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MairyHinge · 08/01/2012 19:24

Ok, so bought 15yr old dd a tablet for Xmas, was £130, half price in HMV. It's an archos. She wanted an iPad.
I was vvv lucky in that i got an iPad!
Dd was rather put out Xmas day when she saw my iPad, but seemed to come round and was happy with her tablet.
So today she sets the table without complaining. Eats all her dinner without moaning and even eats her cabbage!,
I should have known something was wrong.....

She has her bedroom in the coverted cellar, it's like a den and it's hers, we rarely venture into the pit of hell it.
Today she said " you never come down to see me" I felt guilty so went down for a chat....
She begged me not to be cross... She has smashed the screen on her tablet Angry
I Am devastated. She's really upset, and has offered me her £90 Xmas money but I haven't taken it.
I don't know what to do.
It's unusable btw.
Just wondered what you lot would do?
Home insurance excess is £100 so not worth claiming really.
I'm thinking she will have to save up and replace it......
What do you think?

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squeakytoy · 08/01/2012 20:12

I am not saying OP should have bought her the sodding iPad though!.. I am saying it was a bit of a shitty thing to get one bought for her for Christmas when she knew it was what her daughter wanted. It is a bit like saying "ner ner, you didnt get one, but I did!"..

pinkappleby · 08/01/2012 20:12

Ok, I just did a google search and it seems to be a common issue, it seems the screens are quite delicate. It looks like you can pay various repair people/manufacturer/buy a screen off ebay but I'm not sure if it would be cost effective.

squeakytoy · 08/01/2012 20:13

thankyou DoMeDon, I think you understand where I am coming from..

G1nger · 08/01/2012 20:13

I was a very spoilt child - but ask for a present that expensive? Ha! I wouldn't have dared. (£99 'iPads'?! Not genuine ones.)

hellhasnofury · 08/01/2012 20:14

Genuine question-are iPads really as little as £99 now?

troisgarcons · 08/01/2012 20:15

£99 ipads - on a 9.99pm contract with Orange .... dont call me a liar, I dont like it. 24 month contract. That was during the summer holidays.

akaemmafrost · 08/01/2012 20:22

I agree with squeakytoy and that's not to say I would buy an iPad for a 15 year old on demand but I would feel a bit rubbish about getting the exact present my child really wanted. I think I would take the Christmas money and then tell her if she saves quite a bit more I will help out with purchasing what she really wanted, maybe even as part of her next birthday present.

Fwiw though my five year old uses my iPad carefully and with respect so certainly at 15 I would want her to have what she really wanted.

akaemmafrost · 08/01/2012 20:23

Yes troisgarcons is right. That is how I have my IPad.

G1nger · 08/01/2012 20:24

I wasn't calling you a liar. I was calling into question whether the iPads are genuine. But you're right - I was forgetting about contract deals. But when it's all added up, it still costs a lot (with a fixed contract deal).

hellhasnofury · 08/01/2012 20:24

I didn't call anyone a liar. I asked a genuine question because I'd like an iPad but can't stretch to £3-400 at the moment.

smogwod · 08/01/2012 20:24

Sorry but I'm with squeakytoy and domedon - I would've felt awful opening that gift too

Also think op shouldn't fund replacement

troisgarcons · 08/01/2012 20:29

We are making wild assumptions the OP knew she herself was getting an ipad. If she did, then it is a shitty thing to do, buy a cheap version for her DD.

A present like that only comes from your OH, who must have known the child wanted one. So it's (JMHO) a bit spiteful, who ever bought it or knew about it.

SiamoNellaMerda · 08/01/2012 20:29

I'm also with squeaky and domedon - that would just feel so wrong to me.

Ireallyneedanewname · 08/01/2012 20:34

Who got op the iPad?

akaemmafrost · 08/01/2012 20:37

See now another thing, we all share my iPad here, why couldn't you both share yours OP?

AmandinePoulain · 08/01/2012 20:42

trois where have you seen iPads for £99? Because I want to go to that shop Grin

troisgarcons · 08/01/2012 20:44

Orange - usually summer holidays have the best deals .... £99 ipad, £9.99 pcm contract, 24 month contract. Sure beats 600 quid or what ever they were 6 months ago.

No I dont have one, I was tempted, but I prefer a KB. I've tried to use one and its the devils own tool.

TheSkiingGardener · 08/01/2012 20:45

She should save to pay for it. Sounds like she needs a good lesson in responsibility and the value of money.

As for saying OP shouldn't have got an iPad. Wow. She is an adult, her dd is a child and they should both be grateful for what they get.

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MairyHinge · 08/01/2012 20:49

Ok, so I guess I'm going to be accused of drip feeding somewhat but....
Oh got me my iPad, I knew I was getting it. I had used my mobile upgrade recently ( November) to get dd the blackberry she needed so badly she would die without it. Whilst I kept my shitty iPhone that doesn't work, so OH said I could have an iPad to sort of compensate.
We had also, between us, said if she looks after her tablet we would consider getting her an iPad for her birthday/ Xmas next year.
It wasn't a case of she desperately wanted an ipad, she DID want a tablet, and had mentioned maybe a blackberry play book, but said she would be happy to have any tablet really, I just think she was a bit shocked as she didn't imagine I would get an iPad.
OH has said I should keep iPad just for me as much as poss, because my laptop is knackered due to crap being downloaded etc by the kids.
Is it wrong of me to want something JUST for me??

As far as repairing it goes, not sure, as it's basically just a screen, and it's smashed, so to me it's like saying you've smashed a plate but it can be put back together and fixed, but it's never the same.
Maybe worth looking at fixing tho.
Thanks again for the input!

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MairyHinge · 08/01/2012 20:51

Thanks thesklimgardener.

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akaemmafrost · 08/01/2012 20:51

No, it's certainly NOT wrong to want something just for you, I know I do Smile.

G1nger · 08/01/2012 20:54

"Is it wrong of me to want something JUST for me??"

No.

fallenpetal · 08/01/2012 21:19

Id have given the the BB for Xmas and not bought her the tablet personally.

I would let her choose if she wants another with her money, I certainly would not buy her one for her birthday! When she keeps her room tidy maybe think again. She needs to earn her luxury item as all kids starting with being responsible for her room

civilfawlty · 08/01/2012 21:39

Completely agree that she should she pay for the entire replacement.

In addition, I think it is a very good lesson to watch you get the iPad. She watched you pass over your phone upgrade. How can it be good for a 15 year old to think this stuff grows on trees? Grown adults with disposable income should have access to nicer stuff than their kids. Kids should learn the value of things-if they want this stuff they should get a weekend job. Simple as.

IvanaHumpalot · 08/01/2012 21:42

OP, your DD has had her gift for only two weeks and it's already broken; she's 15 not 5. Don't replace it, let her save and buy herself a new one, perhaps then she will learn to appreciate what she has had to save for. Not that I'm suggesting she deliberately broke the tablet, but perhaps a case of not looking after something she felt was second rate?
And no, it is not unreasonable to have something for yourself - it sounds like your DD has gadgets galore (or access to) not to need yours.