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If your partner was circumcised, would you have your son circumcised too?

139 replies

Nikoletta · 02/10/2012 23:00

I noticed from another thread that a few women whose partners are circumcised seemed to talk very positively about it for various reasons, either because they believed it was cleaner, or they liked the way it looked, etc.
If your partner is not circumcised, I can well understand it if you would never dream of circumcising your son, as it is not really the norm in this country anyway. But if you do have / have had a circumcised partner, and you like the fact that he is circumcised, what would you feel about having your son circumcised too?
Would it be important for son to match his father?
Would it be inconsistent for you to like the fact that the father is circumcised, but not get son circumcised?
Especially if you have familiarity with circumcision in the family, I would be interested to know your thoughts.
What would you do?

OP posts:
ShobGiteTheKnid · 03/10/2012 10:42

Do you know what she said?

Do you know what bullying is?

You are coming across as a bit odd.

Debster7808 · 03/10/2012 10:42

Now now children, play nicely.

It beats me how rude and disrespectful people can be on Netmums.
Even if you have strong views, there is never any justification for some of the abuse that some people come out with on these threads.

ShobGiteTheKnid · 03/10/2012 10:44

Shock Netmums? !!!!!!!

Debster7808 · 03/10/2012 10:49

Haha! Well spotted!
My mistake.
(Actually, Netmums are quite a bit more restrained)

TantrumsAndBalloons · 03/10/2012 10:54

Yes, Mellower does know what v said.

It was vile.

Mellower · 03/10/2012 10:56

Is was also racist so who to ban.

The racist person

OR

The person who tell he racist person to go take piss behind a tree and have her bottom jagged by nettles?

Sorry I was running my bath ..............

Mellower · 03/10/2012 10:57

I am odd - deal with it.

Mellower · 03/10/2012 11:00

Yes I do know what bullying his - I was bullied for years.

I also know what rasicsm is!! Even if I cannot spell it cos i is thick like ye ken.

Why was I bullied:

Because my hair is blonde, so I was actually dragged home by my hair on several occasions. I was not odd then I just had a different colour of hair.

picnicbasketcase · 03/10/2012 11:00

No. DH isn't anyway but unless there was a genuine medical reason I wouldn't make that choice on a baby's behalf. In my opinion it doesn't 'look better' anyway.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 03/10/2012 11:10

The v person made a vile comment based on someone's religion. And was reported and the comments removed. But all the comments telling her to fuck off and stop calling Jewish people names was also deleted.

And now you think mellower should be banned for telling the truth, that's its every kind of wrong to do that?
And you think thats bullying?

But calling making the statement fucking idiot Jewish people you are doesn't deserve a ban?

And that makes mellower odd?

Mellower · 03/10/2012 11:18

sits with tantrums on odd bench

Hmm

Or I may even turn up at MN meet up and freak you all out. Shock

Naughty Naughty mellow!

GColdtimer · 03/10/2012 11:19

"Two boys already, both circumcised, and one more boy on the way. I guess we may as well have the third done like the rest of his family. I'm sure that it will be strange if he's the odd one out in his family. "

OP, please, please do not put your child through this just because everyone else in the family has been circumscised.

BertieBotts · 03/10/2012 11:21

No, why? It's a stupid reason. Men in families don't exactly sit around comparing cocks anyway and you wouldn't give your son a Prince Albert just because his dad had one, would you?

OhChristFENTON · 03/10/2012 11:23

I don't think that having matching family willies is a good enough reason, so perhaps OP, more thought is needed before you decide Smile

To answer directly the OP's question, no, I wouldn't want this done just because DH was, - but yes if it was medically necessary for my sons. Only time will tell.

BertieBotts · 03/10/2012 11:23

Cheerful I think the rate is around 50% now isn't it? So I think the locker room thing probably won't be an issue by the time your DS is that age.

Of course as the US is such a big place I'm sure the actual rate must vary wildly between states etc. But it's definitely becoming less common, it's unlikely he'll be the odd one out.

ShobGiteTheKnid · 03/10/2012 11:41

Tantrums, you took that entirely out of context. She said (and it was wrong I agree, but you are being way OTT about it) that she doesn't care if you are Jewish and use that as an excuse, but if you are then you are a Jewish idiot. What she should have said is that you (one, not you necessarily) are Jewish and an idiot.

Debster7808 · 03/10/2012 12:34

I think if the OP had her first two boys circumcised, then she should get the next one done too. It's not a barbaric procedure as some make out, nor is it mutilation, in my view. Given that circumcision can be done these days with only minimal discomfort if anaesthesia is used, I think it would be kinder for the third son not to feel different from the rest of the family. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Mrskbpw · 03/10/2012 12:45

My husband is circumcised because his mum is Jewish. We talked about it a lot when I was pregnant and he was quite keen to have it done if we had a boy.

I was less keen as despite reading loads about circumcision, I couldn't find any proper 'reason' for it.

Anyway, we asked the midwife about it and knew how to organise it etc. At the time we lived in an area with a big Muslim population so the midwives were used to it.

And when our baby boy was born, it took my husband about 30 seconds to decide he was perfect as he was and why would we hurt him for no reason? I was very relieved and definitely think we made the right decision.

Incidentally, my BIL (who's a vehement atheist!) had both his boys circumcised 'because he was'. They're now 16 and 14 and he says he wishes they'd never done it. Not sure what they think though - would be WAY too embarrassing for them if I asked!

PickledFanjoCat · 03/10/2012 14:29

I dont see why we are splitting hairs over a word here and there, there is no need to start deriding someone based on their religion.

Ill sit on the odd bench too because I think thats totally and utterly wrong.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 03/10/2012 14:30
Fairylea · 03/10/2012 14:32

Gosh I'm having a near mental breakdown dreading taking ds for his injections because i know they will hurt... Why anyone would put their son through circumcision ... well words fail me..

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 03/10/2012 14:33

My DH is circumcised and he is still angry about it. So no.

DuelingFanjo · 03/10/2012 14:34

My DH is circumcised because he needed to be medically - not at birth.
There's no way we would get our son circumcised unless it was for a serious medical reason.

I read really frightening things written by Americans who actually truely believe that Europe is full of men with diseases of the penis because they are not circucised. scary.

ShhhhhGoBackToSleep · 03/10/2012 14:34

No. Never.

CheerfulYank · 03/10/2012 14:38

That's exactly it, though, Bertie, I think the rate of circumcision is much higher than 50% where I live. It's not as common in the western states, I believe.

And I know someone who had it done as a teen because he didn't want to be "different". (This would only have been 5-6 years ago).

But again, still not doing it. I'm going to have to be very firm with the doctor directly after the birth.

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