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I'm a SENCo....AMA

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SurvivingSenco · 20/01/2026 22:05

With the news and social media being full of SEND news, I thought it might be insightful to do one of these.

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SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 20:47

Littlebitlostnow · 21/01/2026 20:16

My 5 year olds (year 1) school is between sencos. The new one starts next term. My son has suspected ADHD, struggles with transitions, impulse control and sensory overwhelm. It's hard, and as a parent I feel completely lost with what to do next and how to help him. Any suggestions? What should I be asking the SENCO when they start?

That sounds like a lot for all of you.
Routine and predictability will help at home to support any unpredictability in school. Keep things regular, calm, routine. If there is ADHD I wonder if self-esteem might be playing into it. Activities at home that focus on celebrating who they are and developing self esteem may support.
When the new senco starts, let them settle for a bit! If you jump in too soon you might get an overwhelmed senco not giving the best of themselves. I'd then ask them to observe your little one in school and go from there.

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SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 20:50

MightyGoldBear · 21/01/2026 20:18

For a parent viewing new schools what would you say are signs of a good senco team and teachers who understand sen. What are the best questions to ask and indicators to look for?
Would starting a new school one year lower be better for a child who could benefit from catching up/improving confidence and self esteem academically?

Our current School said all the right lip service but we have found them really frustrating. They take my child's masking as a sign to forget the previous reasonable adjustments and the go ahead to put more pressure on. Till we are back to square one with ebsa. Just an endless cycle.

I'd be wanting to speak to other staff to be honest, every teacher is a teacher of sen and how they approach needs is going to be telling. Look at the school in lesson times but also at less structured times like lesson changeover or breaks. Also look at the sen section of the website, is it clear? Asking questions like what work do they do to support parents may also give you an insight

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SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 20:53

2x4greenbrick · 21/01/2026 20:27

How do you push back on the LA when they act unlawfully and how do you support parents to push back? On a related note, have you ever supported a parent to pursue JR proceedings when the LA acts unlawfully?

Have you ever attended a SENDIST hearing as a witness? If so, has the LA ever offered you an incentive to present a picture that supports the LA’s case rather than be completely truthful?

Have you ever had a pupil who has moved on from your school to EOTAS/EOTIS?

Do you know the suspension rate for DC with SEN in your school? How does it compare to the suspension rate for the school overall?

I know the law, so I quote and reference where I need to. I reference case law with examples.

I've signposted parents who have wondered about JR and yes have been a witness at tribunal for both the LA and the parent. No incentives either side, just my professional judgement.

Yes. Pupils have gone onto EOTAS, by that point the parent has done all of the communicating directly with the LA and made that choice themselves.

I monitor behaviour and suspension data very closely. Typically our SEN data is not over represented in this.

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Abala67 · 21/01/2026 21:00

What are your thoughts on the upcoming white paper apparently stating every mainstream school is going to have a resourced base?

Givemeausernamepls · 21/01/2026 21:02

SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 20:43

I'd start by asking what reasonable adjustments they are considering to support his needs. As a parent I'd be wondering about what skills need to be developed to reduce behaviour incidents, but also what can bring joy back into school. What excites him and gets him motivated? Can that be used to bring some happiness back into how he feels about school? Does he feel safe and secure and like he belongs? Has he got a trusted adult he can check out with at the end of the day to debrief?

Thank you so much - i had not considered what brings joy cos he does really like sport

SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 21:07

Abala67 · 21/01/2026 21:00

What are your thoughts on the upcoming white paper apparently stating every mainstream school is going to have a resourced base?

I think it's needed and I'd welcome it. There are some schools in my county that have 2 resourced bases. It can work well.

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Sausagescanfly · 21/01/2026 21:19

Do you think there are lots of underachieving academically able children with SEN? I got the impression that if your academic performance was average and you weren't disruptive, then that was considered ok and reaching your actual potential just didn't matter to the school.

Imperfectpolly · 21/01/2026 21:20

Interesting thread.

My DS is 12. He was diagnosed with asd at 3. He needed 1:1 support transitioning to primary school. Over the years his needs reduced and he now has little, if any, 1:1 support. He can still be impulsive eg answer question without putting his hand up. He has issues with social awareness. He is very intelligent and scores highly in tests.

He starts secondary school in September. What type of support should we look for/expect in secondary school? Am I being naive in thinking he will get along fine with little support?

SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 21:33

Imperfectpolly · 21/01/2026 21:20

Interesting thread.

My DS is 12. He was diagnosed with asd at 3. He needed 1:1 support transitioning to primary school. Over the years his needs reduced and he now has little, if any, 1:1 support. He can still be impulsive eg answer question without putting his hand up. He has issues with social awareness. He is very intelligent and scores highly in tests.

He starts secondary school in September. What type of support should we look for/expect in secondary school? Am I being naive in thinking he will get along fine with little support?

Ah that's amazing :) it's great to hear success stories like that!
Transition can be tricky, so much is changing for them. I mentioned above that keeping things as regular at home as possible can be really helpful for transition to limit how much of their world changes. Lots of visits, chats, social stories etc. He might need a bit more support at the start of year 7 with a view to peel it back once he's settled.

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Londonmummy66 · 21/01/2026 21:43

SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 19:17

Probably because other areas of need have had more research or what is "seen" is more obvious. I suspect this will change and there will be greater understanding of things such as dyspraxia, dyscalculia and dysgraphia.

Research depends on funding, if there isn't the appetite or funding to research it won't get done. I do think the tide may turn on this though in years to come.

Thank you - my DD had an assessment by the top academic research department in the UK on Dyspraxia - following an NHS diagnosis of the same. Her school dismissed everything in it and contacted the exam boards to say that they disagreed with it - when challenged the Head said it wa because putting in for extra time etc for a DC with dyspraxia would put the extra time for every other DC in the school at risk which seems nonsensical to me. Make it make sense....

SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 21:53

Londonmummy66 · 21/01/2026 21:43

Thank you - my DD had an assessment by the top academic research department in the UK on Dyspraxia - following an NHS diagnosis of the same. Her school dismissed everything in it and contacted the exam boards to say that they disagreed with it - when challenged the Head said it wa because putting in for extra time etc for a DC with dyspraxia would put the extra time for every other DC in the school at risk which seems nonsensical to me. Make it make sense....

For GCSEs?
Very strict rules on access arrangements. If the school hasn't got enough evidence of normal way of working and that it is needed in exams situations along with jcq evidence being fulfilled then they won't have been able to apply and if they did then yes it would've put other students arrangements at risk.

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ButWhysTheRumGone · 21/01/2026 22:02

ButWhysTheRumGone · 21/01/2026 07:13

I have a year 6 child with ASD and ADHD who is on a support plan. The support plan is largely ignored by the TAs who think his reasonable adjustments aren’t necessary and make a fuss about them saying they don’t see what he has some of them. How do you deal with staff who have this attitude to children with additional needs?

I’ll add to this: how can I ensure that his support plan is being adhered to? currently it’s not worth the paper it’s written on and sone staff are punishing him for the behaviours that come with ASD and ADHD such as lack of eye contact, slower processing, getting overwhelmed and frustrating so coming across as rude. He doesn’t trust the staff because they lie and gaslight him. We are looking at other schools and praying that secondary school will be better. He’s a bright lad and he’s not achieving his potential at his current school due to their approach. Do you have any advice on how I can improve things for him? Home is very safe and predictable with 3 activities a week for self esteem building, friendship and letting off steam plus he’s getting plenty of exercise and quiet time.

notnorman · 21/01/2026 22:09

Fair play to you. I was one for 20 years in secondary. It’s a very hard role.

Lightwell · 22/01/2026 08:47

theoretically could there be sencos who are really lacking in knowledge and training and experience? I know at least two!

Londonmummy66 · 22/01/2026 11:43

SurvivingSenco · 21/01/2026 21:53

For GCSEs?
Very strict rules on access arrangements. If the school hasn't got enough evidence of normal way of working and that it is needed in exams situations along with jcq evidence being fulfilled then they won't have been able to apply and if they did then yes it would've put other students arrangements at risk.

Very clear evidence of normal way of working from year 7 onwards and NHS diagnosis in that year - they asked for the EdPsych report in Year 10 and then rejected it when it was in line with the NHS findings in the previous report which they had been following up til then.

ETA they even took away the previous normal way of working to provide an enlarged paper to accomodate DD's poor handwriting.

SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 18:31

ButWhysTheRumGone · 21/01/2026 22:02

I’ll add to this: how can I ensure that his support plan is being adhered to? currently it’s not worth the paper it’s written on and sone staff are punishing him for the behaviours that come with ASD and ADHD such as lack of eye contact, slower processing, getting overwhelmed and frustrating so coming across as rude. He doesn’t trust the staff because they lie and gaslight him. We are looking at other schools and praying that secondary school will be better. He’s a bright lad and he’s not achieving his potential at his current school due to their approach. Do you have any advice on how I can improve things for him? Home is very safe and predictable with 3 activities a week for self esteem building, friendship and letting off steam plus he’s getting plenty of exercise and quiet time.

That sounds difficult. Staff awareness will be dependent on how much they understand needs. Are there targets on the plan with regular review meetings and staff feedback to inform progress made towards them?

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SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 18:32

Lightwell · 22/01/2026 08:47

theoretically could there be sencos who are really lacking in knowledge and training and experience? I know at least two!

It's entirely possible that they have knowledge and training but have reached compassionate burnout due to how the system is working

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SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 18:34

Londonmummy66 · 22/01/2026 11:43

Very clear evidence of normal way of working from year 7 onwards and NHS diagnosis in that year - they asked for the EdPsych report in Year 10 and then rejected it when it was in line with the NHS findings in the previous report which they had been following up til then.

ETA they even took away the previous normal way of working to provide an enlarged paper to accomodate DD's poor handwriting.

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It sounds like getting answers from them directly would be helpful. They have to follow jcq guidance so I'd assume decision making is in line with it.

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Lightwell · 22/01/2026 18:42

SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 18:32

It's entirely possible that they have knowledge and training but have reached compassionate burnout due to how the system is working

This is of course true of many, and I'm sorry to cast shade. The specific ones I am thinking of unfortunately, work in the private sector, haven't really met a broad range of children presenting with a variety of needs, in fact behave as if they have never met an autistic child before of any kind. They both often ask me the kinds of basic questions about ASD that I was asking people for the first month my child was newly diagnosed, and which I am now confident to answer for others. But it's their actual job that they have been doing for years.

MissingSockDetective · 22/01/2026 19:40

Thanks for your previous response, I find it all very interesting. I've been finding out about the new Ofsted (which sounds even more rubbish than before frankly). I wonder if you think there's an awareness that those with SEN are the only children Ofsted are now interested in and will talk to? As a parent I find this shocking, I have to say, as I do think all children are as important as each other. It almost feels that sometimes if you don't have SEN at school then Ofsted don't care.

ButWhysTheRumGone · 22/01/2026 20:04

Thank you for your reply. No, there’s no targets. No targets have ever been mentioned. I’m told he has the most adjustments in the whole school but I think that’s because I u destined his needs and have broken them down into specific things rather than wooly vagueness. He is privileged to have these reasonable adjustments that other children don’t have need so I’m feeling rather pissed off with the school. The sendco is checking if certain things are being done even though Ds reports they aren’t. Things like not being given a scribe for practice SATS when his plan says he’s to have one. He asked and was told he couldn’t have one. Everybody has been shown the plan and it’s been checked that they understand the plan but it’s not being implemented by all staff. Imagine if a school turned round and said a child using a wheelchair was privileged because other children have to walk. Understanding around SEN is still woefully poor. I also feel there is a lot of fear-mongering about secondary school about how ADHD behaviours wont be tolerated and he’ll spend his life in isolation for the smallest thing. How can a child best be prepared for the transition to secondary?

SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 20:58

MissingSockDetective · 22/01/2026 19:40

Thanks for your previous response, I find it all very interesting. I've been finding out about the new Ofsted (which sounds even more rubbish than before frankly). I wonder if you think there's an awareness that those with SEN are the only children Ofsted are now interested in and will talk to? As a parent I find this shocking, I have to say, as I do think all children are as important as each other. It almost feels that sometimes if you don't have SEN at school then Ofsted don't care.

I'm pleased there's a narrative on inclusion, if provision is good for the most vulnerable of pupils then the thinking is it will be supporting others too. There will still be a focus on other pupils. For me inclusion doesn't just mean those with sen.

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SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 21:00

ButWhysTheRumGone · 22/01/2026 20:04

Thank you for your reply. No, there’s no targets. No targets have ever been mentioned. I’m told he has the most adjustments in the whole school but I think that’s because I u destined his needs and have broken them down into specific things rather than wooly vagueness. He is privileged to have these reasonable adjustments that other children don’t have need so I’m feeling rather pissed off with the school. The sendco is checking if certain things are being done even though Ds reports they aren’t. Things like not being given a scribe for practice SATS when his plan says he’s to have one. He asked and was told he couldn’t have one. Everybody has been shown the plan and it’s been checked that they understand the plan but it’s not being implemented by all staff. Imagine if a school turned round and said a child using a wheelchair was privileged because other children have to walk. Understanding around SEN is still woefully poor. I also feel there is a lot of fear-mongering about secondary school about how ADHD behaviours wont be tolerated and he’ll spend his life in isolation for the smallest thing. How can a child best be prepared for the transition to secondary?

I think targets might be a helpful starting point so there's something measurable? Less focused on what staff are doing but more so about how your ds is developing towards targets.

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SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 21:01

Lightwell · 22/01/2026 18:42

This is of course true of many, and I'm sorry to cast shade. The specific ones I am thinking of unfortunately, work in the private sector, haven't really met a broad range of children presenting with a variety of needs, in fact behave as if they have never met an autistic child before of any kind. They both often ask me the kinds of basic questions about ASD that I was asking people for the first month my child was newly diagnosed, and which I am now confident to answer for others. But it's their actual job that they have been doing for years.

I wonder if part of this is around the training and statutory expectations for sencos. Its such a big role though that I know there's very few people who truly want to do it.

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SurvivingSenco · 22/01/2026 21:03

I've seen a lot of posts in general about poor sencos. I know there will be parents that think that of me. Its never wilful incompetence, capacity is a huge issue unfortunately. I really hope that's addressed in some way in the white paper, although I'm not convinced it will be.

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