set up for a University to use, but sharing has always been a part of it. They've just made it easier lately.

Dorange · 20/05/2013 15:17

Whatever

Tee2072 · 20/05/2013 15:18

Brilliant argument! I am dazzled by your wit and wisdom.

lborolass · 20/05/2013 15:19

I'm not a FB expert but I remember a previous thread where there was an expert posting who said that whilst your friends can share your photos the share will only go as far as mutual friends as long as you set the original limit to "friends only"

I don't know if this is still the case but it seemed to be generally accepted at that time.

Ineed - are the photos tagged? I've noticed recently that tagging seems to "spread" photos further than it used to.

Dorange · 20/05/2013 15:22

I don't have the energy to argue with someone who already think they are right and besides I have better things to do.

Dorange · 20/05/2013 15:25

lborolass that is what I call a useful non judgemental post.

KansasCityOctopus · 20/05/2013 16:10

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