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WWYD about my father

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just1fornow · 06/08/2012 20:39

My mother and father haven't been together since I was 5ish, we went without see my father till I was 13ish. He didn't stay in contact for long maybe a year if that, then I saw him once when I was out on my 18th birthday but haven't seen him since (now 24).

He has been in contact with my younger brother for the last 3 years but I've never really bothered to get contact.

But recently I wanted to get to know him a little more, so I asked my brother for his contact details, but he refused to give them to me. So I found my father in Facebook (I know I know that thing again) and messages him. Asking if he would like to have some kind of relationship.

His reply was that with him having a relationship with my brother it takes up a lot of his time and effort to do that so he doesn't have time to have one with me.

He has 5 children with my mother and 1 other and he only sees my brother.

WWYD do I leave it? Or do I tell him that he is out of order?

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BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 06/08/2012 20:41

I would just leave it.

He sounds like a selfish bastard, he hasn't changed yet, he won't.

I'm sorry. I have a shit dad too which I am trying to deal with at the moment.

just1fornow · 06/08/2012 20:44

He is selfish and I wanna say that or am I just wasting my time?

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BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 06/08/2012 20:45

If it will make you feel better then do it.

You may well be wasting your time. It honestly sounds like he really doesn't give a fuck. :(

The fact that he only see's one out of 6 of his kids speaks volumes!

just1fornow · 06/08/2012 20:59

It would make me feel better. It's also funny how (and I've only just realised) he only speaks to his only son and his daughters get fuck all

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BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 06/08/2012 21:02

My dad is very close to my half bro (his son) , never really made the effort with me. Hes all talk. :(

You have managed this long without him, you don't need him.

Concentrate on your family and be happy :)

MiniTheMinx · 06/08/2012 21:03

I think you have every right to tell him what you think. He, on the other hand has no grounds for upset if he doesn't like it.

just1fornow · 06/08/2012 21:04

That's not good. Im just glad that I don't actually need him.

When you say he doesn't really make an effort with you what do you mean?

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MrsHelsBels74 · 06/08/2012 21:06

I'd tell him he's a selfish arse & to go fuck himself, but I'm not feeling particularly charitable at the moment (can you tell?)

BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 06/08/2012 21:07

easier to do this

Its from yesterday. :)

There seems to be a fair few of us out there with shit fathers. :(

just1fornow · 06/08/2012 21:20

Omg! Some fathers are a waste of space and our time. Im glad my daughter doesn't have a waste of space dad

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BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 06/08/2012 21:21

Yup, I'm feel the same about my ds and dh.

He is a fab dad.

just1fornow · 06/08/2012 21:26

Which is all we need ey! Forget our fathers lol

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