I got married aged 22 in 2018. AMA!

[Betchetybetch]

I think people sometimes find this a little bit surprising, so AMA!

Why is it surprising?

Not being snarky, but what do you think people would want to ask?

Why is it surprising?

My friends of a similar age to me told me that they were surprised at the time and couldn’t see themselves getting married at that age. I was engaged during the last year of my degree and was married a week after it finished, so I think my family found the timing surprising. None of my older siblings are married and I am the youngest, so I think that was another factor. We are also not religious, and some less close friends assumed that religion was a factor, and were a bit surprised to hear that it wasn’t. I live in the SE and in my experience it is quite unusual, the average age of marriage for a woman in the U.K. is 32, 10 years older than I was at the time.

Not being snarky, but what do you think people would want to ask?

Anything!

Ok. Should I buy the Passat or the BMW?

I got married at 21 👍

Ok. Should I buy the Passat or the BMW?

Passats make me carsick!

I was still a teenager when I got married. My friends weren’t that surprised, but I guess that’s less a reflection on societal expectations and more a reflection on me

That was supposed to be but tea is also a good summary of me as a person

Married at 19 so you were positively ancient in comparison

@Newwayofthinking I got married at 22 in 2015 too.

I am a law graduate and so is DH. We live in London.

However, we couldn't afford to have a fancy wedding and I didn't want a wedding until we bought our London flat. We bought last year and we were going to have the celebrations after the pandemic.

Maybe it’s not me that’s unusual, just the people I know. Fair enough. Hope you all have long and happy marriages!

How long had you been together, why did you choose to get married so quickly, and how on earth did you pay for it!?

@Betchetybetch

We met in 2014, married in 2015. Married because we are an international couple and wanted to live together. Had a civil registry wedding.

We could afford a wedding after we started working but I wanted to buy property first. So we scheduled it in 2020 after we saved up £70K because that was a 15% deposit for a £400K london flat. Bought in 2019 and had £10K in savings for the celebration. My 'wedding celebration' was supposed to be last Sunday. But no idea when that can happen.

@SomeoneElseEntirelyNow oops meant to tag you. But yes people find it weird because I have a new last name and have been married for 5 years but I still haven't celebrated!

How long had you been together, why did you choose to get married so quickly, and how on earth did you pay for it!?

We were together for 5 years when we got married, it’s now coming up for 7 years and our 2nd wedding anniversary is in a few weeks.

We chose to get married because we knew it was right. For me I knew DH was the one more or less immediately, and I know he felt the same. We did it because we couldn’t imagine not doing it. We knew we would eventually, so decided not to wait. At the time we were also imagining that we would try to have children quite early because of a genetic condition I have. Unfortunately that didn’t work out though.

We had a very small wedding! Everything was very low key. My parents helped a little bit, and we paid the rest ourselves.

I'm more interested to learn how a PP saved a deposit for a London flat by the age of 22!

We met in 2014, married in 2015. Married because we are an international couple and wanted to live together. Had a civil registry wedding.

I also had a civil ceremony!

I'm more interested to learn how a PP saved a deposit for a London flat by the age of 22!

So am I!

I got married at 23, coming up for 37 years now. Good luck!

I got married at 23, coming up for 37 years now. Good luck!

Thank you!

I was married at 16

@Tsarboretum I married at 22. I just signed the papers in a civil registry office in Germany (where my DH was doing his masters degree) so we had to get married there. So we were married but no big white dress, no celebration, just me, DH and witnesses. I also changed my name to his.

We returned to London in 2016 (23 and 25) where my DH is from originally and where we met. We moved in with his mother and stayed for 3 years. We both worked and saved, an average of £20k per year. DH had £10k from childhood savings and gap year earnings. That was our deposit. So when we bought last year, I was 27 and DH was 29.

Had you ever lived together alone before?

I married young but also divorced young

Remarried st 32 and so much happier this time around

I think that would be my concern now if I knew family or friends who married young after my experience