I am 23, parent to a 3 year old. AMA

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Wow, what a dick comment!

Lots of dick comments on this thread. I've just commented on another thread about how supportive MN was when I had my baby at 19, 10 years ago now, and posted on here when I first found out I was pregnant and was terrified. Nowadays you'd have to wade through so many shitty comments to find the support 🙄

It is young to have a baby, Mumsnet threads are full of people saying they were the youngest in their NCT class at 31/32.

Did you recently publish a memoir?

I wonder if OP knows that she's meant to answer the questions.

Another shitty comment. 🙄 You do realise that she only started the thread a couple of hours ago.

Maybe she won’t come back though because there’s so many arseholes on the thread. Who could blame her?

Not where I live.

Has OP answered any questions?

Mumsnet is full of people so bitter, smile and stop being so bitchy you might have a better day 🫶🏻 OP don’t let anyone negative get you down!

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I've seen 2 year olds using tik tok.

Yes but if you became a first time mum at any age in the last 10 years you'd be accessing or following the same info and trends, surely?

It wouldn't be "baby led weaning for those parents aged 20-25 " but "give your baby a crushed up rusk in their bottle if you're 40+ "

When I was born….long time ago…most new mothers were in their early 20’s.

What is the average age to have a child now?

I know that many women are choosing to wait until they’re older now but I didn’t know if it is massively different than 10 - 20 years ago.

I was 18 when I had my first which was almost 16 years ago now.

It obviously wasn’t a planned pregnancy but the thought of my DD having a baby at 18 makes me feel ill and I hope she waits until she’s late 20s at least.

Was yours a planned pregnancy?

Do you wish you had waited until you were a bit older?

Ah it's because she thinks we're all really old and doesn't think we remember what it was like to be 23, you know, years ago!

Why are you being so nasty?
If you are not interested in a thread, then surely you just leave it rather than posing such type of comment?!

Ime 20y is very young to become a first time mum these days. The average is age is a fair bit higher at 29-30y. I have a 22y daughter and I simply couldn't imagine her as a mum to a 2 year old at all, despite her being responsible and sensible, and my own mum having me at just 19y (years ago when the average age was a bit lower.)

As the average age for a first time mum in the UK is 29y, then yes - most people would see becoming a mum at 20y as a 'young mum' obviously. 🤷‍♀️

She’s not saying there’s advice specifically now because she’s young, but for older mums (who even themselves may have had their children young) to see how her experience differs perhaps?

I’m baffling how so many people are not grasping what this thread is about.

my mum had me very young and I know her experiences would probably differ wildly from OPs.

What is the average age to have a child now?

The youngest average age for mums seem to be in the 70s.

How interesting that it used to be much older!

I know when I was born it was normal to be married and have babies by early 20s.

I’m so glad that women don’t feel the need to have them so young or there’s less stigma around wanting to wait (or not have kids at all).

Lots on here always act judgemental towards women who have dc in their early 20s.

I'd had my dc at 21 and 23, both planned. DC1 is not far of turning 13. Not uncommon from where I am from. Even now.

Was yours planned op?

I'm guessing it's due to the Pill - it became easier for women to control the number and timing of children so they didn't just keep going.

I also think it’s young, around my DCs ages and they are nowhere near that stage.
Were you studying or working OP, when you became pregnant?
What are your friends doing? I know of 1 or 2 of my DCs peers who married young (20/22) but no-one they’re friends with, one of DH’s friends is a grandad and his son is around 25 now but none of my friends kids have children or are married (eldest is coming up for 25).