I’m an (adult) adoptee - ask me anything

[Iris1600]

Not sure if this thread is interesting or helpful but happy to answer question if so.

No I don’t feel it defines me at all. I was aware of it from time to time when I was growing up but it was a side issue rather than the main event. My parents were my parents and I was extremely close to them - I was heartbroken when they died. But I do feel extremely lucky to have now found my biological family too.

On further reflection, it doesn’t definitely doesn’t define me but it is definitely a part of who I.

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Strange question perhaps but has your brother also sought out his biological parents and has it felt good to have somebody close to you who was also adopted to discuss it with, or was it complicated by not wanting to be disloyal to your/his parents?

This is really interesting OP; thank you for sharing.

I am an intermediary so very familiar to me. I think there is such an important message about taking a long term view, and being patient, with regard to making contact.

So pleased you had good outcomes in the end.

My brother has looked for his birth parents too but very sadly that his birth mother died very young. He hasn’t perused contact with his birth father or half siblings as yet.

Oops sorry about the typos

Thanks lotts33 - I was very grateful for the help of my intermediary. What an interesting job you have!

Thanks iris. I feel very privileged to do the job I do.

Amazing story, I am a birth mum and an adoptive mum.

I came here looking for tips of how to make things very open so my son can feel free to ask me anything.