I feel quite indignant about these changes. Let me explain further.
I am a single parent, have been for 13 years, since my ex husband dannounced 'family life is not for me'.
I work full time as a school teacher, own the house I have strived for, providing for myself and my two, (now teenage) children. I have worked damned hard to be independent and a good role model for my sons.
My ex husband pays the absolute minimum, (though fairly set by the CSA )maintenance. This amount only just covers the school dinner costs for our children.
In the last 6 months my partner has moved in to my house. He has three children at university, supports them with additional money and in addtion contributes £1000 per month towards his former wife and family house. (though again this will change in the long term)
Now I find that due to his wage being in excess of £50,000 per year, I lose out on CB or he is taxed to take acccount of the CB paid to my and my children.
I have a number of issues with this and not really to do with the money side. More the principal.
I have brought up my children and have been financially independent for most of the children's lives and as I am the one who claims CB -why is it my partners wage is the decider, why not my wage? I feel dis-regarded as an independent female.
Why does my partner have to be responsible for my children? - in addition to his own - yes independent and at uni....but still needing financial support ( but there goes another thread completely due to funding.)
Why should my partners own family miss out on money so as he can provide for my sons. It will be impossible for him to continue with this level of support for his own children, as he feels he needs to make up any deficit to me.
Why is my children's own father not responsible for his children. His wage is less than the £50,000. This isn't taken into account. If the money paid to me is going to reduce, why isn't my ex husband being asked to contribute more towards keeping his own children? Why isn't his maintenance set to increase?
I hope posters on here can help me see that my principles are out of line..make me, the female, the mother and the only person interested in bringing up our children, feel valued in this change.