I still breastfeed my 5 year-old

[TandemFeeder]

I’ve had another baby too so am now a tandem feeder. Happy to answer any questions.

I haven’t said it hasn’t? You’re trying to get one over on me but I don’t get why or how you think you’re doing that. I’ve said, over and over, I want to be a good person who raises good people. That’s how, as a society, as a race, we stop bullying. There’s no magic answer except for that.

Precisely.

She started it to gloat, provoke, sit back and eat her popcorn while the comments rolled in.

I think we all remember your now-deleted post.

Nobody wants to have memories of sucking their mum’s nipples.

Why is it?

You can breastfeed and have self-respect. Why do you think this post is acceptable?

Why is a natural process 'urgh'? Why is your post making you sound so immature?

It’s you who things it’s a ‘gotcha’ moment saying ‘let’s sort the bullies’ and going on about MLK as if it’s the same thing, minimising the truth that OPs child could be bullied. Nobody was suggesting your child would bully anyone. But even though we’d all like to stop bullying it doesn’t change the facts that some children would bully a kid if they found out this info.

For most I think it becomes memories of a feeling of closeness. (obvs based on anecdotes, everyone is different). Remember this happens all over the world and is a completely natural human experience.

Well I'm sure letting them know they were pushing their mothers nipple with their tongues at an age where they could read will be far more reassuring and reduce the ick factor significantly. "Don't appear to feel this way" Wow, that's concrete proof that they will be fine with it.

No, I haven’t. You’ve picked up on me saying about kids bullying and you think you’re being smart by demanding over and over how I stop bullying. I’ve responded, over and over, that I can’t, all I can do is raise decent people and be one myself. I’ve said the same thing time and time again! Enough now, I can’t say it a sixth or seventh time, I’ve answered you. I said I can’t stop others being pricks but if we all tried to be good people it would cease or at least reduce. That’s all I can do. I haven’t ever claimed to be able to stop bullying but I wouldn’t stop my kids from doing something or being themselves ‘just in case’.

Im not responding any more, I’ve said the same thing repeatedly, stop trying to make this into something it isn’t.

What relevence is that stupid comedy sketch? Have you ever seen a real life adult breastfeeding?

I wasn’t, I was telling you that’s how it works because people seem think saying ‘sucking’ makes the point hit home harder but it just shows the ignorance.

I said don’t appear to feel this way because I only have hearsay. I’m not hiding that. But asking their opinion is the only way to garner that opinion.

My child is in year one.

She drinks and eats just like every other child at school. She will go friends for tea after school.

She just has five minutes (or less) of breastfeeding at night. Most children past two ish (or younger) will only have one or two very short feeds a day, usually at night or morning. They're not like newborns who feed every ten seconds.

I don't know if she's told her friends she feeds, but to her, it's totally normal.

Take your own advice and calm down. It was YOU who picked up on me commenting to someone else and said we need to sort bullying, then admitted you can’t and now can’t get over it. I don’t think I’m ’being smart’ or ‘getting one over on you’ or any other insult you want to throw my way.

Okay love, whatever you say, as I said I can’t repeat myself any more, so let’s just leave it.

At what age are they meant to be getting these memories?

Good for you! My DD self weaned just before age 4. People don't seem to get that by that age you can have an actual conversation about it. I would never have tried to BF her if she wasn't interested and she gradually just weaned off and forgot about it herself.
I was happy to feed for as long as she wanted to. Obviously there are the nutritional benefits and the health benefits to you in terms of reduced cancer risk etc. But also- why make them give up something that isn't harmful (unlike bottles which do affect teeth development).

I was just curious, especially with my second point, I wonder if mum will ask them to keep it secret, I can imagine a child getting judged by other pupils hugely at that age.

most kids see breastfeeding as comforting don’t they? If anything bad happens at school it would be good for mum to help them deal with it another way . Maybe she will express and let them take it in?

I didn’t say whether I was for or against

Can I ask why this is angering/upsetting you so much?

I see. Interesting.

Well @Riaanna you obviously did attack because your nasty comment about FF has been deleted !!

No need to be so angry.

My point is that it is a responsibility of the parent to transition a baby to a toddler to a child and so on.
Not doing that in any one respect is not good.

I know. While I wasn’t breastfed at all I know how cruel kids can be at that age.

It’s not? How am I angry? I’ve repeated myself about 6 times, I can’t say what I’m saying any other way and I don’t see the point in trying so I want to leave it. How is that me being angry? When you’ve repeated yourself over and over and a poster keeps coming at you it’s tiring.

Breast milk never loses it nutritional benefit. It has been know to benefit elderly unwell people and those suffering from cancer.
The difference is that after a certain age (approx 7) humans can not get milk from breast feeding - this tends to be linked to losing first teeth (milk teeth) and once adult teeth grow the child loses the ability to suckle (due to jaw changes)
In many cultures adults drink human milk that has been expressed.
I don't see how this is any different to drinking cow milk and nutritionally human milk is higher nutritional value to humans that cow milk.

Humans just have weird ideas about human bodies and would rather drink milk from other species