I’ve never shouted at my kids - AMA

[woolyyacht]

I have 4 children ranging from 21 to 10 that have never been shouted at by either parent or family members. Ask me anything?

Are you looking for a prize?

Loads of people haven’t shouted at their children . Why do you think anyone would want to ask you about it?

Unless you've been with them 24/7/365 how do you know none of your family members have shouted?

Is your 21 year old a successful adult?

Is it lonely up there on your pedestal?

I've got loads of kids. I never shouted at any of them; the glare was sufficient.

What is there to ask? It's hardly sensational news!

I don't think you are as unusual as you think you are.

Ah, the OP thinks everyone else does shout at their children, so she is something special 😇.

Don’t be daft OP. Parenting advice since the 80s has said no shouting, do you think you were the only one who took any notice?!

Blimey wooly !
Not sure what your aim was there tbh
Nu2u has the POWER OF THE GLAAAAAARE can’t beat that
I’ve had a good old scream at mine on occasion (and I’m a fucking model parent 😁)
Mine have turned out pretty well.
Do you not think that ‘shouting ‘ is perhaps a fact of life and something you need to get used to?
Imagine if you get to 40 without ever having someone shout at you?
You’d shit yourself at the first “OI!!!!!”

how's your first post going, hun?

I'm baffled as to why you think this is so unusual?

To be fair Greeborising the OP did say that her children had not been shouted at by “either parent or family members”. Everyone else in their vicinity may have given them an “Oi” from time to time.

I've only ever whispered at my children. My MiL has to write them notes in iambic parameter. Sometimes she lapses into trochaic metre. Cow.

That’s very true Bunch I’m sure they must have experienced the odd “Oi” tbf
Autumn pentameter! But I know what you mean!
It’s important to get the rhythm right!

I only play the flute in the presence of children. When my own children are 21 I will let them hear the sound of my voice by singing a song yet to be decided but probably something from a Gilbert and Sullivan operetta.

International that sounds absolutely delightful, may I suggest ‘Poor Wandering One’ from Pirates?

If OP is real, then genuinely really I want to know if her adult child(ren) are successful? ie happy, educated, earning, independent?

Because I do shout at my kids, not often, but to instil either urgency to get stuff done, be somewhere, appropriately behave. All of which is to show boundaries and guidance to grow to a happy and successful adult. I would love not to shout, but I’m wondering if you’d get the same output!? I don’t think shouting is ok as a regular parenting technique, but I don’t think it’s awful used rarely.

International

woolyyacht was this a deliberate decision, method of parenting, or...? What was your childhood like?

So they've never been out of your reach, running near a road, out of speaking earshot? Or upstairs playing and dinner's ready? Or ears underwater in the bath? Or running with the dog in a huge park and it's started raining?

Clearly I should have DD's hearing checked.

@MrsTerryPratchett surely if a child runs toward a hazard such as a moving car, the response such be a whispered “please don’t do that”. We are mature after all! 😂

the response such be a whispered “please don’t do that”

OP clearly hasn't met my DD. She'd be dead if I'd never shouted.

But think of the emotional trauma of you raising your voice! How could you do that to her? Honestly, MrsTP, can't you just telepathically tell your daughter what you want?