Odd friend request

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My ex fiancé's wife sent me friend request on fb. Bit if background: I have created something that has gained a bit of recognition (can't go into detail as it will appear to be shamelessly looking for sales and that is not my intention). this 'work' has been viewed by some as a testimony to my ex for pretty much no reason and is, in reality, no way done with him in mind. I think she has wind of this and is fishing. I'm not going to accept her as a friend but I'm extremely curious as to why she would want to befriend someone she has never met. We broke up a year before he met her. Would you ask what reason she wants to friend you or ignore? I apologise for vagueness but I really don't want to discuss the work I did as I am not 'sales fishing'.
WWYD?

Typo alert!! First line: *
ex fiancé's wife

Ignore it, move on.
How long ago did they get together? Seems odd that she'd pick now and, honestly, why would you want to connect...?

Arg keeps doing it!! You're all smart enough to figure out its the wife of my ex I'm sure.....

Ignore. Is your FB used for your work etc or is it just personal stuff?

Scuba, that have been together for about 12 yrs and have 4 kids. I haven't had any contact other than to say hi to his parents since. My 'work' has just come into the public eye so I think that is why now. She was always jealous of our past relationship when they first got together but I absolutely never have any grounds for that.

Sitting, I have a fb page for work under my 'other' name but it was my personal one she req on, the other is just a 'like' page for my work.

Yup, I'd just ignore the request. If you decline she can re-send, if you just ignore it she'll just see its pending. If there's no reason to be 'politically sensitive' then don't open a door to it...
Good luck and well done on whatever it is :-) x

Can she msg you without being your friend? I only say that as she may want to speak to you but can't because of your settings and is not being nosey.

Just ignore then. Has she liked your work account too?

InNeat, no I am not Ms Grey, I wish!! I'd be on hol giving zero fucks to the dilemma but thanks for the well done!!

Sorry was laughing at Mr Grey < unhelpful >

Oooh Mrs I don't blame you!! How did she find out you were the adoptive mother? Isn't that supposed to be confidential to protect you and DC?!!!

I think shes being nosey, but you're doing the right thing by ignoring.

I haven't blocked so she can PM me if she wishes. She hasn't liked my work page. Found it a little creepy if I'm honest. I'd rather she just said 'oh hi, I hear this was about X, is it true?' And I would happily reply.

Reckon so VB, but the nosey bitch in me is curious!!

Well you could properly upset her and send HIM a friends request......

Oh Mrs that's a bummer!! Well you are his mother and your family deserve privacy. I don't blame you!!

Oh God VB, sleeping dogs and all that!! It's not in my interest to cause her any trouble (she unfortunately appears to be doing that all by herself from what I've heard) its all just a little stalkerish and scary!! But I am a nosey bugger!! We have a mutual friend but I'm quite shocked she found me on the personal page. I have a one of 10 million name and the friend connection is very vague on her part.

MrsD you so need a fake account

OP I'd ignore then, and block.

InNeed I have ignored but yes, I should block. My settings are v high but I feel a bit U as she hasn't actually done me any harm. I really don't want her to feel insecure as she has nothing to worry about. I'm am curious to know why she wants to be a friend but to be sisterly I want to put her mind at rest. I am def not a threat and my work is nothing to do with him. Part nosey, part feeling a bit bad that she may be worried, really. I still don't want her knowing my personal business, however.