I still breastfeed my 5 year-old

[TandemFeeder]

I’ve had another baby too so am now a tandem feeder. Happy to answer any questions.

You have missed my point. this is a thread of people making nonsense statements with no evidence. At all. And in fact often the evidence points to the opposite. But sure come at me for suggesting a correlation and indeed causation between bullying parents and bullying kids.

that said - https://www.stompoutbullying.org/why-kids-bully

This thread reminds me of "bitty" from Little Britain.

@emmatherhino Sounds like a secret pact! Keeping quiet because you know what others will think.

Huh? I think the lesson is that you'd better conform to society's expectations or you will be accused of being a pervert raising a future serial killer!

I get really annoyed about the use of that sketch because Walliams is a fucking idiot who has a lot of concerning views so for people to use that as a defence of some sort is really frustrating, in my opinion. I had it used against me when my child was two.

For me, I personally see it at 3, that was me done. But children are unable to latch as they get older due to the change in shape of their mouth and loss of milk teeth I believe. And I think most kids would be done by 7 or 8 max - well, I can only say that from anecdotes of the parents I read posts from on a Facebook group I was in (it had hundreds of thousands of members). But I don’t imagine any child chooses to continue much past that. It’s like cosleeping, lots of kids do it till they’re around 8 or older but by the time they’re teens they don’t do it any more (most of them). Of course I don’t know for sure, I can only talk about the anecdotal evidence I have been given.

If you’re asking me what do I think the maximum age should be? I honestly have no idea. I think 7 or 8 should be the max in my personal opinion.

I didn't 'come at you'. I said that even the children of good parents sometimes ended up being bullies. You can't always blame the parents.

Genuinely, I think you need to stop. You are misrepresenting people right, left and centre now.

It does apply to toddlers. I don’t know about 4+ but there’s lots of evidence about the milk changes for over 1. It gets fattier if I recall correctly.

We don't do friend sleepovers because she's too young, so that isn't something I've had to think about or will have to think about. Good question though!

I'd imagine she wouldn't even ask to because she would be too busy and distracted playing with her friend, and wouldn't have me tucking her into bed and doing the normal bedtime routine. When she's had her cousins sleepover, the bedtime routine has flown out the window so there isn't the opportunity

What would I do though in that hypothetical situation? I don't honestly know. Probably do the same as I would if she wanted her usual bedtime bath routine - remind her that her friend is here and we don't do things that would exclude her friend (bf, bath, cuddling to sleep) because that's not being a good host.

That’s really NOT the tone of this thread at all. And FWIW how is it “confirming” to breastfeed when the rates in the UK are pitifully low … and the rates of extended or natural term breastfeeding even lower???

Sounds like you are projecting your insecurities onto this thread @Eventer22

Have you not thought about how this is going to affect his sexuality.People have clear memories from being 5 and 6. I think when he becomes sexually active this is going to be a real 'headfuck' for him.

Actually a mother passes antibodies on to her baby regardless of whether or not she breastfeed. As you had chicken pox history you pass some immunity on to your child. This wears off before the child is 6 months old.

I am really not.

That's incorrect, the process is the same through BF duration

If you are not 'conforming' to the clear promotion of the need to do so.
And I don't know what thread you are reading or what levels you feel are appropriate but some on here are most definitely hostile.
Any comment or change of view is met with incredulity or worse.

It really would make me squirm if I could remember suckling my mother as a school aged child. So so grim.

You don't have a sense of humour do you?

My 9 nearly 10 year old is slow to lose his milk teethso if we'd breast fed on that rationale, he'd still be breastfeeding now.....

It does. And actually when they tested milk they found the anti bodies got more concentrated as the child gets older. The science is pretty fascinating!

You could wean your older one you know! Even the most extended BF friendly guidelines say to continue as long as you both want to. It sounds like you’re ready to stop…?

Neither does David Williams to be fair.

Oh yes! This would be a real concern

I breastfed 2 children up until around 3.5, tandem feeding for just over a year. There was a definite point with both where I started to feel they were getting too old. For me it was about when they started at school nursery and I was concerned they may talk about it and perhaps be bullied for it. I also was starting to get pretty fed up and touched out. Thankfully they both seemed to lose interest on their own about the same time.

Is that why he has made millions from his work?

the experience was what my brother went through.

he has awful memories of it, and is pretty scarred to this day as a 21 year old boy from the bullying and turmoil it caused him. It didn't just stop in primary school. Secondary school it continued as a load of the kids he was in primary school followed on.

it haunted every single aspect of his schooling experience.

he is NC with my mother. There are other reasons at stake, but it definitely contributes for sure.