BIG Insult from friend's husband. What should I do?

[GoldenHaze]

My neighbour has her good points, but is also highly competitive particularly when it comes to children. Her husband's even worse.

At the park today the husband said: "People always say how beautiful >two year old DS< is, but it's not until you compare him with other children than you can see how true that is." The only other children there at the time were my two year old DD and a three year old friend. So, I said "You mean in comparison to >my DD< and >friend

God no, don't say anything to them about it!

Don't take it personally, they're clearly both a bit bonkers and PFBish by any chance?

No just ignore them in future

if she asks tell her how offensive you found them and that you'd prefer not to live in your life being made to feel bad by people who should be friends

ask them if they are going to have anymore kids...and which 1 will then be the ugly one?

I don't see this as an insult on your child. More a complete lack of awareness of the outside world!!!

Thanks, notnowbernard, so shall I just keep my distance and ignore them, do you think?

Actually before saying that about their DS, he'd said that his new baby DD was better looking than any other baby he'd ever seen. When I visited after the baby was born, she said "Have you ever seen such a beautiful baby?" I quote, sadly!

although it might be interestign to text her and say when your DH decides to apologise for his grotesque up his own arse insult today tell him not to fucking bother

cat meet pigeons

sorry, meant to say that I wouldn't actually say it, just think it!

Thanks for your replies.

OK, I'll back-off and tell them why I'm doing so if I'm asked.

No, no, no don't say anything. It is so crass as to actually be very funny though. Just think of them as Fast Show characters and start writing their stuff down for your own amusement

Just tell them I have the best kids in the world so they should just give up the competitiveness.

Otherwise just ignore them, they'll get the message (although it could take a while if they are stupid as they sound).

they sound hilarious. ignore and bitch about them with your friends.

is their ds all that?

Yes, activate, it's tempting!

I've made the bold move of de-friending him on Facebook! He sent me a friend request a few days ago because he thought I'd like to look at photos of the new baby. Ugh.

I have been bitching a bit with my friends , and it's been funny because they all seem to have similar stories about them. A few local mums went out for a meal recently (I couldn't go) and apparently all the woman could talk about was how sweet her DS is. Nobody else could get a word in.

He's a cute little boy. No great shakes though!

shame you've defriended him

have you got her still?

send her this

www.newsbiscuit.com/2009/04/26/publisher-launches-%E2%80%98competitive-parent%E2%80%99-magazine/

Love it, activate!

Actually I'm still wondering if I should say something to her. It's going to be difficult to distance myself without explanation as they live just two doors down and she's always catching me in the street to show me DS. If she was colder towards me I'd like to know why.

Isn't it fair to let her know?

next time you bump into her launch into a huge complaint about someone you don't know who is so up her own arse she thinks her children are the most amazing and wonderful things and boy does she bang on about it I mean can you just imagine anyone being so self-obsessed they don't realise that every parent thinks their own child is the most perfect creation in the entire wolrd

I mean can't they

oh I'm so sorry to go on but it's so infuriating, we used to all laugh at her but now I'm getting to the stage where I can't be arsed anymore

anyway gotta go - little Johnnie has been selected to be the Official Olympics mascot - toodles...

This isn't obviously a caring friendship and I would cull them!

Do it - ignore them from now on- they don't deserve your friendship.

I'm sorry but I find that hysterical. I'd have had a fit of the giggles and said something inappropriate.
Does it really bother you that much that someone is so besotted with their own children that they lose all sense of proportion?

I've tried that sort of thing before activate, but it doesn't seem to sink in. I'll give it another go though.

You're right vintageteacups, it's more of a friendship of convenience. From our point of view, it's handy to be friendly with neighbours; from there's it's good for have someone to show-off too!

goblinchild, I'm not bothered that they're blinkered about their own child, but I am when they're nasty about my DD and other people's children.

The correct response is, "Well, they don't get their looks from their dad, do they, me ol china?"

Good one, BoffinMum!

Every parent in the world thinks their child is the most beautiful and intelligent creature that ever walked the earth ... but few are daft enough to say it out loud.

I don't

That's what I thought Sinkingfeeling.

Right! I'll cut 'em out of my life. This is going involve a lot of looking out of the window to see if they're in the street, hiding and running for the car! :)

Ditch 'em, move on, don't say anything

...and actually I don't think that DD is the most beautiful, intelligent etc, etc. I suppose I'm realistic!