Realised I know another MNetter in RL - should I tell her?

[ShouldITellHer]

This afternoon I have stumbled accross the posts of another mumsnetter that sounded familiar. I clicked on the poster's profile and from the limited information and photos I can tell it's someone I know in RL.

Should I tell her??

I'm not going to go stalking her on here or anything, but one thing I like about MN is the anonymity. I can't decide whether if someone I knew in RL worked out my MN name I would want them to tell me so that I had the option to namechange and regain my anonymity or whether I'd rather they just never let on.

What do you think?

It is none of those who have posted here!

Rebecca your post has sealed it for me. I spotted her on a MC board. I was there because that's where I post too :( I would hate to cut off anyone's source of support as I have found it invaluable, so I'm just going to pretend I don't know, never read her posts unless they specifically respond to mine and carry on pretending to myself and letting her feel this is a space she can post without RL butting in.

Thanks for your advice all of you xxx

I don't mind people knowing it's me in real life and have even told people my nick name. Obviously unusual

Like Trill's suggestion though.

.. and just in case anyone thinks I'm heartless - I'm not denying a friend my RL support - her post had a happy ending. Sadly, mine did not and I'm not sure I'm ready to share that with people in RL yet (hence the reluctance to tell her my MN name or give her reason to try to identify me on here).

I messaged a real life friend that I recognised from here to tell her so as she was posting stuff about her relationship, and as I know both her and her dh well I thought she might want to namechange as it's great to be able to vent anonymously sometimes.

I didn't think about whether me telling her would make her feel worse so maybe I'm a bad friend. I hope not, and she possibly would have talked to me about the same stuff in the flesh anyway, but I think she has namechanged now which makes me feel more comfortable and less of secret spy.

Now I've realised they're on the MC board and your situation I think you've made the right decision not to contact her

So sorry