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Rich Housewife - AMA

983 replies

Iho · 06/03/2026 15:39

Ask me anything.

OP posts:
CleanOurWater · 07/03/2026 08:44

Butterknife · 07/03/2026 08:42

The OP's hobbies are her animals, interior design and gardening. Leaving the interior design and animals for the moment. (I love both of those too!)
Gardening can require vast amounts of knowledge, skill and creativity - but you have decided it's not interesting enough - it is a fascinating subject area to study - I rarely discuss it with anyone though - unless they are equally as obsessed. What interesting hobbies do you bore people with?

Agree. I am in awe of people who can create beautiful gardens (or even keep a pot plant alive tbh!)

Differentforgirls · 07/03/2026 08:46

Harrysmummy246 · 06/03/2026 16:54

I'm assuming you're bored and think anyone is interested...

You must be more bored!

DancingNotDrowning · 07/03/2026 08:49

Anononony · 06/03/2026 21:38

It's over 10x the average salary. What on earth do you mean it's not noteworthy?

I think it means - and I would agree - that the trappings of wealth associated with a £600k salary are not noteworthy.

The difference in experiences of someone earning 60k and 600k are not huge, if you’ve got DC you’re not regularly flying business on your own cash, let alone flying private. You’re still doing a week in centreparcs at half term. Your week skiing might cost 12k, but your getting a fairly mid range experience, probably in Austria not France. School fees for three kids are likely a stretch as is buying a new car outright.

I’m not denigrating that experience but it’s not what most people would think of when they think about how the rich live.

Ireolu · 07/03/2026 08:51

I have no idea about private jets. My information source is AI Google but it suggests chartering one is about 4k/hr for a mid size plane that sits up to 12 people. So for a 12 hr flight it's 48k. They own a sail boat OP says they paid 220k for (I think that's what she said). How is it impossible to be able to fly PJ for them? Maybe someone on here who regularly flies PJ can enlighten us!

Butterknife · 07/03/2026 08:55

DancingNotDrowning · 07/03/2026 08:49

I think it means - and I would agree - that the trappings of wealth associated with a £600k salary are not noteworthy.

The difference in experiences of someone earning 60k and 600k are not huge, if you’ve got DC you’re not regularly flying business on your own cash, let alone flying private. You’re still doing a week in centreparcs at half term. Your week skiing might cost 12k, but your getting a fairly mid range experience, probably in Austria not France. School fees for three kids are likely a stretch as is buying a new car outright.

I’m not denigrating that experience but it’s not what most people would think of when they think about how the rich live.

And I think that’s why people on very high incomes often say on here that they don’t feel rich! And then they get absolutely slammed for that opinion!😂

Differentforgirls · 07/03/2026 08:57

tooloololoo · 06/03/2026 17:36

I don’t think that is necessarily rich

we earn more / house value more. Rolls Royce Lamborghinis
I wouldn’t say we are ‘rich’ but very comfortable.

we don’t talk about it either

What made you start?

CleanOurWater · 07/03/2026 08:58

Ireolu · 07/03/2026 08:51

I have no idea about private jets. My information source is AI Google but it suggests chartering one is about 4k/hr for a mid size plane that sits up to 12 people. So for a 12 hr flight it's 48k. They own a sail boat OP says they paid 220k for (I think that's what she said). How is it impossible to be able to fly PJ for them? Maybe someone on here who regularly flies PJ can enlighten us!

Edited

They probably could if they really wanted to. But lots of wealthy people are more than able to buy choose not to either because they are prudent with their money, environmentally responsible, or just not fussed enough by the difference in experience

I regularly get the train or bus even though I own a car. It's the same concept

Outside the Instagram/RHOBH world, lots of rich people don't flaunt their wealth

ThatSourGobstopper · 07/03/2026 09:00

Eufyon · 07/03/2026 07:57

In Rural Lincolnshire?

Well you never know. Stranger things have happened. 😂

goz · 07/03/2026 09:01

DancingNotDrowning · 07/03/2026 08:49

I think it means - and I would agree - that the trappings of wealth associated with a £600k salary are not noteworthy.

The difference in experiences of someone earning 60k and 600k are not huge, if you’ve got DC you’re not regularly flying business on your own cash, let alone flying private. You’re still doing a week in centreparcs at half term. Your week skiing might cost 12k, but your getting a fairly mid range experience, probably in Austria not France. School fees for three kids are likely a stretch as is buying a new car outright.

I’m not denigrating that experience but it’s not what most people would think of when they think about how the rich live.

No the differences of someone earning 60k and 600 are actually extremely different.

Ireolu · 07/03/2026 09:02

CleanOurWater · 07/03/2026 08:58

They probably could if they really wanted to. But lots of wealthy people are more than able to buy choose not to either because they are prudent with their money, environmentally responsible, or just not fussed enough by the difference in experience

I regularly get the train or bus even though I own a car. It's the same concept

Outside the Instagram/RHOBH world, lots of rich people don't flaunt their wealth

OP says they could but they choose not to. There's been a few people piping up saying they couldn't hence my post...

goz · 07/03/2026 09:02

SquirrelMadness · 07/03/2026 08:24

I'm curious about what you do in an 8 bedroom house though. Surely you have several rooms that you just don't use, or do you just go and sit/sleep somewhere else for a bit just to make sure you're making the most of it? Surely once the house is a certain size, adding more rooms becomes a bit pointless?

I often think that with the omaze houses, they look lovely but what could I possibly do with so many rooms.

It’s probably quite easy to fill though, 3 go on bedrooms, the DH works from home so there’s an office, a dressing room, possible a hobby room for OP and 2 spare rooms for hosting.

Newthreadnewme11 · 07/03/2026 09:04

Iho · 06/03/2026 18:07

£170k

you’re coming across very well in your posts, OP. Very impressed at your straight, non- pissy responses even while under a bit of an attack from a few posters!
my question is - if your H earns so much you must have more in investments etc than 170k, surely? Or did you spend the high salary on getting the mortgage free house and cars and now you’re saving a bit more? Or do you spend a lot every year?

JacknDiane · 07/03/2026 09:06

LilyBunch25 · 07/03/2026 08:27

In my experience this can happen anyway, rich guy or not...?Certainly happened to me when my first husband was cheating and we certainly had no money. And may not happen to OP at all!

Hopefully it wont but I remember from my youth a few friends targeting rich men purely for the lifestyle.

Newthreadnewme11 · 07/03/2026 09:07

Iho · 06/03/2026 18:15

I appreciate that, wealth is relative. We don't live in London.

Haha! 600k is definitely rich! Honestly, some posters! 😂

goz · 07/03/2026 09:07

Eufyon · 07/03/2026 07:55

Private jet @goz

you honestly think the op is being truthful when she says she could fly by private jet?!

Yes on a 600k income with actually quite low outgoings (no mortgage, no private school fees) it’s feasible that OP could charter private to Europe for a holiday. You’re talking around 20k return for OP’s small family and maybe a handful of friends.

Ireolu · 07/03/2026 09:08

Newthreadnewme11 · 07/03/2026 09:07

Haha! 600k is definitely rich! Honestly, some posters! 😂

Like rich rich, I don't understand people falling over themselves to claim it isn't. Mind boggles.

Differentforgirls · 07/03/2026 09:09

Eufyon · 06/03/2026 18:22

A Rich Housewife @Iho who is very bored with absolutely no plans for anything to do today aside spend on mumsnet 😁

Just like you then?

Newthreadnewme11 · 07/03/2026 09:12

Iho · 06/03/2026 20:10

Not today, no.

🙌😂 I love you, OP 😆

Differentforgirls · 07/03/2026 09:14

ProcrastinatorsAnonymous · 06/03/2026 18:43

Must be in the middle of nowhere then, as my semi-detached house is worth much more than this!

Are you always this rude?

ParmaVioletTea · 07/03/2026 09:15

You're not rich. Your husband is. Stop boasting about nothing.

Unfenced · 07/03/2026 09:18

But why, OP? You’re in the fortunate position of being very comfortably off without small children, a stressful job or caring responsibilities to absorb your time, and you use that money and leisure to spend several days a week doing housework?

Differentforgirls · 07/03/2026 09:23

Eufyon · 06/03/2026 19:25

Snob? Oh calm down 😁

A very bored one!

EasternStandard · 07/03/2026 09:26

Unfenced · 07/03/2026 09:18

But why, OP? You’re in the fortunate position of being very comfortably off without small children, a stressful job or caring responsibilities to absorb your time, and you use that money and leisure to spend several days a week doing housework?

Agree on this one.

And another question what price did you see for using a private jet?

Eufyon · 07/03/2026 09:28

Differentforgirls · 07/03/2026 09:23

A very bored one!

And… @Differentforgirls has arrived! 😁

CautiousLurker2 · 07/03/2026 09:29

ParmaVioletTea · 07/03/2026 09:15

You're not rich. Your husband is. Stop boasting about nothing.

Not sure I agree with this. I am a SAHM like @Iho . Also have a large mortgage free home, second home in London bought for cash recently, top of the range BMWs, luxury holidays etc. DH actually earns more currently than OP’s DH, but is employed so the window for his earning is smaller and will end when he retired in 5years or so.

We also have two kids who have been challenging in their own way with SEN needs so DH would not have been able to achieve the heights in his career and have a family without me supporting him - supporting them. Not something I could have done while juggling a job, either. It is me who has found each of our homes, planned the development/renovations, project managed them so that our homes doubled in value before each move so I have personally contributed to the increased value of our assets. As a result I feel very much that his wealth, his achievement, is also mine and am fortunate that he ardently feels the same.

Our children are finally settling, one belatedly arriving at uni and finding her feet/overcoming her MH issues. The thing my husband is most proud of as a couple is not his money, or his on paper wealth, the houses - it’s our children’s progress and achievements, the security of their futures, as it’s for them that he has worked so hard.

So, no, @Iho is not a ‘kept’ wife of a millionaire - such a comment is deeply misogynistic and fails to recognise the value of a female partner’s contribution to the marriage - she is an equal partner in the economic and social relationship that serves as the foundation of their family set up, which a divorce settlement would also support.