Marriage v House v Children

[Kavina]

Hello.
I wanted some opinions on what to do. I'm 27 and am engaged. We are currently renting a house and saving for a deposit to buy our own house. However it is not looking likely that we will have a house deposit in the near future.
I want to be married before we have children, while my fiancee isn't too bothered, although he does want to get married so is happy to get married before we have children. Neither of us want a big wedding.
We both really want to have children, although we both do agree that we would like to have a honeymoon and so would rather do that before having children.
Basically my question is in what order does everyone think this should be done in, baring in mind that neither of us is getting younger?
A house is too expensive and not going to happen for a while.
A wedding is expensive and would eat away at our house budget.
And a baby is wanted by both although I want to be married first.

Thank you in advance.

We did house, marriage children. Just personal choice.

You have probably decided already. I know quite a few people that decided to have kids 1st & then still aren't married now due to finances etc.

Do what u think is best for u guys, life doesn't tend to go to plan anyway. Just enjoy the ride x

We did house then children and still haven't done wedding. It's just about setting priorities. We both agree that if we had the money for a wedding we'd rather spend it on an extension to give DS 2 a room of his own. Neither of us wants a small wedding on a budget so we will remain unmarried until it becomes more of a priority for us both.

Get married quietly and spend your money on a lovely honeymoon. Then save like crazy for a few years to get your house deposit, and then have baby.

I should probably add DD arrived as a result of a bottle of
wine and some careless behaviour so this way round was not our plan. We'd already agreed we wanted to have children so the BFP was a lovely unscheduled surprise.

I don't think there is a best order. Just one that suits you.

DH and I did house, marriage, babies. But that was because it suited us, our age and our finances.

Marriage, house, child.

Childcare is very expensive; what are your plans?

We wouldn't have been able to buy a house after having a child. I'm glad the mortgage was based on our maximum full time wages x 2. We both had to alter our hours to fit in with childcare. When DS went to school last year, we worked out that we had paid £30,000 in childcare. A day at nursery will cost between £35-£50 per day. 15 hours are subsidised the term after you child turns 3.

Actually marriage wasn't that important to me.

We did house, children and are still planning on getting married at some point.

I wish we'd got married pre children though, It would of been easier. Also I got pregnant with twins 6 weeks after we got engaged, I was convinced it could take years or might not happen so thought I should get on with it!

We were in a similar situation to you, we were saving hard for a deposit, we wanted t get married and have a child; preferably, for us personally, in that order.

We managed to find a nice house (4 yrs ago now) within our budget and were lucky enough that the vendor paid our deposit (£5k). This meant that the £5k deposit paid for a small church wedding (that i longed for), it was a small affair with only 35 family members (i have four sister all with partners!), instead of gifts we'd asked guests if they would kindly donate towards our honeymoon (we had a lovely week in New York). Then end of Sept 10 we decided to try for our first DC and low and behold we were lucky enough that all was perfect and we had our wonderful DS in June 11. He's now 14 mths old, but with terrible two's syndrome, lol.

It will come together in the end; were just trying to save for another deposit to enable us to move to a bigger house so could be a while in this current market. Xx