EUPD/BPD

[PinkChampange]

I've noticed a few threads about eupd (emotionally unstable personality disorder) which is also known as borderline personality disorder

My fiancè has been diagnosed with this and I thought if anyone had any questions about being with someone or dealing with someone with it I may (or may not) be able to help.

So as a women whose fiancè has it. AMA. (:

@TheYear2000
Thank you!
I have been in touch with a few private providers and mind re-framed was one of them
Glad to know they were good as its such a minefield to know how to choose.
My DD may get few sessions on the NHS but they won't be anywhere near the full program we will get if we go private
Am glad it worked for you.
Xx

You're welcome @DarkChocHolic and good luck to your daughter and you.
Mind reframed actually also do a course for family members which some of my loved ones did which has been really beneficial to us as a family, although of course that is a significant additional cost. X

@PinkChampange You sound lovely, patient and your partner is lucky to have you.

It must be so frustrating. I frustrate myself! I'm single now because I've wrecked so many relationships.

It will take a hell of a lot of stamina to stay with him. It will be so hard on you. Exhausting. Even my family have told me not to contact them unless I'm telling them something happy and jolly.

DBT is a good suggestion for him but it's not necessarily an answer.

Good luck and I hope you both every happiness.

Thank you for this AMA. it is giving an insight into men who have EUPD (there is fuck all on this out there TBH - it is all biased to women with it).

I hope you are looking after yourself.

It's hard work. I can't lie and sometimes I just want to breakdown myself.
But you know what I love my fiancè and will support him through everything.

We actually had a meeting with a psychiatrist yesterday and even he said the medical professionals are still learning about EUPD.

Apparently very little is still known about the condition. But you're welcome I've tried to be as honest as I can.

And thank you i do my hobbies to keep me focused as well (: x

Hi! My partner also has BPD. Thanks for starting this thread, and thanks to everyone who has been kind and asked questions....
I've seen a lot of judgment and quite nasty comments across the forum from people who have no understanding and no personal experience of this condition. It's nice to see some people would like to learn, or are just genuinly curious about the issues faced.

I really wish more people would just ask, rather than judge negatively based off the stigma attached to this condition. It actually means alot to me to see all these questions!

I have a couple myself....
Has your partner had any therapies, if so which ones has he tried, and were they of any benefit to him?
Were his splitting episodes frequent before the diagnosis/ early days following, and how are they now?

As mentioned above, DBT! It's not something my partner has managed to access himself yet, but if you read up on it, it's meant to be an excellent choice of therapy for BPD with very good results for those who want and actively engage in help.

My inbox is always open if you ever need a chat or a bit of support 🙂