I won the lottery (a few years ago) AMA

[NCuserer]

NC for this as I remained anonymous, which was fairly pointless as I did tell some family and friends and it spread from there.

I’m a bit disappointed that you didn’t help out family more, instead falling out.
I’d rather family were all supported with debts and mortgages paid, and a new car.
Then choose not to keep in touch, but I’d rather people had a helping hand for a change in their lives

I don’t see much to praise here really.

None of us know how OP was treated by her family and to be honest she doesn't have to give anyone anything.

It's all good and well imagining what you would do with £14 million but until your in that situation you don't actually know. It's easy to say you will give away millions when you don't have it.

I think you sound lovely OP, I'm very happy for you

I agree honeyhope I'm not seeing any consideration for anyone else.

I mentioned why buy 50 Mulberry bags and someone else replied because she can. You can do a lot with 14 million including buy a lot of lovely bags but it's very sad that you can't care enough about your nearest and dearest enough to want to share your extremely good fortune.
Earlier the OP said she would prefer to have won less, like most of this thread it doesn't ring true.

Quite easy to obstruficate your circumstances

I agree @YellowFish12. I love to work out schemes of how to give people money anonymously without scaring them into thinking it's a scam.

Now would be the perfect time for me to win a major payout. As executor of DM's estate, I'm just at the point of distributing her estate. Her will split everything between DB and me, but with advice from tax accountant/solicitor we have made a variation.

A major lottery win just about now would give me the perfect excuse to tell people she had instructed me to pay them £xx

A dear friend is going through a very unpleasant divorce. I would love an excuse to give her the equivalent of 50% of their joint assets just to have it all done with. I suppose the issue would be if she then decided to continue the fight for whatever reason I might feel she was ungrateful while she thinks it's only fair that she still hers her share to pass to both her DS

I see how this could be tricky.

If you checked your ticket on the app (might not have been around though when you won) did the winning jingle thing sound different to say when you win a tenner? I imagine it might sound like fanfare of trumpets

I’ve loved this thread. Congrats, OP.

I also want to know what it sounds like on the app when you win.

@3moons

Why did you decide not to give any money to close friends with such a big win? I would imagine many people would dream of a rich friend helping them out with a new car or mortgage.

Cant speak for the OP but for me (and what I am getting from her posts) it would be the expectation. I know that my closest family wouldnt expect a thing but an aunt and three cousins would be at my door with their hands open. And they would be mightily pissed off at not getting a massive payout, so them I would cut off.

However I have friends and family who I absolutely would help but in a practical way rather than in cash. My adult kids would be bought a house each and kept in a trust so that any spouses couldnt claim on it for example. Same with my closest friends.

For me there is a difference between hoping someone would treat you if they got lucky and expecting (as the OP's father did) a massive cheque, not least because those with the highest expectation are usually those who have given the least and taken the most.

Such an interesting thread.

I was once propositioned by a son of lottery winners, just a random middle aged guy we used to speak to in the pub but didn't know as such and knew nothing of his background. One night he asked to speak to me alone, he took me to one side and told me about his parents' lottery win (a few million) then asked me to come and live with him in his very nice house, said that I would want for for nothing - "be treated like a princess" I think his words were - and he wouldn't expect me to "do anything" with him.

I was mortified and said no thanks and he never spoke to me again!

A few weeks later we saw him in the pub again but he totally blanked me. He was with an older woman - not sure if it was his mother or someone who'd accepted his offer of being a kept woman!

Congratulations, I'd love some.
My question is when you discovered you had the numbers how did you manage to mind the ticket until you went to the lottery quarters,was the fear of god not in you that you'd lose the ticket or have someone steal your bag with the ticket in it,how how did you sleep.
Also as you are rich do you be tempted to drink wine at night and eat more.
If I won the lottery I would hire someone to scratch my head all dayand I don't have nits

I’m impressed you recognised the winning numbers from a lucky dip ticket because I struggle to remember if I bought a ticket!
My question is is there anything you wish you had done differently after your win?

Ohh....just remembered was talking at work about "random lottery win luxuries". Not the big things like house/cars/holidays etc but little daft things that you would love to be able to do/have. Mine is having someone come in every day to put clean line dried sheets on my bed!

Did you have any fantasies like that pre-win and did you see them through?

Thank you, OP. Most informative. I'd never realised it could take a couple of months for Camelot to validate and make a payment.

Regarding the scepticism you've got from saying you might sometimes have wished for a smaller win, I recall an interview with a lawyer who worked in the field of advising winners and they said they'd rather win £5m than a larger jackpot as they'd seen the stress that came from a larger win.

Good luck though it seems you're on top of things.

@WTF0ver

Such an interesting thread.

I was once propositioned by a son of lottery winners, just a random middle aged guy we used to speak to in the pub but didn't know as such and knew nothing of his background. One night he asked to speak to me alone, he took me to one side and told me about his parents' lottery win (a few million) then asked me to come and live with him in his very nice house, said that I would want for for nothing - "be treated like a princess" I think his words were - and he wouldn't expect me to "do anything" with him.

I was mortified and said no thanks and he never spoke to me again!

A few weeks later we saw him in the pub again but he totally blanked me. He was with an older woman - not sure if it was his mother or someone who'd accepted his offer of being a kept woman!

Fucking he’ll - just goes to show, money can’t buy class!

@NCuserer

what a wonderful Thread ☺️

Thank you for sharing and you've done the right thing staying anon..

bless you OP 🥂🎉🌸

@Imnothereforthedrama I don't even like handbags, luv. I'm just a bit aghast at that level of self-indulgence.

[quote RadandMad]@Imnothereforthedrama I don't even like handbags, luv. I'm just a bit aghast at that level of self-indulgence.[/quote]

aghast 🤣😂

[quote RadandMad]@Imnothereforthedrama I don't even like handbags, luv. I'm just a bit aghast at that level of self-indulgence.[/quote]
Give over

I've loved reading this thread, OP - congratulations. You sound like you've kept your feet on the ground, yet managed to enjoy some of your money.

I do wonder how you spent that first 24 hours after finding out. Can you describe it? Did you sleep? Could you believe it was real?

Do you come across many gullible people in RL and online?

That’s amazing OP. I know it’s been a while since you won but congratulations.

My questions are what do you do for self care? And do you believe in the law of attraction?

On a side note I’d love to win the lottery! I would invest in a few holiday homes too. That’s a dream for me